everything is going wrong today, how do i keep positive?

[bubbalikescandy]

hi all, what a great site wish i had found it sooner. I am 37 and 1/2 wks pg. Im really stressing today and wanted some advice.
My mum has just told me she is leaving to go to spain (to live) in 9 days so probably wont be here when baby is born. I am upset as i really wanted her here, she said she will e back b4 xmas to visit tho.
My boyf is working away i am worried he will miss the birth and also the company he is working for havent been paying in time so we are owing loads of money out and have final demands etc my employer hasn't told me whether i can get smp or not and havent been paid nfor ages as i work term time.

why does this all have to happen now, how can i stop myself getting upset for the babys sake?

I totally sympathise. I've had several days feeling just like you. In fact, I spent most of Monday in tears

I think it's a combination of pg hormones and also the fact that pregnancy is a really stressful time and there's lots to organise and all sorts of financial/relationship/work worries.

I haven't got any real advice I'm afraid I just wanted to tell you you're not alone. Try to take one thing at a time and focus on the things that you can do something about (sorting out your SMP) rather than the things that are out of your control (like your mum going away). What's the issue with your SMP? There's a good Employment Issues board on Mumsnet where there are lots of helpful mumsnetters who might be able to give you advice.

thanks, my employer just hasnt had time to sort it out? i will look at that board.
i am so looking forward to having this baby just everything else that is getting me down. I am glad i am not alone, i know i am definatley hormonal and a bit neurotic about stuff at the mo, just wish things were simple.

Sorry you are feeling down Bubba.
MN is a great source of help and info. You will soon be like us and never leave...

Why is your mother going in such a rush? Not surprised yuo are feeling stressed with all this to contend with.

thanks, she lives on a boat and is selling it and has to sell it before end of summer, otherwise it goes down in price. She cant live on it while she sells it and is off to spain to find a house and rent there as its cheaper while she finds one. Just why couldnt she of held on 4 weeks or so? i would have.

Yes.Does seem rather selfish.
Do you have other family close by or yuor bf's family?

My family are spread out everywhere but my sister is only 2 hours away and is very supportive. Also i have boyf family and good friends close by so i am lucky in that sense.

That's good.
Being on your own with a tiny baby is hard work.Surprised your mother hasn't remembered that.