I hate being pregnant

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Subject line says it all really. I’m 33 weeks now with our first (and only if I get my way) and have hated every waking moment of it. I was diagnosed with Hyperemesis gravidarum (HG) at 8 weeks - IV fluids and anti sickness meds in hospital and then been on the meds ever since. Was bed bound for three months, housebound after that and then guess what just as I was beginning to go swimming and walking - this pandemic hit and now I’m isolating.

Feels like I’ve had it all - stretch marks EVERYWHERE, veiny boobs, cracked tooth this morning, bleeding gums, iron deficiency, heart burn, sore back, sore hips, exhaustion the entire 8 months so far, put on too much weight as far as my app is concerned (midwife has no concerns and I’m usually a very petite 5’2 but I’m the heaviest I’ve ever been in my life and hate it), constipation - the lot!

Couple of friends have just given birth - they had no stretch marks apparently, no adverse symptoms and the most magical journey which just “sped by”. It already feels like I’ve been pregnant for over a year! My body looks like a road map, I feel fat and ugly. And then celebrities post these wonderful photographs of their perfectly proportioned bodies and stretch mark free, tanned skin. Glowing face and bouncy hair. Ugh why have I been so unlucky? And does anyone else feel the same?

Wouldn’t pay no attention to celebs who look perfect they literally have the money to and if we did we’d be the same. You’ve had it rough and I sympathise I’m only 12 weeks and had sickness and I’m tired all the time I’m seriously hoping I’m not like this for the next 6 months. You luckily haven’t got long left, I’d have advised getting your hair done and some pampering but the lockdown has stopped all that ☹️. Little things might help at
Home though, nice long soak? Massage from your dh? Some pregnancy yoga? And just remember it won’t be for long. Even though it’s rough I remember I am extremely lucky and blessed to be pregnant some women don’t get this blessing and would do anytning to be pregnant. Your body is incredible and growing your little person. You wot feel like this forever! X

I do! Tbh I haven't had half the problems you list and it's still pretty miserable a lot of the time. Glowing my arse!

I get you. I’m 9 weeks and suffering HG - I also had it in my first pregnancy and it lasted until DS was born, so I’m not optimistic this time. I’m so grateful to be pregnant but I feel absolutely wank and the anti emetics are making me constipated. Just been sick and now my gums are bleeding.
I’m jealous of women who sail through pregnancy!

I hear you. My children are in their 20s/30s now, and I adored them all from the moment they were born, but I too hated pregnancy

I hate pregnancy too! Number two here for me, I’m only 10 weeks and it’s utter shite. Second time I’ve had hyperemesis.

Wowww I feel like I could have written this post myself!! I am exactly the same, 33 weeks with HG still vomiting all day every day, everything hurts, low iron, fillings dropping out...literally exactly the same as you!!
7 weeks to go!!

Oh op your friends and celebs can just fuck off 😂

I also didn’t have half your problems, bad sickness for first trimester and crippling pgp along with similar things, stretch marks, tiredness, constipation, swollen everything! And I HATED IT

I really wanted my body back and couldn’t wait to give birth. I ended up being consultant led and bit their hand off when they wanted to induce me early!

I am the same! And i have had a pretty easy pregnancy so far.
I just find being pregnant....irritating! Obviously I cannot wait for my baby to be here but the no sleep, sore back and hips, tiredness, all of it is just really getting on my nerves now!

My pregnancy was absolutely awful, I was sick or nauseated for the entire time, and my DS decided he wanted to torture me some more and didn't show up til 17 days after due date! By that time I was an elephant. Its been 2 years since the birth and I'm still not over it physically. Never again, honestly, if I were younger I may consider another one but nope, I'm honestly not sure my body would cope with that again.

I feel for you OP, I felt exactly the same. Hated almost every moment. Diagnosed with HG with both pregnancies and needed meds, couldn't even swallow my own saliva without throwing up. Had symphysis pubis dysfunction so I was constantly in pain, couldn't barely walk, iron deficiency and prenatal depression to top it all off. You're not alone OP 💐💐

me too. physically not too bad but the hormones are sending me round the bend

Don't compare with others! It's a necessary process....I did it twice but hated pregnancy all the way through. No need to feel bad to admit it!

I hated it. I tried for years to have my daughter and I love her but I couldn't stand being pregnant. I had SPD, reflux so bad I used to wake myself up being sick, kidney infections, pleurisy, pre eclampsia, went two weeks overdue, induced which failed, emergency section, went into shock, got sepsis.
You're not alone. It can be bloody awful.

I'm with you! 28 weeks and although I didn't get the sickness, I've had just about everything you have too. It feels bloody awful but don't feel bad about it. Yes it's a 'natural' thing for us to grow a little human, and it'll all be worth it, but that doesn't mean we can't hate the fucking process!

It's nearly over op, keep going. Sending hugs

Also hating it, solidarity OP!

I'm 31 weeks, nasty sickness for the first 18, PGP kicked in at about that point. I've had carpal tunnel in both hands since the start and sleep in wrist braces. Haven't slept through a full night for months. Mobility is appalling and need help with basic things!

The constipation is hideous, am also anaemic and potentially diabetic (awaiting tests next week), have no motivation to do anything and cry all the time. Have loads of pain - back, hips from the PGP, knees - and am thoroughly fed up. Oh, forgot to mention I've developed GERD, which wakes me by causing my to choke on reflux in the night, and the EVIL heartburn!

Then of course there's the ongoing lockdown. No antenatal classes (this is my first), worry about hospital appointments, huge changes in maternity care and birth plan out of the window.

I love my baby. I HATE how shit I am at pregnancy!

You're not alone. I think it's important to be honest about how hard it can be. All we hear is how much of a happy time it's supposed to be, and how we're supposed to be glowing. Gah!

Exactly the same as you, 5'2, couldn't even fit behind the steering wheel..... luckily no sickness but I just hated everything about being pregnant. I got so many stretch marks and spots. Everything was such a lot of effort. Never again! But I do have the most wonderful little two year old now, so worth it in the long run 😀

I didn’t need any hospital treatment but-
The constant seasickness/food poisoning feeling
The SPD
The horrendous heartburn
The haemorrhoids
The bloated lumpen heaving everywhere
The constant starving/tiredness/weepy feeling...,
But I did it three times and one of them was nearly 11lbs....

and they are ruddy brilliant

also clutched husband after each birth and said never again as I was stitched up (2 were induced, one forceps).
Absolutely hated being pregnant and never bloomed, just big sweaty queasy mess, but the are amazing (15,13,11 now)

Yep. I'm also 33 weeks. Although the sickness has gone, I just feel like a large unit slathered in bio oil with terrible hip pain, saggy tits and a bleeding arse and gums. So glam. Although I'm trying to be glad for the fact I now don't have to buy any more maternity clothes and no one's gonna see me.

OP your pregnancy sounds just like mine was. I was utterly miserable for the entire time. I was induced because of low Papp-a and that took three days followed by 17 hours in the delivery suite with a back to back baby, 2 failed epidurals and so much vomit that my DH only job was to take away and replace my emesis basin.

Before I was pregnant I always imagined a family with more than one child and during pregnancy I would have to restrain myself from physically assaulting anyone who suggested that I might voluntarily put myself through that sweet hell again.

The minute he was born and handed to me I knew I'd do it all again in an instant. I promise you it is worth it and these days will be nothing but a distant memory as soon as your little baby is in your arms.