Finding it hard

[JKD1982]

Hi

I am sure it’s just the hormones and too much time without distractions to think and worry. But I just feel so overwhelmed and sad for what’s happening at the moment. Being pregnant and waiting to see how the healthcare system copes and if everyone is ok during this COVID crap is just all consuming.

My poor husband has to put up with daily bursts of tears and just general worry. I’m 7 weeks away from due date so now just feel I am waiting for the time to pass.

Any advice on how to stay sane and calm? I’m trying not to read the news excessively but obviously can’t see friends or family properly for support outside my husband. It’s our first child and I am on the older side so it’s a nervous time anyway I expect.

Thanks
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Hi, I just wanted to say this won't be forever and you'll be so wrapped up in your little one when they arrive that it won't matter as much that things aren't quite normal. Try and enjoy these last few weeks with your husband ❤️ do you like cooking? Do date nights and film nights and nights where you listen to music and sit and talk. Would he give you a massage or foot rub? Also do you like reading? Or is there anything you wanted to learn about? Mindfulness is great or meditation. It's a really surreal time and being pregnant during this is very strange! I'm 16 weeks with my fourth (I'm 36) and this pandemic has totally changed the experience or pregnancy! I've tried to limit my news watching for my own sanity. I hope you are ok xx

If you want a potentially positive spin, I always imagine that when I'm at my most sad and hormonal it's because the baby is having a mega growth spurt. Hurray for you, baby! Maybe it's a crucial bit of brain development that's clearly going to make him a genius?! I do like a bit of positive thinking

I'm sure this has been said a million times, but now is the time to appreciate everything you are able to do - make things, bake things, watch an entire episode of something in one go, lie in bed without a small person attached to your boob/ yelling for something very specific that you don't know what it is... I know it's absolutely rubbish and I would have been terrified if this had been my first pregnancy, but as it's my second I'm REALLY enjoying all the enforced lazing and avoiding people making dumb comments about how enormous I am! Or trying to touch the bump! Bleeeeh.

Don't avoid the tears though. I always feel better after a massive cry. Just make sure your poor husband knows what's going on - mine seems to forget that hormones are A Thing and panics every time I sob

Hiya,

Just wanted to say you're not alone. I feel exactly the same and been in tears the past couple of days.

It's ok to feel pissed off at the world and upset we're only human.

Hope you're feeling better soon x

I think we're all feeling the same to differing degrees so you're definitely not alone. None of us could imagine having a pregnancy like this.
I am 37, 23+3 weeks pregnant, FTM and my partner and I are currently on lockdown in different countries with no idea of when we'll be able to see each other again....not how I imagined pregnancy at all!
The only way I'm getting through this is by trying to focus on the positives.....one of which is that I know 3 people who have had babies this month and they've all been ok. They all said the midwives were lovely and providing lots of support, they all had their partners by their side when they were giving birth and they are all now back home enjoying lots of uninterrupted time with their newborns.
The hardest part for them has been the aftermath.....not being able to introduce their babies to family and friends etc.

Thank you so much for your kind comments. I am so conscious that there is a lot of sad and horrible things happening at the moment and I feel so melodramatic even being upset or complaining. I am so lucky to have my health, my husband and my home and so many people are struggling.

Just going to try and take it all day by day and enjoy the things we can do. The nhs teams have been amazing when I have had to go in for my antenatal appointments so just going to trust the system and assume it will all be as expected.

Sending lots of love and best wishes to everyone xx