Terrified of MMC

[Loz1093]

Morning all! I'm now on my 6th week (according to my calculations) I've got a phone call tomorrow with the midwife which is the first contact since finding out I'm pregnant. I'm just wondering if anyone else is scared they will get to the 12 week scan and find out they've had a MMC? I'm thinking of doing a clear blue digital week pregnancy test, but does anyone see the point? 🤞🏼

Hey. I am very scared of a MMC. I had one in my last pregnancy and it was every bit as horrible as I might have imagined. In my experience nothing you can do makes any difference. I had two scans at 7 and 8 weeks - both showed a heartbeat. This time I’m not doing anything. I did one digi and have left it at that.

If you don’t have a history of MC (I do) then your chances of a MMC are low. I think they are just disproportionately represented on here because ladies like me come on to talk about our experiences. There is a very good chance you will see a happy bouncing bean at your booking scan. If you really need reassurance then book a private scan for 8 wks - after this stage the odds of miscarriage hugely decrease (despite my experience).

The best advice I’ve ever had is you are pregnant today. Enjoy each day of the experience and try not to worry about the future. Wishing you a happy healthy 9 months.

I am the same OP - it really concerns me. I have my first appointment with the midwife today so I’m going to speak to her about it. I’ll let you know if she has any advice.

I'm with you!
I've had 3 MMC and one spontaneous MC over the past 4 years. I'm now 11 weeks but my last scan was at 9 weeks so I have no idea if baby is okay or not and it fries my brain. I've a scan today and absolutely crapping myself.

Due to the number of threads I've seen on MN (including one I posted myself), I think this is completely normal for mums to be.
I was freaking out in the first trimester and ended up getting an early scan for reassurance. That was great, but I still convinced myself I'd had a MMC after that.
I get scan anxiety before every single scan (I've had 6 and am 26+4) even though I've never had any indication that something is wrong.
I'm still anxious now about going into labour early and stillbirth. I'm ridiculous lol.

Thank you, thank you, thank you ladies. I think I will leave off doing another test and just sit this out until 12 weeks.. I've got this! This is just the support I was after. Happy Monday all X

Yes - I’m terrified of having a missed miscarriage because all my pregnancies have ended this way.

To answer you question about tests - it’s not worth taking them. They won’t tell you if you have had a missed miscarriage as your body continues to produce the pregnancy hormone.l with a mmc. It’s why you can still have symptoms. I didn’t get a negative test until 6 weeks after my d&c from my first mmc.

Hi again OP!

I had a good chat about this with my midwife this morning. She said that it’s not impossible to have a MMC and only find out at the 12 week scan, but it’s not very usual and if there has been no bleeding (enough to need a pad, rather than just spotting when you wipe) or bad cramping, it’s not very likely. She was very reassuring and made me feel a lot better.

Oh that's brilliant!! Very reassuring, I'll let my midwife know how I feel tomorrow when she calls, but I know I'm not the only one feeling this way, nor will I be the last x

Thanks for this post. Im 5 weeks and noticing similar thoughts popping into my mind. Trying not to stress. Just aware of other's experiences have put that worry into my mind. But will need notice it and let it go and hope for the best!

Definitely talk to your midwife.

I just wanted to add that both myself and my best friend had what is classed as a MMC but we’d both had signs before hand.

My friend had had a bit of bleeding at 8 weeks but brushed it off as nothing and didn’t bother mentioning it to MW. She then had a heavy bleed at 11 weeks, she was scanned and baby had died around 6-7 weeks. She also said that her symptoms never really developed and she didn’t feel pregnant at all.

I had a MMC with bleeding at 6-7 weeks, all ok at early scan. Had further bleeding and a reduction of symptoms at 10 weeks as well as awful backache. Went back for another scan and baby had died at 9+3.

Don’t get me wrong, there will be women who haven’t had any bleeding/reduction of symptoms etc and go to their scan to be told no HB can be detected but I think this must be very infrequent. There will be a lot of ladies, like myself who refer to it as a MMC but did have some sort of inclination of what was to come. Having said that there are many woman who have no symptoms/vague symptoms and bleeding who go on to have perfectly healthy babies.

I think you’ve got to remember that the odds are hugely in your favour!

Sorry to hear for your loss, yet thank you for taking the time to explain your story and giving me confidence to speak with MW tomorrow x

@Loz1093 I’m exactly the same, second pregnancy here. I had an early scan in my first pregnancy but have just waited it out with this one. I think Mumsnet makes it feel a lot more common as pp said it’s where people come for support when you get bad news. I’ve found I’ve worried less as I get closer to my scan date, maybe just knowing I’ll find out soon has helped? Wishing you lots of luck with your pregnancy. X

Hi op,

I experienced a mmc in 2017, I went for my 12 week scan to find there was no heartbeat. It was horrendous. But so so rare, and I'm now 28+6 with a healthy baby boy.

Try not worry too much, the likelihood is so slim you would have to be one of the very very unlucky ones😊

I worried about that too and thought it'd get easier when I felt baby move around and I knew it was ok... But actually it's almost worse because then you spend your days worrying about whether baby is moving too much, or not enough, etc.

In the end I found I'm happiest when I don't think about it at all, as otherwise I'm nervous and anxious and that makes no difference to the outcome anyway.

I think it’s normal to be worried. I’m now 17+3 and my 12w scan MMC worries have been replaced by my 20w scan MMC worries!