husband's kitchen hygiene / my anxiety

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i know i keep posting , i helps to keep me sane

i just noticed my husband putting the dog bowl on the counter top to feed her while i was making dinner. i just lost it with him. he's generally normal to better than most men for hygiene but that just set me off

maternal psychiatrist has suggested an antianxiety medication so hopefully i will get that next week

Depends how you clean your dog bowls and how you use your counters but all the people I have lived with including my DP (male) have a specific designated area for preparing dog/cat food.

Though when you have toddlers who will eat the pet food out of their bowl it makes little difference

Oh and as far as I remember dog biscuits don't taste too bad, but my LO didn't seem to mind eating the cat's food.

I used to eat dog biscuits out of the bowl when I was little. But only the yellow ones.

He put the bowl there to fill it up?
I’m sure the counter can be wiped, you sound way ridiculous.
If you’re the poster I think you are, you’re posts are always OTT, the fact you’re posting suggests you know your behaviour is unacceptable.

i suppose he's not the only husband / family member not to leave the kitchen totally sterile before and after use. my dad isn't super great either. and lots of babies are born healthy

I doubt there’s many ppl who leave anywhere totally ‘sterile’. 🙄🙄

That really isn’t an issue. You are really going to have to work at not overreacting to things like that xxxx

On a more serious note older babies and toddlers are dirty creatures.

Plenty will eat the pet's food out of the bowl to the pet's disgust plus will eat and lick worse.

You need to learn not to freak unless it is actually a known poison. Instead you discourage and distract them.

Yes you are overreacting. I put the cat bowls on the counter to put food in them too

How sexist.

I do this every day with our cat bowls. I don't see the problem.

The cat bowls are washed with hot soapy water after each use, so a clean bowl on the side, that I then put food into.

With my large bump right now I wouldn't want to be bent down to floor level longer than needed.

I'd tell you to use a Dettol wipe, but you'd probably have to go out and sell your body to get one.

You’re not going to be able to keep a baby and a dog in the same house and there not be some cross contamination happening - that’s actually a good thing. Studies have shown that exposure to animals helps reduce the risk of babies developing asthma amongst other conditions.

I’m not sure what the worry here is - are you concerned that it would affect your unborn baby in some way?

thanks everyone for common sense and helpful answers, i am just struggling at the moment, afraid of hurting baby and not myself.feeling very unsteady for the last few weeks. it isn't taking much to set me off but on tues i'll get meds from maternal psychiatrist that will help. in the meantime it just helps to reach out.
@JKScot4 if my posts bug u u don't have to read them or reply. i idon't think i am ridiculous i am struggling so muc and have seen many other posts like mine where women are suffering with perinatal anxiety and depression. when someone in your real life is struggling i hope you dont tell them they are ott or ridiculous. take care
@afternoontwee thanks, yes it's all worry about baby and i know now it's irrational...buthopefully it won't be a problem for the rest of pregnancy. thanx for replies
@Crystaltree

It's not irrational, I feel like you are homing in on something within your control because so much feels out of control right now. It's a coping strategy, and perfectly valid.

You could just say something to him like 'look, I know I am going a bit over the top about this, we are all stressed right now, so just indulge me, ok?' Also work out a routine that you DO want him to do with the bowls, rather than telling him what not to do. So for example he could put kitchen roll on the counter under the bowl, maybe? Or get an extra bowl and put them through the dishwasher in turn? Whatever you feel happy with IS reasonable.