Is it all doom and gloom?

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In need of a little reassurance.
FTM and just had my 16 week telephone appointment, I have a raised BMI, and I understand that she needs to explain the risks associated - plus I have read up on it myself, but it all seemed very negative and I now I can't help but think that I'm going to have the worst birthing experience in the world.
Other than raised BMI, and controlled allergy related asthma, I'm generally healthy, fairly active and blood pressure etc has always been perfect.
Also, I do understand that these things can happen to anyone but there seemed to be a list as long as my leg of what could go tits up because of my BMI.
Anyone have any positive experience giving birth with a high BMI to try and outweigh the horror story I've just heard?

I have a high BMI I was told 33 at my booking in appointment I wasn't told any horror storys I was just put on 75mg of aspirin and from 28 weeks I've had to inject myself to thin my blood to prevent any blood clots I'm not 34 weeks and I've not been told anything regarding my high BMI

*im now 34 weeks

I have a BMI of about 32. I had an emcs with DS1 (nothing to do with my weight, baby was distressed). It was fine, recovered with no problems.

I had an elcs with DS2 again all fine and no major issues with recovery.

Was the phonecall with a consultant OP? As a midwife I probably wouldn’t even check a woman’s BMI before doing her 16 week phonecall!

I have had three children and a high bmi for all of them. Never once was it mentioned and I had healthy pregnancy and baby. I am now 22 weeks with my fourth, again have a high bmi but the only thing mentioned was I would need to glucose test to ensure I don’t get diabetes.

Its good to know that people with a high BMI can and often do have healthy pregnancies and babies.
It was a specialist midwife on behalf of the consultant. It just seemed a lot of the conversation was "this could go wrong", "that could happen" and "we may need to do this" during and after the birth, even to the point of saying that they may find a canula or bloods difficult to do because of it!! Like I have too much fat around me and my veins are buried deep within my body!
As I said, I appreciate that they may have to tell you these things but it was a lot of doom for so early on and all in one go. I did make a point of saying I'd worked hard to get where I am now from what I was and was very physically active before pregnancy and spending so much time at home - her tone did change somewhat after that.
As a natural worrier it just wasn't a particularly helpful, or pleasant, conversation

I also have a high BMI. In my opinion the midwife doesn’t need to tell you the risks associated with high BMI, they should only be explaining why you will need a GTT, aspirin and extra scans (if you need them!)
If a midwife made me feel bad about my weight, or nervous about my pregnancy ahead I would be pulling her up on it. Everyone deserves respect at any size. xx