Has anyone else found people are obsessed with names?

[rhia22]

I know I am pregnant and sensitive but I am SICK of people asking me if I've thought of baby names. We just found out that we're having a boy and as soon as I told my friends the next message is "have you thought of names?". Lol I know I'm being hypersensitive but it is winding me up !!! Not to mention I'm not 'self-isolating' with my partner so we can't even speak about it in person WHICH EVERYONE KNOWS!

😂 I'm pregnant and I ask other pregnant people about names and pregnant people ask me. I guess you can never tell what will wind a person up 🤷‍♀️

Congratulations on your boy

Yes i had this when I was pregnant. We had decided on our names for our twin girls but not told anyone as we wanted something to be a surprise and didn't want anyone's opinion on them - as before I was pregnant I had said one of the possible names in front of my Nan and she had hated it, but it didn't put me off and I still called one of my daughter the name.

My OH family would constantly try and trick me into revealing them but we managed to keep them a secret.
Even strangers would ask and I would just say we are waiting until the babies arrive to decide.

Yes, everyone has opinions on baby names "oh, I went to school with someone called xxx and they ended up being a murderer"

Doesn't help that I have several family members who are teachers and have aversions to certain names as "that is what the naughty kid in their class is called and it has put them right off"!

They are just making polite conversation!

Amazing how the most innocuous thing to one person is another's wind up.

Be careful you are a Mummyzilla is the making ! Count yourself lucky people are being polite/interested, they probably don't really care either way, it's just something people say to show interest, don't be that new mum... replace 'sensitive' with 'precious'
Be kind ! You might need these people when the baby is here.

I think it's just something to ask! It does get a bit irritating.

I think it's strange when people tell you the baby's name straight after the 20 week scan "hi, we're having a girl and she'll be called Charlotte Carrie Samantha Miranda Smith". But then we didn't have a name till 36 weeks so maybe I'm just unprepared!

It's just a natural thing to ask. Don't be so sensitive. What do you want people to say when you tell them you're pregnant? A stony-faced "oh right", so as not to possibly offend?

I have got it quite a lot. I always just say 'not sure about names yet' even though we are 99% sure on a name. Also found that when you say 'not telling anyone until she's born' they get all sassy and snotty.

I've got to say i am excited for the unnecessary 'i don't like that name' hints when she's born though 😂

I know what you mean OP, I find it a little frustrating too, mainly because everyone has an opinion on every name so I would never reveal the name that I am thinking is the one because I don’t want to hear a load of ‘oooo I’m not keen on that’ and it would upset me.

It's just a thing to ask. They are showing you that they care by expressing an interest. Get yourself a breezy response which acknowledges them but shuts down the conversation - 'yes, a few ideas but no decisions yet' or similar.

I don’t supposed they are that bothered tbh. Just making conversation.
I always found it quite helpful to run a selection of names past friends and family in case they think of something we hadn’t. In terms of unfortunate nick names or initials.

It's just conversation, what else do you want them you ask you? If you've got piles? Constipation? People have to seem interested, it's just an automatic question for many.

I shouldn’t have thought that they actually care too much, they’re just showing a bit of interest. Tell them, or don’t. I don’t think it’ll make any difference at all.

Has no one ever thought they are just opinionated nosey gits that couldn't really care less but have no other gossip at the moment?

Oh just my town then 😂

That's such a normal thing to ask a pregnant person, they're just being nice and taking an interest in your pregnancy! If you don't want to share your names before the birth (which personally I don't - I have no interest in hearing people's opinions) you can just say that nicely. I let people suggest names to me and don't say much myself!

We never, ever disclosed our name ideas before our DCs were born. However I was usually interested in people's name suggestions. I really love names of all different styles.

I did find almost everyone I spoke to asked "do you know what you're having?". We never wanted to find out and I'm afraid I did once reply sarcastically "well I'm hoping for a baby".

Not big or clever but I was tired.

I keep getting asked too but in a friendly way, I tell them "we have decided against name x" using our list of amusing first name surname combinations we have ruled out!

Haha yes!! Everyone wants to know and everyone has an opinion!! We have our name which we told immediate family and thankfully they love, but to everyone else we just say oh we've got a few in mind but going to wait and see what suits her when she comes out! everyone knows someone with a name they don't like or a really naughty kid etc. it's hard enough to choose one you both love let alone be put off by everyone :)

I think it's just a thing to ask so they sound like they're interested in your pregnancy.

No one I know ever discusses names pre birth though, so asking seems a bit pointless when 90% of the time people won't say 🤷

I didn’t find out the gender or announce our name ( to anyone ) until birth for that exact reason ! Even if I found out the gender I wouldn’t tell people .

It’s annoying how everyone asks .