Hate being pregnant

[JLB88]

Hi, I’m very new to this and have just succumbed to to signing up after endless weeks of feeling anxious and low.
I am 21 weeks pregnant and hate being pregnant.
Not because I don’t want my baby (quite the opposite!) The reason for this is because I spend pretty much all day, every day worrying something is wrong and every pain means I’m miscarrying. I know I shouldn’t but I spend a lot of time googling symptoms and convince myself something is wrong.
I’m also overweight therefore haven’t felt the baby move and feel like this would reassure me.
I don’t have anyone to talk to about this and don’t want to worry my partner.
I just wanted to know whether anyone else hates/hated being pregnant and to know I’m not alone and I’m not crazy?!
Thanks everyone

I'm 25 weeks with an IVF pregnancy so I feel so very lucky to be pregnant, but I certainly haven't enjoyed all of it! I was very anxious at first and didn't feel pregnant. Then I had terrible morning sickness from about 6-16 weeks. Now I'm struggling with shortness of breath and aches and pains. Also miss certain foods and wine. So I feel like pregnancy isn't the magical time my infertile self imagined it to be.

That said, I feel my baby move all the time now. I have an anterior placenta so I was late to feel the movements but it is lovely now that I do. Hopefully you will feel better when the movements come. But if you're prone to anxiety, it's probably another thing to worry about because they're not very regular movements at first. Perhaps you should speak to someone if your worries are getting you down. Maybe the midwife if you really don't want to worry your partner?

Even though I'm lucky to be pregnant, I can't wait for baby to come. That's what I went through IVF for, not just to be pregnant.

I think a lot of people hate it (certainly me and all my friends). I have had every symptom in the book and have just felt physically awful for 7 months and I feel so done. It does sound like you’re very anxious though? It’s normal to worry a bit but it’s a shame it’s affecting you so badly. Would it be worth discussing with your midwife? We all worry sometimes. I have felt much better since I started feeling regular movements so I get a physical reminder that she’s fine every hour or two which is very reassuring. Hopefully you’ll feel movements soon and this will help.

Hated it the first time , currently hating it for the second time. Love my children and thankful to have them but do not enjoy pregnancy.

Thanks for your replies. It’s nice to have a bit of reassurance that I’m not crazy! I don’t have any friends that are/have been pregnant so difficult to get genuine opinions. Perhaps things are heightened due to the current situation but just going to try and take everything day by day. Thanks x

This is my third pregnancy and I’ve hated every second of each one. It’s totally normal for a lot of women.

(My babies are spaced over 18 years - I left enough time between each to forget how much I detest pregnancy!)

Im currently 18 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and i hate being pregnant, i have hated it each time, i have dysguesia a distortion in my taste and smell it makes eating and drinking such a chore, im 100% adament this is my last pregnancy as i couldnt put myself through this again but i cant wait to hold my baby in my arms as thats why im going through all this. So even though i know this next 4-5 months will be horrible i know after that its worth it