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How can I still make it special?

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ConstantlyPanicking · 22/04/2020 18:45

Have been told by the hospital today that they won't even be allowed to write the gender of the baby to put in an envelope for me and my partner to still find out together as he is not allowed into the hospital for the scan - which I totally get.

A bit gutted but trying to think of ways to still make it special. If they tell me how can I still make it a nice way to tell him?

I know there will be people that are going to say "just tell him", which is lovely and suits some people, but I have missed out on a lot this pregnancy and want it to be special.

Any ideas welcome Smile

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Delbelleber · 22/04/2020 18:50

You could buy a gender specific outfit on the way home like daddy's Princess or cool like daddy

FridayFlowers · 22/04/2020 18:51

Have you considered not finding out the gender? That way it would be a suprise for you both to find out together at the birth! My DH announced that we had a son when he was born and that is one of the most special memories I have of his birth 💙

RandomMess · 22/04/2020 18:56

It is really nice to have the surprise at delivery!!

ChickenDipper28 · 22/04/2020 19:00

How long have you got until the scan?

  • How about buying gender crackers for you both to pull together? (Or if you've got some laying about it the loft just buy coloured confetti!)
  • Make a few cupcakes with blue and pink inside with different toppings so you remember which is which and if he's waiting outside while you have the scan, just take one of each with you and give him the one after Smile
  • Get a balloon and put blue or pink confetti inside before you blow it up and let him pop it
  • Blue or pink bubblegum and make him blow it so he sees the colour

Just a few quick ideas! Let us know how you get on 😬

SummerHouse · 22/04/2020 19:07

I wouldn't find out. It's amazing to find out at the actual birth. It beats any other gender reveal hands down.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 22/04/2020 19:07

DH was in Afghanistan when I had my 20 week scanwith DD2. I wrote him an letter (actually it was an email, which they print out and deliver, but same principle) from the 'baby', telling him all the stuff that was said at the scan.... Including the fact that the Sonographer tried to look at her 'bits' but she was more interested in showing off her somersaults so we didn't know what the sex was after all.

PinkJam · 22/04/2020 20:11

Agree with others, wait until the Baby is born then you will get to find out together and have a wonderful memory to look back on.

Catlover10 · 22/04/2020 20:18

You could buy one of those confetti filled cannons or balloons and film him as he pops it! Then you have his reaction on camera as well Smile

bee222 · 22/04/2020 20:36

Agree with others to say wait until the birth if you want it to be a surprise for both of you at the same time. I think that’s what I’m going to do.

Normandy144 · 22/04/2020 20:41

Don't find out. It is so special finding out at the birth, especially if you can't find out together.

Quitthat · 22/04/2020 20:46

Another saying that if you really want to find out together, do so at the birth. It's not such a long wait really :)

We've found out at the birth with all of ours, and it is such a lovely moment. Not much is a surprise otherwise ("will it be an emcs, or an episiotomy" isn't such a fun thing to wait to find out!), so it's nice to have that little unknown that is still a positive unknown, if that makes sense.

badg3r · 23/04/2020 10:15

I found out at the birth with both of mine, it was really nice! A lot of people said to me that they couldn't manage the wait, but honestly it was not difficult, you only have one chance to find out and once the scan is over then it is out of your hands anyway. If you want to find out together, then you still can if you wait till the delivery, or maybe pay for a private scan later on?

Also finding out at the end means that if it is a girl you don't end up with a zillion pink things or if it's a boy only tractors and dinosaurs Wink

badg3r · 23/04/2020 10:17

Should add, with both of ours it was DP who told me if it was a boy or a girl. I wrote it in the birth plan that I wanted us to check for ourselves, so to speak!

Daisy95 · 23/04/2020 10:45

We had our 20 week scan just as we went into lockdown and partner couldn’t come so we’ve decided to not find out till the birth so we can find out together 😊

RandomMess · 23/04/2020 10:47

I know a couple of people for whom the scan was wrong so nursery kitted out, clothes all bought and then got a surprise shock on the day Shock

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