1st pregnancy in total quarantine - feeling super sorry for myself

[Mum2Bump]

So sorry for this sobbing thread, but I can't help myself but feel so extremely sad...
I know the entire world is on a lockdown, so we all are suffering, but it's so so hard to deal with it mentally...
This is a long waited baby, my parents been waiting for these news for the last 10 years. We live far away from all our friends and family, on a tiny island in the Med. lockdown had ruined all our plans to see our loved ones, all plans to tell them the news in person, all our expectations of how our 1st pregnancy will look like... All stores for babies are closed, all baby shower plans are cancelled, all travel from the very first confirmation that we passed 12 weeks mark till the baby's arrival is going to be spent in the quarantine ( according to official island's plans). Quarantine and tough situation overall is causing friction at home, me and my partner are falling out more often than ever before... and this is supposed to be the happiest time for us...
I just need to know I am not alone in feeling so desperate and so fed up....

Me too.
I'm almost 16 weeks and our first scan I had to go alone and dh wasn't allowed to come.
It's hard to feel excited about it whilst everything is going on :(

@vinoelle with all due respect, this is a once in a lifetime situation in which many people have effectively and suddenly been put on 'house arrest' for several weeks. Pregnant women have been told to be prepared to socially distance for 12 weeks. It is totally understandable that this has triggered depression in some women, particularly pregnant women, who are perhaps more prone to it than most. It is not up to me or you to say that it's wrong to cry over missing out on experiences like a baby shower. We should all be allowed to feel what we feel. It's normal to cry over the slightest thing in pregnancy!
Also, I don't know where the OP is, but in some countries, our lockdown has been going on for longer and has been much stricter. Where I live, people aren't allowed to go out for walks and exercise, and believe me, if you live in a flat like I do, with no garden and small children, it's very easy for cabin fever and depression to set in... Sometimes we need to moan, and we focus on seemingly minor things, like going shopping, because even with all the other bigger worries, it's nice sometimes to vent

I'm 31+6 and I totally understand where you're coming from. I'm really fortunate in that I've been working from home for weeks, my employer has been great, I was really prepared and have almost everything that I need and my baby is cooking away nicely.

I fluctuate between being completely reasonable in that there's far worse positions to be in, and feeling a bit robbed of the small things. I found out that my friends were planning a surprise baby shower, which was lovely but not the absolute end of the world that it can't happen. I'm more upset that my mam and sister can't see my bump growing or feel her moving, as well as not being able to have my mam there while I give birth as it's 1 birth partner only. Reasonable me reminds myself that at least DH can be there.

We're all justified in feeling a type of way about how the situation is right now, but it's important to not let that take over. There's going to be a baby at the end of this after all.

I'm 25 weeks and I get it - it's far from ideal and some pregnancy care isn't what it would otherwise be. I wanted a holiday before baby comes too.

BUT I'm just incredibly grateful to be pregnant! I keep thinking of all the worse times this could have happened (for me). This is my first, very long awaited IVF pregnancy. If my IVF was due now it would be cancelled (so many poor ladies going through this anguish right now). I also feel really sorry for ladies who have recently had babies and can't go to classes etc and don't have much support.

I think everyone has a right to complain when things aren't as you'd want. Nothing is taking the magic from me though as long as my baby boy is healthy 😊