Am I being unreasonable...?

[MrsRose2018]

To think that pregnancy (can be) the fucking pits??

I am 30 weeks pregnant and so far I have had:

• SEVER morning sickness
• chronic diarrhoea for the entirety of my first trimester
• bleeding from my back passage due to the chronic diarrhoea

-my waters breaking prematurely (PROM) at 25 weeks

• chronic diarrhoea and stomach cramps due to a two week course of antibiotics due to the PROM
• I’ve not been able to have sex with my husband (or even sort things myself) due to PROM for 5 weeks
• I can’t have a bath (which I LOVE) due to PROM
• my nice low risk midwife led water birth upgraded to a consultant led induction at 37 weeks (if I get that far)
• Symphysis pubis dysfunction meaning I can’t walk or even roll over without chronic pain

AND now, to top it all off, I have Haemorrhoids! In addition to bleeding from my back passage AGAIN I have constant pain and I have to wear a panty liner because I fucking leak poop!

I am so sick of this! I am usually an exceptionally positive person but this is my first pregnancy and I.am.DONE! Pregnancy is shite and I’ve and enough!

And before I enrage any MN keyboard warriors let me start out by saying I struggled to get pregnant in the first leave and suffered have suffered miscarriages so please don’t try and tell me to pose this question to the other forums/women!

I’m fat, I’m miserable and I’m pissed :(

First place*

OH and sciatica! For two weeks my husband had to put my pants on for me because breathing, let alone bending, shot lightning down my lower body

that's a lot for you to go through. Wishing you all the best for the rest. Pregnancy sucks.

Pregnancy is hard hard work! SPD is such a killer as well. You sound like a trooper, I hope your little one is with you sooner rather than later! Xx

Oh no OP you poor thing! You are having it rough aren't you! 😭
I think you have every right to have a whinge and get it off your chest!your DH sounds like a total doll too! Bless him 🥰
Such a shame that not only have you struggled to get pregnant that you have suffered ever since!
I'm not even going to attempt to cheer you up, but I will say you're not alone!
I've done well so far but my poor poor friend went through the ringer with her pregnancy and I had to watch her go through it, so you have my sympathy and big hugs coming your way!
With the piles, as well as a good cream, I would suggest the odd ice cube! Please don't judge until you've tried it 😝 Don't put it inside but rub on where the piles are to ease the soreness and even a cold wet panty liner in between your bum cheeks. Trust me it helps! 👍🏻
Not long left for you now and I genuinely hope that when you have your little bundle in your arms, you will just smile and forget all the crap you're currently experiencing!
🥰🥰🥰

You are having a totally shit time (pun not intended).
Not everyone has it that rough, so you’re well within your rights to vent.
I have nothing of value to say. Just wanted to say you’re amazing, the finish line is in sight! xx

Oh no OP! I've kept up with you along the way and you've always been such a cheery user! I'm so sorry that you've ended up with a shit tonne of symptoms to deal with. I'm also not going to try and give the old 'it will be worth it in the end spiel! It's so annoying' I haven't got half those probs but can reel off a few like chronic heartburn, leaky bladder, round ligament pain so bad I can barely walk anywhere, swollen feet, I've gained 2 stone by 25 weeks and now I can't sleep at all due to achy legs that feel like I've ran a marathon when I've barely got off the couch! It's not all rainbows and unicorns is it! 15 weeks to go 😭

Pregnancy is horrendous. I feel completely blindsided by how much I am struggling with it physically and emotionally and I tell anyone who will listen because I honestly thought it was going to be lovely! Much wanted pregnancy and I am over the moon that in a few months we’ll have a baby- but not ashamed to admit I am not enjoying being pregnant in the slightest!!

Bless you, you've absolutely been through the mill haven't you!
I'm a FTM too and finding pregnancy a lot harder than expected and I've not been through a fraction of what you've been through.
No advice really except to say please take care of yourself, slow down, rest. I'm sure all of this will be worth it when you meet your baby x

Aw hun, I’m sorry, you sound like you’re having a hard time of it. I HATED pregnancy. My ribs were in agony as they were stretching from 14 weeks until 36 weeks when baby finally descended into my pelvis (my bra size went from a 30B before pregnancy to a 34A, still that none 17 months after giving birth, despite my boobs deflating to nothing 🙄). I honestly remember how miserable I was while everyone was telling me to “enjoy it”. Stuff them, a newborn is much more fun than pregnancy and you’re nearly there! Try and take self care in other ways you can enjoy. I’ve head of pregnancy massages but I’ve never had one. Just try to focus on the outcome once you have the baby, in a few months you’ll be so overwhelmed with your baby- through right now you understandably feel like cow pop so be easy on yourself x

Awh thank you for all your funny and kind words! It's was lovely to wake up to! Today is a new day

I had an ugly cry at my husband, for given a cupcake and put to bed 😂 (30 going on 7 clearly... 🙈)

@lockdowpregnancy that for your really amusing and helpful post!! I am going to deffo try all these tips!! My mum is doing a care package drop of panty liners and whitchhazle wipes which apparently are really good!

Offfft this poor boy.. he is never allowed to love another woman more than me! I'll make sure of that 😂😂

@MrsRose2018 glad I made you smile! 😁 I aim to please haha!
I bet you're secretly hoping you go into a labour a couple of weeks early (not too early obviously!) aren't you, so you don't have to endure more than you have to!
Get a blow up donut to sit on too! Take the pressure off your bum when you're sitting down!
I really do hope that you feel better soon and I'm now selfishly praying that none of this happens to me! Lol! 😂😂

Sorry just seen you're being induced at 37 weeks! Thank god for that eh! 😬😬

I'm 21 weeks pregnant with my second and it is hard, I have to say it's been easier for me the second round. Got haemorrhoids again but not painful this time as the first time I had terrible constipation! This time on and off diarrhoea! Also I had a lot of round ligament pain first time but none this time. It's one of those things we just persevere through because the outcome is so amazing! Good luck and hope your symptoms ease

I thought pregnancy was HIDEOUS! I vomited my guts up until about 20 weeks, despite the whole world tell me it would get better in the second trimester..LIES!! I then just looked fat until about 34 weeks, but despite my lack off text book bump I developed the most savage stretch marks all over my belly. She moved constantly and violently and as one point I was sure she’d cracked my rib, I then waited and waited and waited, wadding around with a pelvis I thought would snap at any given second until I was hideously overdue when she finally decided to arrive... on Christmas fucking Eve!

Oh and to add, my first pregnancy was easy breezy and I thought I was good at being pregnant! Every pregnancy is SO different, but after that one.. I’ll stop at 2!

Ahahah this thread is really lifting my spirits!

When I messaged my friend (the only one who has had a baby out of our group) about my...leakage she messaged back saying "babe, I literally peed myself in my kitchen with absolutely no warning! You're fine 💕"

I was just getting exhausted with everyone telling me how "they really enjoyed being pregnant" and "they miss it" and how "worth it" it will all be!

The first two sound like bull shit and the latter - obviously! I know once my boy comes out all this will be a distant memory but unless this kid is really awesome, bollocks to doing this again 😂

The other week I leaned forward to pick my glasses up and felt water splash on my feet, I was looking around everywhere thinking the ceiling was leaking or something and couldn't for the life of me figure out where it came from. The next time I went to the toilet my pants were soaking, I had peed myself, I hadn't even felt it come out! 🤣🤷🏽‍♀️ thank got I was at home and not at work I would have died of shame! @MrsRose2018