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Private Gender Scan

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Ginntoniconpause · 28/04/2020 17:35

Hi,

I've seen on a few other threads that people have been for gender scans or have booked them. Are these still going ahead with Covid?

Where I am, the NHS scans don't tell you the gender. However, the private scans nearby say that they're only undertaking scans to check on development.

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KADAQ1 · 01/05/2020 20:47

I had a scan at window to the womb last weekend. I can’t recommend them enough.

My partner came, and we were able to find out our gender even though it was not the priority of the scan.

I’m a frontline worker and wanted to make sure baby has not been affected by it

olivehater · 01/05/2020 20:53

It’s isn’t really essential op. You can’t self distance whilst having an ultrasound scan so you are putting yourself and your baby and the sonographer at unessesary risk so that you can find out the sex. I

Darkstar4855 · 01/05/2020 21:09

Can’t believe some of the responses on this post. Why would you take the risk of going for a non-essential scan right now? The sonographer, the receptionist, the person who was scanned before you, a passer by on the street outside... any one of them could be carrying it. The virus can live for days on door handles, waiting room chairs, taps etc. Pregnant women have died from covid.

So many people in the NHS and elsewhere are working frantically to try and contain this outbreak for the safety of everyone. Some have lost their lives. Please don’t undermine this by going for a completely unnecessary scan.

EastMidsMumOf1 · 01/05/2020 23:10

If that's the case then the places offering the scans shouldnt be doing so but they're are so clearly it's not that much of a high risk.
For some this is a last pregnancy and want to make the most of it, or a first where everything is new and scary, not being able to be supported by a partner in "essential" antenatal appointments can be daunting.
This is hard for everyone but no body should be made to feel like they're not taking the virus seriously - we all are and we are all just trying to find a sense of normality amongst this shit show of a time.

KimH88 · 02/05/2020 10:04

@EastMidsMumOf1 I completely agree with you. This is my partners first and he's already missed the 12 week scan and more than likely isn't going to be allowed to attend the 20 week scan. It can be a scary time I have had 2 children already but going for my 12 week scan alone wasn't a nice experience. I would at least like to have one experience together. They wouldn't be letting you book them if that was the case like you said. I have been more than careful throughout all this and have rarely been out of the house. At the end of the day it's a personal choice if people don't agree with it then thats their opinion but there is no need to try and make us feel like we're doing wrong because you some of you do not agree with it.

olivehater · 02/05/2020 10:21

Most of the private clinics are not open as it’s not the right thing to do. The ones that are staying open have no morales and are profiteering. I doubt a lot of them are qualified sonographers. The only one left open in my area is a beauticians. I can’t believe some of the attitudes on here. Why would you put yourself and unborn baby at an extra risk so you can find out it’s sex. It’s really sad. I say that as sonographer who is scanning multiple women daily, and is happy to do so, then going home to my family. They are mostly just grateful to have their essential scans.

EastMidsMumOf1 · 02/05/2020 10:48

@KimH88 I think people also forget a negative pregnancy experience can lead to PND afterwards and really affect the bonding. IMHO I do deem a "positive pregnancy" as essential, no one is able to have gender reveal parties, baby showers, even visitors at the hospital after birth or just company in general - hell you'll be lucky to have even one birth partner! If one non-essential scan is what it takes to make everything a little more bearable then so be it.

@olivehater
Nearly all private clinics around my area are open as usual, WTTW isnt but that's about it. Everywhere else is just offering limited appointments to follow social distancing guidelines and unlike the specific gender packages they will not offer you a re-scan for free.
To each their own but I'm quite confident there is no additional risk, not any more than going shopping or to the hospital for appointments as long as you follow procedure. I'm sure I can speak on behalf of alot of women on this thread, it's about balancing and finding a sense of normality and little to do with actually finding out the sex.

3isthemagicnumber3 · 02/05/2020 11:48

Personally I am not going to see a midwife for 20 weeks. My main reason to go for a ‘non essential’ scan is for reassurance. I am able to weigh up the risks and do not need to ask anyone else’s opinion on this. I have actually had corona virus at the beginning of my pregnancy so I think the risks to others and the risk to myself are low. I think whatever you do at the moment is scrutinised by a minority of people, the corona police are everywhere. I am going to go for my reassurance scan and if they can tell me the gender then bonus, I am going to snatch a little bit of joy at this miserable time!

KimH88 · 02/05/2020 14:18

@EastMidsMumOf1 I completely agree obviously everyone has their opinions but sometimes they need to keep their opinions to themselves! It's our decision to have a private scan no one else's. They are open probably for that reason they know how important scans are for you and your partner or whoever it is that goes with you especially with the hospital situation.

Clevererthanyou · 02/05/2020 14:26

Eastmidlandsmum - not finding out the sex if your baby will not give you or anyone else PND. That’s the most absurd thing I’ve ever read but by all means go ahead with your selfish plan.

