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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

18 weeks, worrying but hopeful (long post sorry)

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Mum1607 · 08/05/2020 19:05

This pregnancy has been constant anxiety and I need advice. I'm 18 weeks and 4 days with my second child and been bleeding through most of the pregnancy. I took a positive test on the 27th of jan, my lmp implied I should've been about 9/10 weeks. Booked in for a private scan to find baby had no heartbeat and was too small top measure (miscarriage suspected but not confirmed) A few days later I began to bleed heavily and was sent to epu for ultrasound, heartbeat was seen and baby measured about 6 weeks! Was told the bleed had came from outside the womb and would likely resolve itself, I bled on and off for a few weeks then stopped. Fast forward to the 7th of March and I had another very heavy bleed during the night which kept on bright red for a few weeks. was send for 2 scans about a week apart, both times no cause of bleeding was found and baby seems fine again. Another few weeks to by and I had a very heavy bleed filling multiple pad and passed a clot but was told I can't get another scan (understandable given the lockdown) I have my anomaly scan on the 19th, but I'm terrified I'll go in to find out we've lost the baby, I was thinking of phoning in advance to tell them so they can be "respectful" just incase. With my first son they scan was very upbeat and "let's see how big baby is" unlike the nature of reassurance scans which are more reserved until baby is seen healthy. baby will probably be fine given it has been every other time but I can't help worry, I've been waiting for a while now to find out if I've lost it which has been hard. I know its normal not too but I was alsp hoping to feel movement by now to reassure me but nothing.. not a sign of anything bad or good :/ I've posted on countless forums but I guess I'm still not satisfied that baby is okay. I'm struggling to get advice because everyone keeps telling me to go for a scan which I can't do.. post was more of a vent but I'd like to hear if anyone has been through it good or bad.

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GaaaaarlicBread · 08/05/2020 19:14

Hi OP, how awful that they can’t scan you since your last bleed but I do understand why with the current climate but I still would’ve thought they would see you after that and clots but I’m so glad to see you’re feeling hopefully . I had one of those bleeds seen on a scan but it seemed to re-submerge itself back into my womb without coming out but a friend of mine had the exact same experience as you and at 18 weeks had a huge bleed with clots , filling pads every half hour. Eventually got seen and baby was a strong little one with a heart beating away. She bled from 6 weeks up until about 24 weeks and then it stopped . So that’s some hope for you , her daughter is a lively 2 year old now! Good luck 💐 it sounds like you have a strong little one in there x

Doyouwantanothercuppa · 08/05/2020 19:14

I really feel for you. My bleeding started later (about 21 weeks) and was continuous throughout the pregnancy.
If all looks well on the scan, they will start to take this a lot more seriously from 23 weeks. Be prepared for lengthy hospital stays. No discharge from hospital until 24hrs clear of fresh red blood. It was caused by placental abruption, which showed on a scan at 23 weeks.
I hope it goes well for you. (DD is currently asleep in my arms, the picture of health, so don’t give up hope)

October2020 · 08/05/2020 19:18

Really sorry to hear you're having awful bleeding. I bled a lot until 13 weeks and it was terrifying.

Did you have your 12 week scan? Was all okay then?

If I were you, I would find a private scanning clinic and pay for a scan privately. Not least because if you have lost the baby (god forbid) you may well need some medical support.

Mum1607 · 08/05/2020 20:10

Thank you everyone for your replies, they are very reassuring and im sorry to hear about all of your bleeda, its a very scary time indeed but glad you all came out of it with good news :) I'm not sure how to reply to you each individually so I'll do it here.
I have had my 13 week and everything was fine, but no sign of what caused bleeding that time unlike earlier scan. I can't get a private one as all the clinics are shut near me:( The closest one open is over 2 hour drive and I don't have a car so it's very unlikely I could get there.
I also thought given the clots they may scan me but since I've been in no pain they don't seem worried but that isn't reassuring to me, I have a high pain tolerance as is and have heard of many problems that don't result in pain

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Pinkpepper9 · 08/05/2020 22:34

Hey!

I’m also 18 weeks and have bled throughout this pregnancy without any pain. I’m really hoping for the best, my scan isn’t for another few weeks and the hospital wouldn’t see me due to the current climate. You’ve come so far, not long until your next scan and hopefully you’ll have peace of mind. The fact your 12 week scan went well and have no pain are great signs. I know exactly what you’re going through, it’s horrible not knowing.

Mum1607 · 09/05/2020 10:08

@pinkpepper9 Hey thanks for replying. sorry to hear you're in the same situation, it's so nerve wracking and just depressing tbh. Despite that it's good to know I'm not alone going through this. I've phoned midwife this morning and she wants to send me to the hospital later for another anti d jag and testing, I'm not sure what that will be though if anyone can explain? I'm hoping they will do a doppler or something too so I can maybe hear babies heartbeat and get some reassurance. I'll let yous know though what happens and once again thankyou all for the replies it's really reassuring to read

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Doyouwantanothercuppa · 09/05/2020 12:41

I used to go in for regular anti D jabs (hate needles!) and they would always listen for baby’s heartbeat.
Not sure what tests they would run, but they did take some bloods (just from my arm) and they were able to check baby’s blood type to see if the anti D was actually necessary. If baby’s blood type was the same as mine then I wouldn’t have needed any further anti D. Typically it was not the same so more needles! My consultant ended up saying I only needed anti D every 14 days because my levels were so high due to the number of jabs I was having.

Doyouwantanothercuppa · 09/05/2020 12:41

Gosh writing that down is bringing it all back!! It was such an awful time. Take care of yourself OP.

UrsulaSings · 09/05/2020 12:46

Let us know how you get on. Hope they listen to babys heart beat for you x

Mum1607 · 10/05/2020 08:48

Sorry for the late update guys my son has been driving me up the walls all day yesterday lol. Everything is looking very good!! They did a doppler fiest so I could hear babies heartbear which I almost cried cause I just wasn't especting it. checked my cervix and found no cause to the bleeding but some active flow so I got given an ultrasound to check my placenta over (posterior and tucked out the way so hopefully no concern) but I also got a lovely little surprise when at the ultrasound and found out babies gender!! I won't post it hear on the rare chance someone who knows me sees this post and doesn't know yet lol! But I am very happy I got seen and its finally all put my mind at ease. Baby is developing very well and it was so reassuring getting to see blood flow through the cord and everything! Really puts my mind at ease that baby is strong and healthy :) Thank you again everyone for your support and I hope someone in the same situation can get some reassurance reading this too xx

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wishing3 · 10/05/2020 09:02

Really pleased for you! xx

Doyouwantanothercuppa · 10/05/2020 14:40

Excellent Smile

Pinkpepper9 · 10/05/2020 17:32

Brilliant news!

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