I have lost my baby at 4 days old 2 months back. The post mortem is done and hospital funeral will be with in 2-3 weeks time. In our custom/religion ladies will not attend the burial/cremation. But I am not religious. However I have mixed feelings to...

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I have lost my baby at 4 days old 2 months back. The post mortem is done and hospital funeral will be with in 2-3 weeks time. In our custom/religion ladies will not attend the burial/cremation. But I am not religious. However I have mixed feelings to see her again. If you had similar experience please help. Thanks

I know people have regretted not seeing their child because it's hard. It's understandable. But she's your baby, don't live with regrets. You grew her inside you and you owe her that much as her mother. You won't forget her. But do you want to remember the fact that you didn't see her before she was buried or that you did. My mother in law was robbed of the chance to see her baby because she was unconscious for a few days and she tears up every time she remembers. Atleast you have that chance. But it's totally upto you. They say our children who we have lost will come and hold our hands to bring us into paradise. They will plead with God. I also think the dead can hear us. Why not tell her you love her. She's you baby after all. Know that she's in a happy place. You've lost her here but she'll be waiting for you....

I'm sorry if this is what you didn't want to hear. I can't imagine what your going through. I had a miscarriage last week and I'd do anything to have held him/her in my hands and told them I love them and I'd be hoping to meet them one day... and to wait for me....it's hard but they are our babies after all. Motherly instincts kick in...