feeling down

[Stefka]

My husband and I just had a horrible fight. I am 36 weeks pregnant and we have had a relative of his staying with us for over four weeks now. As our house is really small and he is in the baby's room I've been getting pretty stressed about his presence. I told DH that I did not want him here when I came home from hospital - it's my first baby and I just want some privacy.

My DH is under tremendous pressure right now - he's changing jobs, starting college and trying to make sure that there is enough money coming in as I am not earning. I know I am not helping him by adding extra pressure to him.

Am I being a complete selfish cow? This guy has no where else to go and it is really hard for my DH to say anything. He doesn't know what to do and neither do I.

I hate fighting - it really stresses me out and I feel really down right now

ur not being a cow at all!! does sound as tho ur hubby under alot of stress but dont forget u r 2! ur the one thats pregnant its totally understandable that u want the guy out b4 u get home from hosp,
think u have been good letting him stay as long as u have, as ur due date looms u will want to be just the two of u anyway, to make the most of ur last few weeks together.
its a shame if it was a female relative they would realise that its not appropiate to b staying with a couple this close to due date but u no what men r like!!
it would prob b better comming from ur hubby,
u will feel better when u make it up,

oh hon- sympathies for you and what a difficult situation. i think you are completely within your rights, no question, and your husband should really help you out on this one, its really a high stress time so its so much harder to load a new thing on top of all the existing pressure he's under. But you are too and its more important that you are emotionally looked after at the moment.

is there another relative or even a good friend of either of yours that would take this man on just in the short term so as to give you the breathing space? i get that its a cultural thing that your DH cant ask him to leave, but really still your need for family space is the most important thing.

The only other option is for him to go to London. We live in Scotland. Problem is that he just got set up with a one off job decorating someone's flat which will apparently take bloody weeks.

I feel totally rotten.