Fed up :(

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Hi guys feeling really fed up and down today mostly because I want to enjoy pregnancy and to go and but stuff ready for baby etc but I can't, I don't want to get everything online and most places say sold out because they are not delivering the items. I know everyone is in the same boat but its really getting me down and upset. I tried looking online and just get pissed off with it all, my partner wasn't alloud into 12 weeks scan and I doubt he will be able to for my 20 week which is on 5th June :'( sometimes I just wish didn't get pregnant throughout this whole fucking pandemic.

Xxx

No advice but just to say I feel the same!

Hey hun it's ok to feel the way you do, we all understand. 2020 mamas have a lot to deal with atm.
I was excited about making the most of time with my partner on the days my eldest is with his dad i.e. days out, going out for meals etc. That's not happening! And things like shopping with my mum for cute outfits etc. It's been hard to get excited about the pregnancy when stuck indoors all the time.
The stats in the UK are slowly getting to something considered "stable" and hopefully they'll lower enough soon that in a few weeks some things may change. Other countries are starting to look at some re-opening in stages, hopefully we won't be too far behind. Better to be safe than sorry. Best to take things week by week.

I understand how you feel. Being pregnant is one of the biggest things in your life and you just want to enjoy it! Like a previous post has said, hopefully things will get better soon.

Thanks guys sending you all love also, just had a massive breakdown and don't know what to do x

When are you due? It might be a good idea to make a Pinterest board or something with all ideas you like... That way when you go shopping (fingers crossed that will happen) you will have a clear idea of what you want? :)

I'm not due until 19th October just hard to try and look forward to something when a this is happening

I'm having breakdowns increasingly often as my due date approaches :(

Eldest are off school, so the time I was going to spend with the toddler as his 1 on 1 time before the next baby has vanished, so I feel bad for him losing that. I have no energy to do home schooling properly. I'm dreading giving birth on my own (DH will stay with older kids at home), and dreading picking up covid 19 in hospital and bringing it home...

The only good thing is that at least with having previous kids we've got all the gear, so I do feel really sorry for you in that - it was a nice thing to be able to go out and do. Hopefully you'll be able to start shopping after your 20 week scan, as I imagine there may be some brief let up at least over the summer. As PP says, start making a list - you can still research and dream, then when things open up you'll be ready to buy :)

Sorry to all those in this sucky position though. This is a much wanted pregnancy, but I just wish it hadn't coincided with this chaos :(

No advice but I feel the same.

I’ve been trying to find baby clothes online and all newborn seem to be sold out (or way above my price range). I’d usually buy a few bits from charity shops too but obviously can’t now!

I know it's hard, and you're allowed to be disappointed and fed up, but try and stay positive if you can. You've got a while to go yet and I do think restrictions will start being lifted soon. I don't mean though you're not allowed to feel upset - especially if you're partner can't go to scans, that must be hard. I do totally get it - I had a big cry about it all recently too. I'm 36 weeks now and all the plans for the end of my pregnancy have had to change. I can't have my mum at the birth and my husband won't be able to stay or visit after our baby's born. I haven't been able to go out for weeks and it's my first pregnancy so I was looking forward to seeing friends and showing off my bump and most of all I'm so gutted that my family won't be able to meet the baby for god knows how long. I feel guilty complaining because I know so many people are having a horrendous time and losing loved ones, but it doesn't mean we can't say that this absolutely sucks.

I feel similar but I think when our babies are here, we won't care about what happened or didn't happen during pregnancy. We'll just be too happy to have our babies in our arms.

Another one with nothing much to say other I totally understand and relate. The shopping is beyond frustrating and luckily this is our second child so we do have most things.

I’ve got 6 weeks to go and have ordered in almost everything we need but I can’t find any pyjamas and dressing gowns for me nor a cute first outfit for the baby anywhere. I want to be able to see what I’m buying before hand, but instead I’ve got an ever increasing pile of stuff to be returned once lockdown is lifted.

