First trimester struggles

[Yorkshirelass251]

Hi all - this is my first post so please be kind

I'm currently pregnant for the first time - according to my dates, I should be 9 weeks today but the private scan I had on Thursday measures me at 8+3.

I am over the moon to be pregnant. This is a much longed for baby and hearing that there was a baby with a beating heart at the scan was magical.

I'm just finding this so much harder than I thought. I feel sick all the time, it wakes me up for hours at a time during the night. I am so tired and lacking energy. To the point where I might be on the sofa and feeling thirsty but it takes me ages to build up the energy to get up and go to the kitchen! I am not enjoying food any more and the smell of the spray we use for the kitchen worktops makes me retch. My DH has been wonderful but I feel so lazy. I usually run 3 times a week and have been finding that nearly impossible too.

Sorry for the negative, whingy post. I know I'm lucky compared to some and I don't know how people cope with this if they already have a child to look after or to go out to work. I'm currently working from home which is helping. I'm just finding it so hard at the moment.

I don't know if it would be helpful or not for me to tell you that this is normal.

First trimester tiredness is bone- crushing, and losing enjoyment in food is miserable too.

Imo the best way is to roll with it. Carry a massive water bottle, put your feet up, stop using that kitchen spray.

The vast majority of people feel much better after the first trimester, so you've only got a few weeks to go. You can do it. Everything in pregnancy is temporary.

I completely feel you. I was 9 weeks yesterday and I've been struggling too. I've been lucky with no sickness but I'm finding it hard to get up and do anything. Also working from home and even finding it hard to get through my normal day.

Although there's nothing we can do, at least we are nearer the point where symptoms may start easing down. I've heard the 2nd trimester is a new lease of life so let's keep our fingers crossed!

First trimester just sucks I’m afraid. unfortunately most of us only discover how much it sucks when we do it ourselves, as a lot of people don’t really talk about their first trimester struggles because they don’t want to tell people they’re pregnant yet. It’s perfectly normal and acceptable to feel over the moon at being pregnant but to also just feel miserable, exhausted, nauseated, burpy, constipated, bloated, generally grumpy... :) it’ll probably get better from around 12 weeks, maybe a wee bit earlier. (Then you’ll get a pleasant interlude before feeling like a beached whale from any time after 30 weeks). Congratulations!

I think I could've written your post OP! First trimester is really something else so be kind to yourself - have a nice shower, watch rubbish on tv, eat what you can stomach and change the kitchen spray! It does get better though... I'm now almost 14 weeks and the tiredness is much better (not gone but so much better), I have more energy, the sickness has gone and I only seem to have an hour or so before bed where I feel as though it's a struggle. You're nearly there xx

Thank you all for your replies. I can't wait to be out of the first trimester! I think I feel guilty for feeling like this when I know it's something I desperately wanted, so it's reassuring to hear others feel the same.

It makes it harder not having anyone to talk to about it (other than DH) as we've chosen not to tell anyone until the 12 week scan, just in case.

A doctor once told me that for most women the worst of the nausea is around 9 weeks, after that it gets better (or less bad ). For me it's true.

For now, just eat what you can and try not to give yourself a hard time over it. Even if it’s a diet of white toast and biscuits.
Nap when you can (the one good thing about lockdown is daytime naps!)
Just remember there is a light at the end of the tunnel, I started feeling much better at 10 weeks. Every woman is different, but hopefully you’ll feel more like yourself soon xxx

Snap, I was running 2-3 times a week before, I'm now 26 weeks and I have managed to go running twice.
Pregnancy sickness and fatigue gave me a kicking in the first trimester. Fatigue has stayed throughout my second trimester it has lifted a bit and in good days I can manage some YouTube prenatal exercise videos.
I had these big ideas of being able to keep up my usual activity levels but I have had to accept that some days my world is confined to sofa and to make the most of days when it's not.