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Moving house while pregnant

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Stilltobeseen · 20/04/2020 17:45

Sorry if this is the wrong place for this but I just need a place to vent and to see if anyone is in the same boat. My husband and I were supposed to move into our new home last week but because of the coronavirus things have been postponed and we don't know for how long. This is despite having contracts and money exchanged and it sucks so much because it all means bugger all because of the virus.
I am 29 weeks pregnant and currently unable to nest in our rental as the spare room is filled to the brim with boxes as we were not told until the day before the move that it wouldn't be happening yet.
The main reason we are leaving our rental is obviously to buy our family home but also because we currently stay in a top floor flat that has a LOT wrong with it, damp and mould being one of the things. I'm a FTM and have already had all my classes cancelled, I can't see friends or family, my choice of birth (waterbirth) is not allowed at the moment and I was so looking forward to decorating and organising baby girls room and now I can't do that either.
I am of course grateful beyond words that we are healthy and safe but it doesn't just magically erase the disappointment of missing out on so much.
Anyone else in this boat too?

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OnlyheretovoteonAIBU · 20/04/2020 18:20

I can commiserate. Nearly 32 weeks along, meant to be moving in 2 weeks but not even exchanged contracts yet and now everything’s looking to be delayed and we don’t know how long for.
Also FTM, classes cancelled though doing online NCT soon.

Like you I am grateful to have health and a home but we’re allowed to feel disappointed too at how things are as so many nice parts of pregnancy feel like they’ve been lost. You’re definitely not alone in that.

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Stilltobeseen · 20/04/2020 19:06

It's really not a nice time to be pregnant or buying a house is it? you are right though, we are allowed to feel upset about it. I'm sure we'll get on and manage just fine regardless but it just sucks at the moment

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Cindy974 · 20/04/2020 19:22

Kind of in the same boat as you!

Me and my partner are living with his parents saving for a house and have been since November last year. Found out unexpectedly we were pregnant in Feb, found a house we loved put offer in, offer accepted and now we are just stuck...
Im panicking because there is not enough room for us here and its not a suitable environment to raise a baby, I’m not due until November but the clock is ticking and it looks like we won’t be out by then. We are over the moon with our news and Im so excited to become a mother but this is just kind of putting a dampener on it for us and Im not sure what to do in this situation!

EssElsiee · 20/04/2020 19:35

@cindy974 that’s so weird that’s just like me!! Found out in November was pregnant, at that point had been living with partners parents for a year to save for mortgage... we have a House just waiting on exchange of contracts, it’s only us and the owners and the owners are moving in somewhere unoccupied and therefore chain free. Really hope it’s not long I’m due in July! There
Is absolutely no room for me to have a baby here x

Cindy974 · 20/04/2020 19:49

@esselsiee that is weird! We are chain free too but haven’t even been able to get started on the mortgage process so still have a long slog ahead!
Aww bless you, not long at all then, and huge congrats I hope it all works out for you with your move! Im just trying to think positive, everything happens for a reason right?

EssElsiee · 20/04/2020 20:10

Ah that sucks we literally managed to get everything done before lockdown, the only stuff left is a bit of solicitor work, searches and drawing up contracts.. which can all be done as they are working from home. It’s still a waiting game though.. keeping myself occupied online shopping for bubs! Hope everything works out for you x

CherryCreme · 20/04/2020 20:26

Similar situation, except we were supposed to be moving into a rental next week! I'm at my partners parents for the time being and 23 weeks pregnant, can't order anything we need as I was waiting until we had moved in so I didn't fill up their house with baby stuff, I'm really hoping we can still find something before August but it's SO worrying! After falling unexpectedly, we really thought we had it all planned out 😩

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Stilltobeseen · 20/04/2020 20:51

Its so annoying because we and our sellers are all ready to go but the folk they are buying from are the onea holding it all up. They naively thought lockdown would end after 3 weeks (honestly dont know why) so didnt book any movers and are now struggling to find folk to help them move! Raging! I hate being in a chain!

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Temple29 · 20/04/2020 21:07

Same situation here. 20 weeks pregnant with DC2 and we were days from closing when the lockdown was announced. Solicitor was just waiting for paperwork to be sent from the property developers and they closed their office.

Also renting and had to reapply for the mortgage today because our approval ran out. Although I’m very happy to be home with DC1 and safe here while pregnant because I’m dreading returning to work when it eventually happens.

Hoping we can get it sorted in the summer before baby is born because I don’t have enough space here.

Veesbaby · 20/04/2020 21:15

Same here living with partners parent. There is no room for a baby. Been on at the council who haven't sorted anything as of yet. 32 weeks and I'm worried I won't have a home for our baby. Very stressful time. Partner has been my rock and couldn't do it without him. Got a few things for baby but can't even go out shopping, been shopping for bits n pieces online.

Thekindyoufindinasecondhand · 20/04/2020 22:42

Yes same boat! We were due to complete and move the week lockdown took place, it's only a chain of 3, so hopefully once this is over it will still be able to happen, but at 24 weeks I'm starting to get a bit anxious if we will be in on time!

Sophie1326 · 20/04/2020 23:07

@Stilltobeseen Hiya! Just read your post and thought I may be able to help.. my partner owns a removals company and is still operating as business is deemed essential still.. all workers are equipped with masks gloves and are in good health.
If the people at the top of the chain need help still with moving I can send you the office number to call ?

KittyKat2020 · 21/04/2020 00:43

Yep similar situation.
Found out pregnant in November, currently living with his parents, We now have the money to move but can’t move due to coronavirus. First child, can’t nest and it’s really getting me down.

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