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Feeling like first trimester pregnancy are of lesser importance

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Emerald89 · 16/04/2020 11:53

Bit of a self indulgent whine here so be nice.
6+6/40 today.
Does anyone else feel like first trimester you aren't really taken seriously as being pregnant? This is my first pregnancy and obviously healthcare provision is not normal right now, but I'm still pretty sad that EPAU wouldn't see me when I've been spotting/bleeding for 4 days now and I feel like they just tell you to see how it goes i.e. see if you miscarry. They don't want me to call back unless I'm practically exsanguinating or in agony. I know there is nothing at all they can do to influence that outcome but it feels like a 1st trimester pregnancy is not as important or precious because the chance of you losing it is highest. I know it has to be this way due to coronavirus etc, but isn't it just awful that there's no way to get reassurance from the NHS right now?? I'm an NHS worker myself so I know the scale of what is being done and how much elective care has been postponed, I really feel for my patients. I've booked a private scan this weekend but many mothers won't have the resources to do this.

It's shit you can't tell people, when you tell people there is always the spectre of you possibly miscarrying so everything has to be hush hush so if there are problems you feel really alone.

Many pregnancy books don't even really cover the first 8-10 weeks or pregnancy, a lot of the podcasts cover late pregnancy and birth only (obviously massively important topics but one pregnancy podcast had 100+ episodes and I couldn't find a single one that covered bleeding in pregnancy yet there were episodes about mosquito bites and yoga inversion poses FFS)

It's just a bit crap really. I know I should be happy but since I started spotting/bleeding I feel all doom and gloom and so pessimistic.

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EBM20 · 16/04/2020 15:06

I had bleeding a few weeks back and felt exactly the same, not cared about. So I rang 111 and they said if your really concerned go to a&e. A&e was empty and they took blood tests and a urine sample and I was out in less than 2 hours, I was in a "Corona free zone" the whole time and had to wear a mask. They booked me in for a scan the same day then a week later to see if there had been any growth, first scan they only could see a sack and yolk. Luckily everything was all okay at second scan and there was growth and a little heart beat! Fingers crossed for you!

Nelbert19 · 16/04/2020 15:30

Hi OP, this is one of the biggest surprises of pregnancy for me - this huge, life changing thing has happened to you and your body that can go wrong at any second and yet there’s nothing for any health care professionals to do! I felt bizarrely left at sea, despite knowing the logic behind it all. And I’m a doctor myself!

My first trimester was over before the lockdown started and I had those same feelings, so it’s not pandemic specific. It feels extra bizarre to have this huge life changing thing happen in isolation though - my family aren’t seeing my bump grow, my sisters and mum will never feel the baby kick and (more selfishly) I’m missing out on getting fussed over and cooed at!

It is a shame and you’re allowed to feel sad about it. Best of luck to you with your pregnancy, congratulations!

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