Pregnant girlfriend is ignoring me

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Hi, my GF is 17 weeks pregnant. I've been working away from home for a month now and recently my pregnant girlfriend doesn't seem interested in talking as much, and at times I believe she's ignoring me.. I have questioned it because she's active on social media's and won't reply to me for a few hours and she says she has no reason to ignore me and she keeps those apps open on her phone so it says she's on it even when she isn't. But today she hasn't responded to me since 6pm... it's now 10pm. I can see she's been on social media too. I don't get it, is this a normal thing for pregnant women to do ?

I wonder if she’s feeling down with the way things are at the minute due to corona virus, I found it hard at first especially since we are vulnerable. Is she at home alone with children and no adults around her?

Yes it’s normal, pregnancy is tiring and exhausting most likely wants to just sleep right now. When you are exhausted do you like to talk? She will overcome it give her time and be kind

Yes pregnancy is an emotional rollercoaster and the mood swings can be horrible. I love my husband dearly but sometimes he’s the only person around that I can get cross at, so he has to roll with the punches sometimes!

Messaging is just a bit insufficient too - tone can be so easily misread. Try to call her when you can, even if you just leave a message saying I love you, i miss you.

Chances are, that if you are consistent and caring, it will help her reconnect with you eventually x

Hi, in the nicest way, I'm sure you've made loads of posts about this same thing and you've got the same advice every time. I think you need to concentrate on your work, what you have going on and any distractions you can to stop yourself over analysing the time it takes for her to reply or what she's doing. Even now I'm not pregnant, I can reply to Facebook messages instantly when I'm on my phone because it shows up in a more 'obvious' way than texts do and I just forget to reply to texts or think I have. Not that I'm suggesting to bombard her over other platforms, just explaining.

Pregnancy is hard on the toughest of people, mentally and physically and she knows you're there if needs be. If she doesn't want to reply or talk, she doesn't have to and trying to force her to or looking into reasons why won't make her and may push her away.

I'm sure pregnancy is really tough on the other side because they're not carrying the baby and can feel really helpless I'm sure, but all you can do is make sure you're there for her when she needs it and that's it. Holding on too tightly if she's not happy with that will only push her away.

She'll be emotional from pregnancy hormones and will be under a lot of stress from carrying a child as well as the whole corona virus situation. You're best off giving her some space but making it aware to her that you're still there for her so that when she's feeling better, she'll be back to normal

I just want to say thank you to this thread. I've literally been feeling the same way. I'm a first time dad but my girlfriend isn't. I'm working away from home and shes 12 weeks pregnant and most of these few months of decision making have been made without me because of my lack of experience and working so far from home for a few months.
Even though its not what I wanted to read its what I needed to read. I know she loves me and things might get better sooner than I expect. Life changed for us from one day to another and this is how she deals with it all. I will focus on my work and being there when she needs me.

I'm not sure it is normal, I'm 19 weeks pregnant and haven't treated my husband any differently. I think pregnancy has made us more close, if anything. Having said that, I do have increased anxiety in pregnancy and I am finding messages from other people quite overwhelming and won't reply for a few days in some cases, your partner could be feeling something similar? I think because my husband knows I'm anxious and is supportive I don't feel the need to retreat from him

My husband works away and tbh sometimes I'd rather he didn't ring me every day. Cut her some slack and don't be needy.

You have been posting this for weeks OP. Pregnancy is tough, especially as your girlfriend is only 21. Her body and hormones are going through lots of changes, that won’t be helped by from your earlier posts I’m assuming is an overly needy boyfriend. Have an honest conversation with her and tell her how you feel but I imagine she is just fed up and you are adding to that, apologies if this sounds harsh it’s not meant to be but just for you to realise you could be pushing her away by trying to pull her close