Don’t want sex with DP

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Since getting pregnant I don’t want to be intimate with my DP. The thought makes me feel sick!

Is this normal?

Same 🤷🏽‍♀️

Yep perfectly normal! I went right off sex during pregnancy... Probably took about a tear after her birth before I felt in the mood

Yes I had that we tried a couple of times but I really didn't like it and definitely was not in the mood. DD is 10 months and we have only managed a couple of times since birth too. Slowly I feel like I want it more but the tiredness is what causes us the problems, that and timing of naps etc

Glad you raised this as I’ve been wondering about it too! I’m 9 1/2 weeks. We’ve managed once, which I initiated because I felt bad for not having felt sexy in ages, was having a break from nausea and thought perhaps once I started I’d get in the mood. I did indeed rally but I can’t see it being frequent any time soon. Once I came off the pill I was feeling extra up for it.... but now I feel basically asexual. Sigh.

With my first, a girl, I didn't want it at all. But with my second, a boy, I couldn't get enough. I was also very sick though so I would rather have not been in the mood as I couldn't go through with it even if I wanted to!😅

Is it because of the morning sickness? The first two months were a no to me everything made me want to be sick. Once the nausea went my hormones had me going crazy. Can’t say we go both minded 😂

I’m still feeling sick on and off but I’m over the constant nausea thank god 😅🙏🏼 Glad I’m not the only one feeling this way!
I feel bad on him so sometimes want to initiate but the thought of it is just so off putting.

And I’m 13 weeks now :)

Same! There's another post today which is similar. I can't think of anything worse and felt I was the only one, only hearing about ramped up sex drives!!!

It’s very come and go! My libido was normal until about 8 weeks then completely vanished. Whenever we tried I would feel upset or angry or over emotional. Has started coming back at around 22 weeks but penetrative sex feels somewhat uncomfortable - as someone who pre pregnancy was able to O from PIV I’m a bit annoyed about that! So things have picked up again but it’s mostly ‘everything but’. For some reason everything feels too ‘full’ down there to the point of over sensitivity. Plus covid stress isn’t helping! Despite dampness not being a problem I’ve found lube helpful to dial down some of the sensitivity during foreplay.

I’ve been annoyed about it but hormones (and aches and pains!) have a lot to answer for ! DH is being lovely about it. Personally I think it’s important to keep intimacy, not doing anything you’re not happy to but finding a way to be close. I’m a first time mum but I can’t imagine sex is going to be front of my mind post birth so we’re both aware this ‘drier spell’ could be a marathon rather than a sprint!

Yep. Me too. I think DH was rather dissapointed about how quickly I conceived too!

I’m 20 weeks and feel the same. We’ve managed twice since being pregnant but neither of us really fancy it. My husband is wary of how I feel and I just don’t feel up to it , I spoke to him and he’s fine with it which was a relief ! I was worried about him feeling the lack of compassion but he’s really understanding . I’m hoping it comes back in the third trimester lol

I went right off it in the first trimester - I was exhausted and just had no sex drive whatsoever. Second trimester was better but I'd heard I'd be as horny as a teenager and that never happened! Now I'm 35 weeks and I have no interest in sex again. I think it's mostly down to how uncomfortable and huge I feel. I feel bad about it though and have tried to make an effort even when I'm not in the mood.

I’ve been exactly the same! I’m nearing the end now and still don’t feel like it. We tried a few times in the early weeks but I just wasn’t feeling it.

I couldn't get enough when I was pregnant!!

35 weeks and zero interest here

Same for me too ! We probably have it every couple of weeks + atm but my partner isn't really bothered that I don't want it either.
Think he was hoping I'd be the opposite as I think his friends had warned him about the horny phase but sorry hun, it ain't happening 😂 unless it comes in third tri !

@jdy123 it could well ramp up in the third trimester! DH and I hadn't DTD at all since we got our BFP as I had no desire to but I'm 31 weeks now and it's been a daily occurrence over the past few days (most unlike me). I feel I've def got my mojo back!

@3rdTrimester oh wow really ! I deffo wouldn't be complaining if that happened haha

I spent the first 16 weeks vomiting constantly, so I definitely wasn’t in the mood and I don’t think I looked too appealing either! Since the hyperemesis eased, my libido is just gone and my husband finds the bump weird and off putting (he of course hasn’t actually said that, but when pushed will agree that he finds it difficult not to think about the baby in there, which is not sexy!)

I feel bad for my partner, but he’s being very good about it - we’re super cuddly all the time instead, so I don’t feel like I’m missing the intimacy. Would be nice to have that sex drive boost I was expecting though! We’re nearing our 8th anniversary and have always had an active sex life before now. I miss it.

Same here. Went right off sex during pregnancy. My son is now 3 months and just starting to feel in the mood now.