Feeling guilty about possible pregnancy

[Trapordo]

I think I have a positive test. We haven't been 'trying', just unspoken lack of contraception since we started having sex again after we lost DD in October... I know it only takes the once obviously but it was rare we have sex anyway due being busy etc so I didn't get a coil or anything. I know it sounds silly but getting something just seemed too 'permanent'

A week or so ago I decided I'd book in with my GP to get the pill. It isn't an implant or coil but would work and can just be prescribed there and then. I have an appointment for Friday morning.

Took a test today as realised I was due on and didn't 'feel' like I was about to start bleeding. I got something that looks very faint.

Will be going shopping in a bit for a new test as I need bread, cheese etc. But just feel so guilty if this is positive.

What will people think? If we make it to the 20 week mark - when we'd announce it-people are going to think we're so selfish, aren't they?

I'm also very silly for starting this thread as it isn't even a sure positive. I know a line is a line but I can't even be sure if it has colour to it

I highly doubt anyone would think you're selfish whatsoever. Life happens, people get pregnant, a new life would bring joy to lots of people if wanted. Be kind to yourself and don't read any covid/pregnancy opinion threads on here, people are just using it as a stick to beat others with but they would do that about anything. You will not be stealing a midwife away from a Covid patient, the NHS has not told anyone to stop TTC, everything will be OK.

Thank you. Going to book some counselling with BPAS and see what they say or suggest

Hi @Trapordo I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your daughter last year, I too lost my son in August last year so I can greatly empathise with everything you are feeling at the moment. I recently found out I'm pregnant again too which is a scary but lovely time. Everyone's experience and feelings are totally different but I can't emphasise enough to not feel guilty if you are pregnant again, it's challenging but you in no way should feel guilty about it. And others won't judge you for it either (but if they do they don't deserve your attention anyway). You have been through so much in losing your daughter all I can say is be kind to yourself through this, it comes with a whole host of emotions. Sending you lots of love and strength

lionsmum Big congratulations to you! I got tearful reading you have a chance for a little rainbow Very pleased for you.

Not sure why I won't or wouldn't offer myself the same allowance

@trapordo thank you so much, that means a lot. We are beyond grateful to be in this position. If it turns out you are indeed pregnant it may take time for it to sink in and for you to adapt to it, but just know that you are deserving of another baby and the happiness it will bring. It in no way will overshadow your DD and she will always be a special member of your family and no amount of children will ever change that💖