This just got real! Who and when did you tell you were pregnant?

[sojo44]

Just got my first every positive and super nervous.

At the moment I'm debating whether to tell both sets of parents and one close friend (who has a daughter and gone through pregnancy) only as a small support network and also in case anything goes wrong in the early stages.
Then once a little more confident tell siblings, other family and close friends.

When did you tell parents, siblings, other family and close friends?

Congrats!

I told my mum the day I found out (it was mothers day and too good an opportunity not to because shes having an awful time of things at the moment)

Told husbands parents and siblings a week later with my dad and brother. A week after that told my close group of girls because I realised if anything went wrong, I would need them. Because I'm a first timer aswell I've needed their advice on a few things

2nd time round for me. Told ny parents 3/4 days after a positive test and told my best friend about a week later. Told in laws same day as my parents (not that MIL was bothered 'oh that's nice, not very good timing' was her exact response).

I wont be 12 weeks until mid May so holding out hope I may be able to tell other family face to face. I had to tell my mum over the phone which was hard.

Congrats!

I told my good friend who is a midwife at 8 weeks. She knew we'd been trying, and asked me how it was going. I didn't want to lie, so I let slip!

Didn't tell parents/relatives until 15 weeks as I was waiting on some test results. Still haven't told everyone now, and I'm nearly 20 weeks.

Different people do it differently though. I just hate a lot of fuss, so did it sort of stealthily!

We told our parents at 5 weeks. I also told my two best friends who both have had babies themselves. Our siblings don’t know yet - my BIL and SIL have been trying to conceive for over a year and are awaiting assessment by infertility services so I don’t want to tell them while it’s so early on - going to tell them once we have had a scan.

Told best friend 2 weeks after a miscarriage (MC at 8 weeks) because they came to visit and wanted to go out drinking and I wasn't ready so told her then. She was amazing. Told my 2 sisters and both sets of parents about a month after the MC. My mum isn't very subtle and doesn't do emotion or empathy so didn't want to tell her. As expected when I did tell her, she turned it all around onto herself and was indifferent to how I was feeling.

This time around we waited until 12 weeks and after scan. Similar indifference from my mother but rest of family have been great. Was forced to tell colleagues at work because of coronavirus (actually my boss told them, she already sent me to work from home) and they have also been amazing and really supportive.

Everyone is different, tell people when you want to. I'd have told my mother as late as possible if I could have got away with it without her finding out from my siblings or dad....

Congrats!!
We told my mum at 7 weeks as we were visiting her that weekend and couldn’t get around the ‘not drinking’ issue... would’ve left it a bit longer if we could.
It’s an IVF baby so we had plenty of scans; told mum after the 7 week one and once we’d seen everything was still good at 9.5 weeks, we told other parents and then close friends.
Other family was around 16 weeks with coworkers about the same time.

I told my parents and sibling after the 3 month scan and a few close friends. I told nobody else until they'd noticed.

I got pregnant in November and as I had announced my engagement on Christmas day the year before we decided to do the same and announce my pregnancy then. I was six weeks along.
Second time round I was 43 and was a bit nervous so we waited until I was 12 weeks.

congratulations :) we told our family and close friends after a private scan at 8 weeks, I told my manager just after the scan and going to tell my work colleague this week at 11 weeks.

I told the dad (obviously) and my best friend straight away.
I told immediate family around 10 weeks then everyone else as and when I saw them after the dating scan.
Work I told when I was about 15 weeks.

Congratulations.

I told work the day after we found out as I'm a lab worker so they needed to redo my risk assessment. We told my partners family at 16 weeks, my family at 17 weeks and friends after the 21 week scan.

Thank you everyone!! Very wanted though still hasn't sunk in, keep checking the test to see if my eyes are playing tricks on me. 💛

Thank you all for sharing your experiences! It really is such a personal thing on who you tell and when.

At the moment we haven't told anyone yet.
I'd like to have 1 friend to speak to about if all (and have that support network, also if anything bad happens) but we're a bit apprehensive to tell the sets of parents this warily incase they end up accidentally letting things slip to everyone (not maliciously or intentionally but just excited and accidentally mentioning something).
It think we may wait a week or two and see how we feel about it all then, we're definitely more of the "stealth" couple who don't want loads and loads of fuss, especially this early on.