Pregnant and scared

[ClaireP81]

Hi. Me and my husband have been discussing having a baby for 2 years. We had some difficulty, but now I've found out I'm pregnant. And I can't stop crying. Is this normal? Every scenario is whizzing in my head - from how will my body cope, to what if I don't love my baby, to how will they cope at high school. I've never been super maternal and I worry that perhaps this is all a mistake and I'm not cut out for this. My husband has been reassuring, but now there is overwhelming guilt that I am ruining this for him. I'm 38 so this is a relatively late baby too, and I feel like I should be ready for this! I woke up imagining driving myself and my future baby off a bridge because I can't cope - I feel so ashamed writing that. My brain feels full and completely overwhelmed. Am I alone? Is this normal? My friends have always been so sure of having a family and I feel I can't talk to them as they just won't understand. Thank you x

Hey! Aw don't feel bad. I cried too. It's overwhelming! But if there is one thing your body was made for it was to nourish and care for this baby. Eventually you'll get over how you're feeling now and as soon as you let your body take control you'll feel better. How far along are you? As your pregnancy progresses all of the lovely hormones will start to be released and that should take the edge off how you're feeling too. It'll be okay. Here to help xxx

Please try not to worry. All these emotions are natural. It sounds like you're getting overwhelmed!
Forget high school etc!
I had hardly ever even held a baby before I had my son, but when he was born I just knew how to do it. It's different when it's your own. All these maternal feelings will kick in!

Don't worry...You will feel more in control over time X

I felt the same when I found out...I didn't really want to take the test and when I did my brain kicked in and I wasn't outwardly excited. I was really scared about how I would cope and whether I could do it...And even the birth!! I'm still feeling like this to be honest but the dread is easing off

Thank you for reading and replying. I'm only 5 weeks down the line. I know I've always been scared of change and I guess this is the biggest change. I just imagined doing the test and it being positive and then feeling elated, rather than feeling a bit empty and sad.

Hi, Just wondering how things worked out for you!
1 am just 5 weeks + feeling so overwhelmed, Scared, Stressed + Negative about being pregnant!

I had these worries too, just to say, in my case, when my baby came they all went away. I was just worried then about her catching covid instead! Honestly though it’s absolutely terrifying when it becomes a reality over a desire to become pregnant. I bet you will do great though. I didn’t really get excited until nearer my due date, I was so worried the whole way through. Don’t let it ruin your pregnancy though, I wish I had enjoyed that time more than I did.

Thanks xx I think I'm so stressed as I have a bit of debt so my worry is gtg as much paid off as I can vegore my salary takes a cut, I also feel so guilty that I'm not jumping for join when it is a blessing to be pregnant, but I can't get past past fear and anxiety just yet. But Im sure the happiness will come in time

Just wanted to say I felt very similar with my first, wed been trying and everything but it happened first cycle which was a shock. I took the test and burst into tears. Reality dawned and I suddenly realised my life as I knew it was over (it wasn't I was being dramatic but it was a massive change). Wasn't sure how I'd cope, how good a mum I'd be. I was worried about all the life changes I'd need to make. From drinking to holidays (covid meant that the holiday changed would have happened anyway). Then of course was the guilt for feeling these things. It got better once I got used to the idea and most importantly once I'd given myself a break! My first is 3 now and I've just found out I'm expecting my second and while there was an element of argh (happened first cyle again) I feel much calmer because I know from experience it will pass. Congratulations, try not to be hard on yourself its perfectly normal to feel like this, its a big life change!