I’m due August and I feel exactly the same, this is our first baby and OH wasn’t allowed at the week 20 scan, we couldn’t finalise our mortgage in time and it looks like my baby shower may get cancelled. Typical that I wait years to then be pregnant during an epidemic!

I feel exactly the same and I've been really teary today. I don't want other people picking up the last bits for the baby I want to go and get them , antenatal apps cancelled have to go alone to scans, birthing partner only allowed in when active labour it's all shit op x

Thank you for all the positives, we are all in this together and it's good to know I'm not the only one thinking like I am and feeling how I am xx

Totally feel the same. 32 weeks here and been looking forward to being pregnant my whole adult life , it's getting me down I can't share it in the way I expected with family and friends. Just hoping and praying that at least close family will be able to visit when baby arrives. It will break my heart if they can't but as someone else said as long as baby arrives safely that's all that matters I'm trying to keep this in mind

Yep, it's sh*t

I'm 37, a FTM and when I finally get pregnant, there just so happens to be a global pandemic.
My OH is in another country and we are currently both on lockdown with no idea of when we'll next see each other or even if he'll be able to be at the birth in.august. He's a first time dad and is missing out on everything....not just scans but feeling the baby move, seeing the bump grow, buying baby stuff etc as well.
I can't even 'nest' as was in the process of moving abroad when this happened so now just temporarily staying with family until the travel restrictions are lifted.

Safe to say, this is not how I imagined pregnancy at all.

BUT.... I refuse to wallow in self pity and cry about it. I'm not saying I haven't had the odd moment but, generally, I just try and stay positive and keep myself happy and calm for the baby. What else can I do?

Hi all, thought I’d join in, is absolutely crap! I’m due in 3weeks so don’t think anything will have changed, I’m having a Caesarian and be told I’ll bin 3 days due to previous complications, that’s 3 days my husband and kids can’t see baby😢4 years we have tried for this baby, never imagined it would be this way! I know we are lucky to be healthy and alive but I just want to cry and feel angry my dream of last four years feels ruined. I know we’ll all feel better when holding our babies but I’ll just be terrified I’m in a hospital as been in constantly last 6 weeks as my two daughters have cystic fibrosis so scared I’ll bring something home to them, fingers crossed normality returns soon! Good luck everyone having their birth soon in this situation, I think by October things will be a lot more normal than they are now so hold on to that😊

It's so difficult because even if restrictions are lifted I know Personally nothing changes for us we won't risk visitors because covid is still very much real and put there and I certainly don't want baby catching it ever but definitely not before she's had any immunisations x

I’m due the day after you, and all I want to do is push a pram in a shop, try on a bra that fits and feels comfortable... I hate screen shopping 🙈

Hopefully they will lift the restrictions in the next few months, and before it’s too late to order things. Feel for the people due in the next few months.

I’m trying to (not started yet) clean out the spare room, decorate this, store cupboards downstairs which will be used for the baby, tidy these.

Petit batau and Boden have lots of baby things, and eBay is excellent for second hand baby grows. I got loads of JoJo mamem Bebe stuff from eBay, and you have until October to bid on stuff. The things I received were spotless and a fraction of the price

You're so not alone. There's so much to deal with at the moment.
Im due 7th October and I just keep hoping for a miracle.

Due 13 August and I’m with you. It’s so, so shit - first time mum aged 31, I’ve waited for this and now... I’ve developed my bump over the last 6 weeks of lockdown so no ones even seen me looking pregnant except OH!

I’m trying to look for the positives though. DH and I are both at home together all day and one of my bosses said something like ‘it’s lovely that you’re getting lots of time together before the baby arrives - it’ll be a long time until it’s just the two of you again so make the most of just being together as a couple’ - which was a good point. Plus it’s easier missing out on trips to the pub etc when no one’s actually going and they’re closed! It’s not much but I’m trying to stay positive, lockdown won’t last forever and when it lifts it’ll be an experience that unites all of us who’ve been pregnant during this time.

Most importantly, our babies don’t know any better and we’re keeping them safe and warm while the world goes mad, so already it feels like we’re doing the protective maternal thing I guess?