Just dont feel as excited as I should

[xkjl1x]

So I'm 14 weeks i have my scan the other day just feeling overwhelmed.i sort was expecting them to tell me there was a problem with baby or I was pregnant but everything fine apart from my blood pressure.
My partner and his family mega excited as we been trying for years. My family only my mum knows as lockdown happened and i moved back home as my partner is still working.
I just feel like I'm expected to be bouncing around the place when I really not.
We was in the middle looking for a new house but that stopped at the moment, his family dropping baby stuff off at our flat which I know sounds ungrateful but I not got anything yet as I still feel it too early. Plus I don't actually know what I need to get yet as I'm still trying to work everything out in my head.
I try telling my partner but this his second child and my first so I just feel like I know nothing compared to him.
I know it early days and not being together doesn't help but I just feel like everything happening at once and this not my life anymore.
I just feeling the end of the line at the moment. I thought things would be different after trying for 10 years and I do want this baby i just feel miserable at the moment.

It's probably the current situation and all the uncertainty about when things will go back to normal and what the future looks like making you feel like that. I'm pregnant with number 2 and really happy but find I'm not picturing my early days with baby or planning the nursery in the same way I did with number 1, just because everything is so in limbo right now. If you're living apart from your partner that adds another change from the norm. Hopefully as lockdown eases and you can get out and start planning you'll feel more in control of things?

I am currently pregnant with number 2.

I fee exactly the same way, I don’t feel that rush of excitement as before and I’m in kind of a limbo we’re I don’t want to buy anything as I feel like something is going to go wrong (I’m 15 and a half weeks).
Just hang in there, your not alone in how your feeling. I think I’m going to talk to my midwife at my 16 week telephone appointment and she if she can ease how I am feeling.

I'm hoping once we ge out of lockdown things will become better.
I just feel alone everyone so happy about this baby but I'm just sat her worrying all the time.

There's no 'should' about how you feel...

In my experience some of these things get built up so much to be 'the' moment when really they're more of a process.

I wasn't bouncing off the walls excited when I was pregnant (was pretty nervous after a previous loss) but as time went I realised I was really looking forward to meeting my baby.

My parents, on the other hand were out of this world excited and it was too much and quite annoying so I know how you feel about your in laws!

Take it day by day, don't worry about how you 'should' feel, and if you continue to feel down, speak to your midwife

One thing that really surprised me about pregnancy is how little actually happens, most of the time you're just waiting around, growing the baby! If I hadn't had the anxiety of the pre- 12 week phase followed by the anxiety of the build up to the 20 week scan I definitely would have felt a bit listless I think. Since 20 weeks and now I can feel baby move around and can start to plan etc it's much more exciting

Even without doing it in lockdown, I found the bit between 12 and 20 weeks the hardest, as I was either constantly worrying something was wrong or I just didn’t feel pregnant at all.
Now I’m nearly 39 weeks and am feeling a whole new level of anxious. Others are really excited about him being here soon and I’m just scared; most of the time I can’t quite bring myself to be excited yet.

As others have said, there is no “right way” to be feeling now. Definitely speak to your midwife about your concerns, but also your OH. He may have done this before, but not in a pandemic and you haven’t at all, so he needs to listen to you.
It is also pretty early for family to be buying stuff, especially as you don’t know what you want yet (we didn’t start buying anything until 20+ weeks and only after we’d done research on what we really needed), so I’d ask them to stop for a while. Pregnancy can be overwhelming at the best of times (especially as you’ve been trying for so long), but it will get better. Just keep talking x

Thank you x
I feel bad for feeling like this as I know everyone happy for me.
Maybe things will be better when I can go back home.
With this being my first baby I just feel like i have no enjoyment at the moment.
My partner wants to buy stuff and all that jazz while I'm not intrested I think we shoukd wait till 20 week scan.
He keeps telling me everything fine and this farthest we ever got but my heart doesn't want to yet.
I know he had a child before and I get where he coming from that we getting prepared but my head not in it yet x

@xkjl1x I feel similar, my husband and I have spent 6 years TTC and this is our first pregnancy following IVF treatment. I'm massively happy that it worked but even though I've had my 12 week scan I still don't feel like it's happening to me, seeing the baby on the screen was great but I can't make the link with it actually being inside me, I know it is but I just dont feel it. I think it's partly because I have spent years not being pregnant I don't think my head is on board with the fact something has changed. I'm hoping like the others have said, as we get further along it will seem more real and we can get more excited about it all. I know lockdown has taken it's toll on me too, not being able to tell a soul about the pregnancy in person has been really hard. I really hope things start to get better for you but know that you are definitely not alone in feeling a bit lost with it all.

Honestly, there is no normal that we should feel. I'm over the 30 week mark on first pregnancy, baby very much wanted and will be loved but I couldn't understand how powerless and sad I felt when I found out I was pregnant. All I could think was that we were making a terrible decision and I had no control over my life.
I'm looking forward to meeting baby and have adjusted mentally (somewhat!) to the idea of being a parent now that I'm in third trimester but I spent whole of first trimester thinking something would go wrong and most of second also expecting something to go wrong. I couldn't understand how I felt so sad and unsure about something which was supposed to be happy (and we had actually planned!) but I think that the societal expectations of fluffy clouds and unicorns really contributed to my confusion.
I suppose basically what I'm trying to say is your feelings are normal - never even mind with all of the craziness of Covid-19 too! However, if it all starts to feel too much, do have a chat with someone for your own sake x

Hi I’m 6 weeks with my first and feel exactly the same as you. I feel anxious scared by no means excited or even happy and I feel really guilty about that. I’m just trying to tell myself it’s normal To feel like that and everything is so strange with lockdown at the moment hopefully things get better x

Thank gosh it not just me.
It so hard to get head around it I think i might just need to chill out abit.
Hopefully it won't be too long now.
Hoping the next scan might be better experience just feel like in scared to ask or say anything when there. Pluss i not met the midwife at doctors yet just to have chat about me feeling silly.
Thank you everyone made me feel little less stupid x