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40 & First Pregnancy, Bleeding, Complicated, All Help Welcome

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40FirstTime · 25/04/2020 18:44

Hello lovelies!
This is a crazy pregnancy story. Don't mean to over share. It gives some entertaining background for sure. I just turned 40 on Easter Sunday. I'm Caucasian, 5'9" 150 pounds. Very healthy, athletic body, but have full body Reflex Sympathetic Dystropy Type-2. It's a rare neuromuscular disease. Not genetic. Just the most painful thing on earth... That's all! Feels like I'm doused in kerosine and lit on fire with bone and muscle pain so severe. Google Mc Gill Pain Index. A study will show you this is more painful than child birth or amputation of a Digit without anesthesia. How am I even here? I'm tough.

Live in Miami Florida. I'm an only child. Sister was killed by drunk driver. No family. Never had any pregnant friends share these things. I'm lost. Covid19 is not helping me get medical attention here. Even the nurse practitioner said Covid19 is messing up my care.

I really really want this baby. It's the right time, and right guy. Feel like it's my last chance to do this myself. I'm not brave enough to get pregnant. I'm a bit too vain to ruin my body. So the fact that I'm actually excited about this... Says this is really what I want. Even though it's an accident.

No period since February 18th.
Because I Conceived on February 19th.
Terminated it March 6th.
Second pregnancy conceived between March 24 to April 9th when we were sexually active.

Why this mysterious bleeding that seems too late for implantation bleeding? My differential diagnosis is to Rule out Ectopic Pregnancy, Implantation Bleeding or Spontaneous Abortion with Beta HCG repeat Monday and Transvaginal Ultrasound Tuesday.

Took every pregnancy test they make on Thursday April 23rd. Then had light brown spotting. Thought it was for sure implantation bleeding.

Friday, yesterday, bleeding was more bright red, mostly drips out in toilet. That's usually how my periods are. More drips in toilet or on baby wipe. Lower mild abdominal cramp.

I never get PMS or cramps. I don't know how. Even after having "the worst case of endometriosis I've ever seen" removed with laser at 23. It's clear. Had a laparoscopy repeated in 2014. Crystal clear. I don't really know what cramps are like.

Tiny cramps switch from left to right. Dull cramp in the middle.

Today, Saturday, Barely anything overnight or while laying down. I put myself on bed rest. Tried to stay calm. Then enough bleeding the last 2 days to to call it in at 9am.

NO CLOTS OR TISSUE SO FAR. Fingers crossed this sticks.

Went in for Beta HCG Thursday when I found out. It's 25 as of Thursday. Will repeat HCG Monday. Transvaginal ultrasound Tuesday 11am EST. YOU ALL WILL BE THE FIRST TO KNOW....

I'm a survivor. That's for sure.
Rest of my history.... At 23, RSD in rt hand and rt foot after 33 yr old psycho who tried to kill us passengers in a Range Rover. Put RSD into remission. 2.5 yrs later. Drugged driver hits me. Brings out of remission. Medically managed. No problem. Marry a doctor. He crashes my Audi with me in it. RSD goes full body at 34 in 2014. Uphill battle. Power Port placed. Tons of pain. High dose ketamine infusions at sub anesthetic dose for 8 hrs a day for 5 days in a row every 3 months for years. Doctors went cash only. Can't afford it. Hanging on by a string with pain. Left that psycho in 2015. Moved far away.

2018 & 2019 retrieved eggs. Genetic testing on me, I am completely negative for everything known to man. Huge relief.
Very happy with results. 10 oocytes each time. Planned on having a surrogate. Never planned on getting pregnant. Should have had an accident at least 100 times. None until this year.

January 19th, I'm dating this pharmacist I met online. He pressured me for sex. Gave in one time. Ended up pregnant. Terminated it on March 6th. He was threatening to hurt me. I couldn't deal with being terrified alone.

Started dating a doctor, Dermatology Resident in the building next door. 32, a PhD in drug design and MD all from Georgetown. Obviously brilliant guy. He's a jerk. I attract covert narcissists. Not talking to him right now.
He's doing telemedicine. We joke about Corona Babies. And here I am.

No period since February 18th.
Conceived on February 19th.
Terminated March 6th.
Second pregnancy conceived between March 24 to April 9th when we were sexually active.

Why this mysterious bleeding that seems too late for implantation bleeding? My differential diagnosis is to Rule out Ectopic Pregnancy, Implantation Bleeding or Spontaneous Abortion with Beta HCG repeat Monday and Transvaginal Ultrasound Tuesday.

My friend who's 7mo pregnant with her first cant help me, but she did. We were joking about Corona Babies and she was like you'll get knocked up. No way, won't happen to me.

I feel like God must really really want me to get pregnant. At my age this shouldn't be happing. I'm excited to have a baby. I know everything about babies and kids. Just not pregnancy...

Thank you!!!

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40FirstTime · 25/04/2020 23:31

UPDATE: Just got off the phone with the Oncall OB, it's Saturday. Monday is my next Beta HCG, and Tuesday is my transvaginal ultrasound at 11 AM.

I really don't know much about periods. I don't know a damn thing about pregnancy.
It's not a pad. It's just my 3rd day of bleeding and thickest today. No clots.

The bleeding is apparently the normal type. "Old blood coming out. Your body is adjusting." She said. Sometimes people have this their entire pregnancy.

Given my age, I'm freaked out about an MC. I've never been pregnant and now that I'm committed to this surprise baby. I don't want to lose it.

Please pray it's growing! Lots of ❤️

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40FirstTime · 27/04/2020 00:49

Great article about bleeding. I didn't know about a
Subchorionic Hematoma and Pregnancy Risks

https://www.verywellfamily.com/pregnancy-loss-4157399

I hope this is my problem. It can resolve on its own if it's early in the pregnancy. Smile

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Mucklowe · 27/04/2020 08:25

Gentle word of advice. If you post again with just the simple facts, you'll probably get some replies. It's clear you're very worried, but not everyone will read a very long and convoluted post.

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