Moving with a new born

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Hi all, I am probably over thinking and worrying too much about things as this lockdown has heightened everyone’s emotions. Just before the lockdown me and my partner put an offer in on our family home, we would have been moved in and settled by now but we haven’t even managed to have the survey done on our house for the people moving into ours. With the lock down slowing easing I am getting every stressed that I will be moving with a new born and the not knowing of when things will go ahead or how I am getting extremely anxious. I am due the end of June. Has anyone else been in a similar position?

Try not to worry about it.

When you're near the point of deciding on dates just work it as best you can around your dates.

Other than any pain from the birth (which you might not even have - not everyone does) moving with a newborn really is no bother.

Personally I wouldn't buy anything (cot/buggy/etc) until it was needed. I'd get the car seat sorted though!

Try to look forward and plan nice things for the new baby & the new house. 🏡 👶

Enjoy 🌷

It is probably worth assuming you will be out of action and just plan for you being childcare/making cups of tea. That way you can plan to get more help and not feel completely overwhelmed if you are trying to breastfeed a small child and pack boxes at the same time!

We are waiting for our new build house to be completed and due to covid19 closing our site down, we will now be moving with a new born. We completed on our old house and have moved in with family for the time being so most of our house is in storage. I guess we will be in the position now to move in slowly and don't have to do it all in one day but organisation will be key so whoever is moving the boxes etc know which box goes into which room. I'm hoping the kitchen boxes come in first and I can start unpacking with baby near me and out of the way. And we will hopefully have friends helping us who will be more than happy for baby cuddles if I really need to go and do something in another room. Obviously restrictions depending.

Thanks all, feel a lot less stressed now, just hope by the time we get round to it we are able to have the help we need from family and restrictions have been lifted again

I'm exactly the same position. Surveys etc haven't been done and we are expecting twins in August, highly likely they'll be early too. We currently live in a 2 bed first floor apartment, HOWEVER while less than ideal we have a roof over our head. What will be will be! It's taken me 4 weeks to feel this calm about it. Family will all help when it comes to moving!

Don't stress over things that are out of your control!

We moved when DS was 3 months old, and that included putting all our stuff into storage and living in DH’s old bedroom for 2 weeks! It was fine.

I did it with a three week old second child. It worked but only because we got a lot of other people involved. It helped doing it at that age because the baby slept a lot and easily.

@Bubble29 best of luck to you, I’m hoping with the announcements that have been made this evening that things will get moving and we will know a bit more.

A bit of a silly question for anyone that’s moved house before but does it take long to move?

We moved four weeks before DS1 arrived, and the best advice I was given (and took) was to pay someone to pack up all your stuff. It was £300 (London prices though) and he managed all our junk in a day. He provided all the bubblewrap etc and was far more conscientious than I would have been! The moving van then arrived at 8 on move day and everything was out and in our new place by 12.

If you are able, definitely spend money to make the stress go away. You can also plan quite a lot now - make a list for each room with what furniture should go in there, pref with a floorplan. Have copies to spare. Make lists, including a 'must have access to this box' box. Make sure everything that you want to happen is written down somewhere and then walk away on the day, leaving it all to Someone Else. Good luck!

We moved with a 4 week old baby; stayed with ILs for the Christmas week and then on to new rented property for DH tio start job in new area on 2/1 . It was fine. I must admit I did very little in terms of big jobs but unpacked boxes . Tiny babies need very little and are super portable so that side of things was easy. We did quite a lot of visiting and entertaining before moving and of course DH was working so it was a busy time but completely doable.

Thanks for the wonderful advice and reassurance.
@CoolNoMore will definitely be making sure I get a plan done and organised before we move.

Just a quick question for anyone, how was it when you got the date to move after both surveys were done on the house’s?

It sounds obvious, OP, but I didn't and people were CONSTANTLY asking me questions on the day, which was a bit intense.

It will depend what the survey brings up. Both times when we were moving it took over five months, but this was because illegal work had been done and there was legal wrangling to do. If you want it to be quick, give your lawyers a firm date to work to and keep in close contact with them, gently pressuring them to do what needs to be done. They shouldn't be too busy in the current climate, so that's one thing that could work in your favour at least!