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Anyone else’s partners really feeling like they are missing out?

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Ash06 · 29/04/2020 15:41

Me and my partner are expecting our first child and due to restrictions at scans/appointments he feels completely out of the loop and like he’s missing out. We 100% understand why the restrictions are in place but it still doesn’t make it any easier for him. Are anyone else’s partners feeling the same?

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NEAKT5 · 29/04/2020 15:50

Hi, thankfully as I am now 35 weeks my partner was able to be present at all scans. However he is now feeling quite sad, as am I, about the prospect of missing the first day or so of our first childs life and learning together about having a newborn! Obviously we have no way of knowing what my labour will be like or if I will need to spend any period of time in the hospital. I am sure that they are allowing you to video call your partner at the end of scans to let him see the baby a little on the screen, you could ask about that. Best of luck Smile

sel2223 · 29/04/2020 16:25

I'm 25 weeks pregnant and am currently stuck in a different country to my partner.

He is not from the UK and I was in the process of moving to be with him when this happened so I am temporarily staying with family while he is in our apartment on his own.

This is the first child for both of us and he was fortunate to be able to be there for an early scan and a gender scan at 17 weeks but we haven't seen each other since then and have no idea when we'll be able to see each other again....we don't even know if he'll be able to be at the birth in August!

He's missing out on absolutely everything....seeing/feeling the bump, feeling baby's kicks, scans, buying things for the baby, antenatal classes.... literally everything.

zscaler · 29/04/2020 16:27

Mine is the same OP. It’s a real shame, though we obviously understand why it has to be this way.

KittyKat2020 · 29/04/2020 16:32

Exactly the same as you OP, my other half has to sit in the car park every time there is a scan or monitoring and it's not nice.
It's our first and it seems like his really missing out.

wannabebump · 29/04/2020 16:34

My DH is the same OP, this is our first and we only plan on having one so it's difficult, but we understand why it has to be this way. I'm trying to make a more conscious effort at home - touching my belly, and he's kind of doing that too now. We're talking about it loads and I keep shoving the last scan picture in his face saying look, look! 😂 we're going to book a private gender scan when our local clinics open and allow a plus one, so we can find out what we're having together and so he can be at one scan.

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cfgordo · 29/04/2020 18:43

My OH feels the same, I’m 10+3 and I had emailed some private clinics a couple of weeks ago but they were all closed. A couple have now reopened and we’re booked in for a scan on Friday! My husband is allowed to come too, so the first time we see baby (hopefully) will be together. I also feel better because I know he’ll be with me if something is wrong, I’d hate to be by myself in that case.
I would definitely recommend emailing a couple of private clinics if it’s an option for you :)

Emberfoot · 29/04/2020 18:48

Yup, my husband was more broody than me to start with, so this not being in for scans hits him hard. Add to that the fact I will be in nicu with bubba for a month or two (assuming it goes to plan) and he is going to miss a LOT of time with his lil bubba. Feel so bad for him.

Meadows20 · 29/04/2020 18:51

My OH was a bit down today as I had my last growth scan (35 weeks) and he really wanted to come to this one as he knew you could clearly see all the baby's features. Tempted to get a Doppler ordered just to see if he can hear baby's heartbeat.

Newmummyxx · 29/04/2020 19:44

I think my partner is trying to play it down so it doesn’t upset me more. It is really sad for partners to miss out, it’s also our first baby. We have booked a private scan for this weekend and I’ll be just over 10 weeks so I’m happy that we get to share that together.

LH1987 · 29/04/2020 20:12

My DH definitely feels the same. We both understand why he cant but it just isn't what we imagined. I should be getting induced in 4 - 5 weeks aswell and I am terrified of doing that without his support, I wish he could be there is share it.

Are they not allowing more than one person to visit in NICU @Emberfoot? That would be very difficult. Hopefully it might have relaxed by the time your baby comes.

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