18 weeks - not feeling like I should

[MonkeySwing]

Hiya - I’m 43 and expecting 1st baby with boyfriend of 2 years. I always thought I would have a baby but it never happened. Now it has and I’m not feeling that happy and excited feeling I thought I would.

My boyfriend is terrified too but trying to be supportive.

I don’t know what to do. I’m worried about money, our relationship, having enough room, Covid 19, the baby being disabled.

I feel like I’ve made a mistake - why can’t I feel like everyone else.

Anyone felt similar?

Heya lovely,

I think everything you have said is completely normal. Hormones can make you feel completely crap sometimes and make you question your choices. It'll be the best thing you do! You and your partner will make it work!

I felt extremely low in the 1st trimester, like I'd made a huge mistake... now I'm really looking forward to the future I feel like I've started to bond with baby.

In regards to you have a baby with disabilities... please dont work yourself up about this. Millions of women your age and older have no complications and go on to have extremely healthy babies! You will make great parents however testing it will be!

Keep your chin up ❤

Thanks Laurabry - reading that made me feel a bit tearful (with relief). I think that was just what I needed to hear. X

Sometimes us pregnant women just need abit of reassurance!

Once you see your beautiful little boy or girl on that screen In a few weeks time it will help and all make sense.

Your doing a great job! ❤

I think the hormones and the changes can make most women feel like that at some stage, I'm 20 weeks and have spent the last two weeks feeling guilty for the change to DDs life it's going to cause, and how she might struggle not having us to herself

Please don't be hard on yourself, the added stress right now will be making it all feel worse too