Unsure what to do.

[nellie22]

Hi,
I am hoping for some advice, I found out today I am 1-2 weeks pregnant according to a clear blue test. I have been with my partner for about 3 years.
I had an abortion not long after we got together as we were only 20 and in university, my partner wasn't the best support throughout the day of the procedure but I accepted and got over this due to me believing he was just scared. I have just found out I am pregnant again and I am so worried and confused. This wasn't planned and my partner has reacted just as badly as he did 3 years ago and said if I keep the baby he wants nothing to do with it and that he has rights.
I am really starting to panic as I don't want to lose him but don't know if I can go through with an abortion again and live with that regret from being pushed into something I'm not 100% with. He is blaming me for being in control of contraception which I'm finding unfair and difficult.
Have any others been in a similar situation? I have an amazing group of friends and my family are amazing and I know they will support me however I can't help but feel scared at the thought of doing this on my own and losing my partner. I am only 23. I just don't know what to do and am terrified. Any advice would be much appreciated x

@ticktackted thank you for your kind words! I know it's so awful I just wish I was one of the lucky ones where I had a supportive partner no matter what I decide. Just trying to face up to the fact this will happen in the future and that I'm gonna have to do this on my own.
@usernameannonymous I'm doing ok thank you so much for asking, had a bit of a rubbish morning and a cry because I've got so many thoughts going through my head it's just quite overwhelming! But trying to be strong, I spoke to a nurse this morning who was really supportive and told me not to be pressured and to take the time I need to think it through so just taking that advice for now. They're going to call me back on Friday to see what I'm thinking. I don't think I can go through the emotion strain of an abortion again it's just pretty daunting knowing what's ahead and how he's going to react if I decide to go ahead with the pregnancy. I've got loads of amazing friends and my family would be supportive and I just need to keep reminding myself of that x

If you want to keep the baby do so. Whether you do or don't, ditch the waste of space boyfriend. Letting you down once was bad enough, but twice and he gets my fuck off vote.

Definitely keep reminding yourselves of your amazing support network of family and friends. By the sounds of it, your partner probably isn't going to be your long term partner, however this little one will be your child and that is the most long term relationship! If you are happy to keep the baby, I know you'll be able to make it work! I'm expecting my first little one, I'm under 20 and I'm really scared and sometimes question myself, however I don't think I could ever get rid of something that I really want, just because of my partner. It's your body and your little one. If you're having sex you've got to accept the chance that a baby could happen (on about your partner 'dealing' with it, not you). And you've already said that your previous termination was very emotionally exhausting and something you probably couldn't deal with again. I'd say sit down and explain to your partner that you want to keep the baby, and he should try to respect your decision and help you deal with it.

How are you doing OP?

What does your partner mean by In have rights'? That he won't have to pay maintenance or that he has a say in what you do?

Also contraception is a two way street, he obviously didn't want to make the effort on his end or look into what method you were using so he sounds like he's blaming you for something that should have been a joint decision/effort.

Yes sounds immature and ok it's not ideal but you've got lots of family support

Sorry 'I have rights'?

I agree with others it’s your BF that you need to reconsider. About the baby you will have to think long and hard as a baby is a big deal. I had my baby at 23 it all depends on where you are in life and where you would like to go in life. Don’t let him sway you. It’s your body you do what’s best for you.