Scans!

[Baby2305]

How's everyone feeling about being on your own for your scans? I'm a nervous reck for my dating scan as I've already had one due to having pains & bad sickness.

Also feel bad for my partner because it's his first child and he can't see it on the screen

Same. First scan isn’t for 4 weeks, but I doubt much will change in that time. I haven’t actually had anything say DH can’t come but I think it’s unlikely. Both our first baby and had a previous early MC so very aware things can go wrong. No reason to presume they will, but I am worried about a MMC and being on my own. Ultimately I try to remember the risk of that is low, and what’s one scan in a whole lifetime of parenting together. I don’t think missing it will really make any difference in the long run.

I have my 20 week scan in two weeks. I get huge anxiety from scans due to having a mmc last year.

12 week scan on Wednesday and like @BuffaloCauliflower I'm worried about bad news at the scan (for absolutely no reason, I'm just a massive worrier) and being on my own. We don't drive and we have a LB (15m) so we're going to walk to or cycle to the hospital and then he's going to take our toddler round the park just so he's close by in case. We had a scan at 6 weeks to confirm dates so we know the pregnancy is in the right place and we saw the heartbeat then but definitely could not make out a baby just a flickering dot haha.

I had both my scans alone. It was actually OK! I just text people whilst I was in the waiting room to keep distracted. Good luck!

I fortunately booked a private scan at 8 weeks so know there's a good chance baby is okay, still a bit gutted to be doing it alone but I think if I can read something whilst I wait it should help.

When I had my last baby my husband was at work when I had mine. My local hospital is walking distance. Never found it an issue. The only thing I’d be worried about is giving birth alone.

I had my dating scan last week and I was nervous but it’s quite comforting that everyone is in the same boat. The staff were all friendly and reassuring. I’ve kind of geared myself up for my 20 weeks one - in 6 weeks time to be alone as well, if it’s not it’ll be a pleasant surprise.

I know it's not the same, but are you allowed to use FaceTime in the scans? That way you'd both be able to see and share it together still.

I don't have kids yet and not sure GDPR would allow it, but surely as long as you and the medical professional is fine with it?

@Pinkstars2501 I think each hospital is different but the general consensus is no.

I have my 20-week scan on Thursday and I'm ok about going on my own. DH and I were temporarily long-distance until this lockdown, so I was fully prepared to go to scans and appointments alone.

I’m ok about it. This will be my second baby (hopefully) but 4th pregnancy so I’ve had quite a few scans. I’ve had an awful 12 and 20 week before. I will be a nervous wreck but I am anyway.

Oh ok, shame but understandable.

I had my 20 week scan a couple of weeks ago and am going back on Friday for a rescan as many was moving around so much they couldn't get a couple of the measurements they need.

I just wanted to reassure those of you worrying about going alone that it was absolutely fine. I know it would be a different story if you were told bad news but try and remember that, that is not a common occurrence and it is far more likely that everything will be perfect.
The hospital I went to was so quiet when I went and the staff were doing everything they could to make everyone feel at ease. It was a lot more chilled out than my dating scan had been in a packed waiting room where appointments were running an hour late.
I was anxious before I went but I'm not remotely worried about going back on Friday now.

*baby not many

Hi, I had a scan two weeks ago (unfortunately had to be on my own), and while obviously I was anxious and my wish my DH could have been there, it wasn't too bad. The staff were lovely and apologetic about the situation and because they want you out of the hospital as quickly as possible the waiting time was about 3 minutes. Just thought I'd say this in case it helps with any worry.

Yeah well basically the lady who scanned me on my first baby which I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks + 5, was scanning me in my early scan and I feel she's quite abrupt. Has no sympathy for patients.

Really hoping and praying it won't be her the day of my 12 weeks scan. Because she literally said on my previous pregnancy. "You've had a miscarriage, This baby is dead" there was no way of putting it across gently at all. She made me feel like I was guilty and it was my fault.

@Baby2305 sorry for your previous loss and sorry you had such a bad experience last time....there are good and bad in every profession unfortunately.

Hopefully it will be someone different this time (I've never seen the same one twice) and your experience will be completely different.

Easier said than done, I know, but try not to feel too anxious about something you can't do anything about. Focus on the positives if you can. None of us like this situation but that's how the rest of us are getting through it x

@1990shopefulftm you mentioned you went for a private scan. Can you provide me some details, how to book? can I just search for one nearby, and go directly, or need a GP referral?
I've had an ectopic pregnancy before, although I was asked to have an early scan next time, I notified GP, but haven't heard anything from them or hospital from 3 days. I know NHS staff is quite busy, thinking of going privately, rather then waiting for them to ring and wasting few more days.

@mum707
I went with ultrasound direct, I just put my town in and ultrasounds and it came up, I know they aren't allowing partners now but they are doing early reassurance scans still.
You don't need a referral, I just gave my name address, date of birth and last period date and I booked in online. The sonographer was wonderful and explained everything.

My partner drove me to the 20 week scan and stayed in the car. I was messaging him whilst waiting. It was OK, sure I would have liked him there with me but knowing it was just across the road was a reassurance. I felt more at ease that only one of us was potentially exposed too and that there were a max of 3 people in the waiting room rather than 6 had we all had partners with us.

I've managed to get a scan booked for Sunday with windowtothewomb so fingers crossed!

Plus side! My partner is allowed in!

I got my scan today, i was thinking its 8w+5 , but the sonographer told it was 5w+4. He sad Yolk sac is present, but embryo is absent as of now.
Has asked to come again in 2 weeks. I hope all is well.
These 2 weeks are going to be tough...just waiting... All sorts of thought going on in my mind

@Baby2305 that’s great you’ve managed to secure a scan, I had one yesterday at Window to the Womb for reassurance and although the email did say that someone could come along if necessary, I chose to go alone due to not wanting to put anyone at risk. However when I was in there - and they are only allowing one woman in the waiting room at a time, a couple arrive and the man wasn’t even allowed in the front door due to no partners allowed. The lady looked very upset and I wold assume because she read what I did on the email - but it wasn’t up for negotiation. I would ring ahead to get verbal confirmation that you are allowed someone to avoid disappointment. X

I already had phone confirmation. Yesterday as I explained the circumstances and they were very polite and said that they would allow him in. Finger crossed. Praying they will!!

I'd even offer to pay double the price. He's feeling so uninvolved with the baby it's unreal x

I'd even offer to pay double the price

Pretty sure it's not about the money, OP. This is a safety issue.....not just your safety but the safety of their staff too.