EastMidsMumOf1 · 02/05/2020 15:51

@Clevererthanyou at what point did I say not finding out the sex would give you PND? Now THATS absurd.
If you read it correctly I said a postive pregnancy experience is a big part to bonding and reducing pre and post natal depression. If a woman is struggling with the current situation and feels a private scan with their partner would give them a glimmer of joy and normality then they should, by all means, do what they feel is necessary.
We cant see our families, go baby shopping, have get togethers, most of our MW appointments are being done by telephone, no work to go to, no restaurants or other ways to pass the time, the list goes on.
Yes, we are aware there is a pandemic but for goodness sake have some sense to realise not everyone is dealing with this as easy as some.

Clevererthanyou · 02/05/2020 16:41

You can bond with your baby without knowing it’s sex. It is not mandatory to find out the sex. You can’t use ‘but everything is closed and I’m bored, I can’t see my family or have a baby shower so I’m doing this instead and bugger everyone else I’m putting at risk’ as an excuse. Unfortunately, going to a private scan is not a safe or appropriate way of injecting some joy into a shitty situation. If you go and have a private scan done for anything other than checking on the development of your unborn child you are putting others at risk. It’s shitty but that’s the way it is.

Clevererthanyou · 02/05/2020 16:43

Also you have absolutely no idea how ‘some people’ are dealing with this right now.

EastMidsMumOf1 · 02/05/2020 17:23

@clevererthanyou your response shows how you are not reading/understanding what I am saying - it has little to do with finding out the sex and more about a postive experience with your partner/not in a hospital/with someone else in your household/a place to hear the heartbeat because if you weren't aware alot of us cant even hear it until 28weeks+ which is difficult, especially if you've experience a late loss previously.
Who is it putting at risk exactly? The sonographers who are working anyway? Myself? My baby? The other people who are "selfishly" attending the same clinics?

If I dont have any idea on how some people are feeling, that makes two of us then doesnt it?

KimH88 · 02/05/2020 17:44

OMG what is wrong with people! We don't have to explain ourselves as to why we are going for a private scan. If you don't like it then tough It's no one else's decision. It's a shitty time and if a private scan done by a professional in a clinic is a way of helping at this awful time then why not? How many people do you think have been trying to make appointments at the doctors for minor things! Or nipping to a supermarket for non essential items and your happy to walk round a supermarket!

Clevererthanyou · 02/05/2020 23:19

Kim - I’m disabled so I literally can’t walk around a supermarket. I’m in bed as I’ve contracted the virus and I haven’t left my house since March.

Unless people actually have concerns about the health of their unborn children (can’t feel movements etc) then it’s irresponsible to be making appointments to go to private scans. IF you are need to check on the health of your baby then obviously you would go but going just for a special moment is absolute bollocks.

Clevererthanyou · 02/05/2020 23:20

Needing*

KimH88 · 03/05/2020 09:24

What I'm saying is people have more chance of picking it up in a supermarket etc than in a clinic with one person the Sonographer. As I've said people have their opinions on it but if we all have our reasons and that is up to us end of.

3isthemagicnumber3 · 03/05/2020 09:42

It becomes obvious when someone hasn’t left the house for a while....

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Ginntoniconpause · 05/05/2020 20:51

Wow... that took a turn...

@KimH88 good luck with your scan on Sunday!

@EastMidsMumOf1 was your scan today? How did it go?

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BrooHaHa · 05/05/2020 21:01

What I'm saying is people have more chance of picking it up in a supermarket etc than in a clinic with one person the Sonographer.

I'm not so sure of that, personally. In a supermarket you can maintain a safe distance. Plus, viral load means you're more likely to contract it from someone the longer you spend with them. So if you're in close proximity to someone for a period of twenty minutes or so and that person is also in close proximity to lots of other people for that duration every day, I'd imagine you're more likely to contract it in that scenario than you are in a supermarket, safely distanced from everyone and not spending extended time with anyone.

KimH88 · 05/05/2020 21:26

@Ginntoniconpause Thank you 😊

3isthemagicnumber3 · 06/05/2020 07:26

I went for my scan last week. I was asked to go and wash my hands on arrival and the lady doing the scan was in full protective gear including visor and overalls. There was only me and her in the whole place. At the supermarket not every customer is wearing protective clothing and washes their hands on arrival. I conclude that I felt far safer there than at the supermarket and hence to say I escaped and am yet to show corona symptoms. I must add that I have for the first time this pregnancy felt bonded with my baby, with everything that’s been going on and the lack of midwife and antenatal care I haven’t felt a chance to bond until then. We had the most amazing experience and the most important thing about the whole experience was the reassurance of seeing and hearing my baby. The bonus was finding out the sex.

KimH88 · 06/05/2020 09:49

@3isthemagicnumber3 I agree with that supermarkets are so much worse. I've got mine on Monday. I am not worried at all.

EastMidsMumOf1 · 06/05/2020 13:19

@Ginntoniconpause it went really well thank you! Measuring big for my dates so probably looking on another big baby but I'm being monitored this time round anyway and we are expecting a... BOY!
Have you managed to book your scan yet?

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