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Don't want to stay in hospital

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Rosebel · 15/05/2020 00:35

Due to previous c sections and other factors it was decided early on I'd be having a c section this time (in about 6 weeks) but now I don't want to.
I'm not worried about the procedure at all, it's afterwards. My midwife said a lot of mums (who have problem free vaginal births) are not going on the ward and being allowed home after a couple of hours.
I don't want to stay in hospital on my own without any family or even other mums there. I think it's highly unlikely they'll let me leave the hospital within 24 hours of a c section but I don't want to stay there. I asked about a vaginal birth but I've had 2_c sections and the doctor said it's risky for the baby so advised against it.
I know I'm being stupid, completely irrational and there are much bigger worries but if I decide to leave hospital without going to a ward can they stop me?

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ButteryPuffin · 15/05/2020 00:37

What's made you so opposed to staying in overnight this time? Presumably you did with your previous sections?

TrueFriendsStabYouInTheFront · 15/05/2020 00:59

As possible said what has made you not want to now? I think I'd prefer it now if all times as you might actually get some peace and quiet to rest as normal the ward is so loud!

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Rosebel · 15/05/2020 01:06

Well with my previous two I was allowed to have my husband visit and obviously I understand why he can't now but it just makes it feel more lonely. It is also the fact that it can't be all that safe to stay in hospital if they are getting rid of most new mum's and babies a couple of hours after birth.

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Nat6999 · 15/05/2020 01:09

It's not a prison, you can leave whenever you want, they can't stop you, but you won't be able to stand for 6 hours, so realistically it will be evening time if you factor in waiting for your theatre slot, having the section, going to recovery & back on the ward, could you just cope for another 12 hours until the next morning?

LittleBoyJuly2020 · 15/05/2020 01:09

OP I'm due a c-section in July. I'll be discharging myself if me and baby are ok. I'm dreading being there alone too. If all goes well I'm getting out of there asap.

Amanduh · 15/05/2020 02:23

I had a section at 11am on Saturday. DH stayed for the entire time I was in recovery, then had to leave when I went up to the ward. There I ate, showered and cleaned up, fed baby, slept and then woke up the next morning and was discharged. It was brilliant, DH was there plenty of time and the wards were empty and quiet, then we were going home! It really wasn’t bad at all!

LittleBoyJuly2020 · 15/05/2020 07:29

@Nat6999 So technically, if I had my csection at 10am, and all was fine with me and baby, I could leave by 9-10pm?

lauryloo · 15/05/2020 07:39

I had a c section 2 weeks ago and I have to say I was the same and dreading being alone, but it was a nice experience and I had 48 hours bonding alone with my baby

Selfsettling3 · 15/05/2020 08:41

A c section is major surgery so it’s better to stay to ensure you are well. Why do you not want to stay on the ward?

greathat · 15/05/2020 09:35

Just stay 24 hours. It might be a very shit 24 hours but it's not that long in the grand scheme of your life

SquidgyPeach · 15/05/2020 10:01

I can understand the concern but after 24hours there's really no need to keep you there anyways if all is well. I'm due to have my C section 2nd June, my partner can't even come with me as he has to look after our son due to covid.

I was the same a few weeks ago, but I'm quite calm about it now, I'll be aiming to get discharged asap ofcourse and if I feel ok to leave I will discharge myself if needs be. But I'm ok with staying for one night, they're trying to get people discharged quickly anyways so if you're fit enough to leave I'd imagine you'll be home next day.

SquidgyPeach · 15/05/2020 10:05

Just to add a vaginal birth seems worse to me personally, you could be labouring for days which means you may be in hospital for far longer and your partner will only be allowed for 'active' labour which means you run more risk of them not being there.

Also as it would be a VBAC you'd open yourself to more risks and a longer postnatal stay.

CoolNoMore · 15/05/2020 10:20

The lady in the section next to me on the postnatal ward had just had an emergency C-section and was barely speaking, really seemed in a bad way, but her husband was absolutely convinced that she should go home (he was an absolute arsehole). The midwives patiently and repeatedly made their case for her to stay, but ultimately 'let' her go. Other posters are right, it's not a prison. They talked her through the various things she would have to manage and gave her plenty of dressings etc. But yeah, she left pretty swiftly. If you're having a planned C-section you'll be in a much better condition than she was. If that's what you want, I imagine that that's what will happen. Whether or not it's a good idea is entirely your decision when the time comes.

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Rosebel · 15/05/2020 10:50

Thanks for your opinions and nice to hear some positive stories. I'm not sure why I feel this way.
I've been quite calm until now but maybe I've been clinging to the hope things would be normal by the time I gave birth. Now I've accepted they're not so I'm starting to worry.
I had a horrendous first labour which ended in an emergency c section and my daughter not breathing.
I know it shouldn't be so traumatic with a planned c section but I wonder if I'm being a bit emotional and hormonal.

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