30 weeks and fed up

[Fudgewhizz]

I know I'm so lucky to be in this position and this is a much wanted baby but I just want this to be over. Everything hurts, I'm exhausted, I'm irritable and cranky with DH and DD, I can't get a good night's sleep as hip pain keeps waking me up, I've put on loads of weight, and I just generally feel crap. So down. DH just comes in and says 'are you okay' then leaves which is not at all helpful. He knows I'm stressed by work and all the diy / cleaning stuff that needs doing and I'm getting so frustrated that I can't do any of it because I'm too tired and in pain (usually I'd do the vast majority and not mind). Some stuff can't wait, like painting the baby's room, and it makes such a massive difference to my mental health if the house is clean and tidy. I'm not a clean freak by any means but when everywhere is covered in dog hair and bits it really gets me down! DH can't work from home and is only in once a week so has loads of free time and he doesn't seem to get that I just need him to take initiative and start crossing stuff off the (shared) list because I'm too exhausted and stressed to have to keep asking all the time.

I'm aware that I'm being a horrible cranky person but I just can't help it - and then I start feeling guilty about it which makes everything worse!

@Fudgewhizz
I’m on your boat and feel like we’re rowing it together!
Write him a list. Eat yourself to sleep. 💗

Not that I'd wish it on anyone but I'm kind of glad I'm not the only one!

He keeps saying 'are you alright?' and I want to thump him!!!!

I'm 33+3 and I feel your post in my bones I'm massive, I have cellulite creeping down the front of my thighs, my hips hurt at night so I don't get a decent nights sleep and I'm fed up I can't do my nursery as DP still needs the room as an office for now due to lockdown. I can't do half the stuff in one day I want to as I end up in physical agony. Can't believe I've got 7 weeks (but maybe 9??) left to go?? Fist bump for you!!!

Me too! 33 weeks and 3 days....hip pain, breach baby that kicks me in the bladder all night long, MASSIVE, can't do anything and am so frustrated.
I desperately want to be busy to make the time pass quicker.....it is not fun.

My absolute sympathy to all of you.

Do you find that no one really gets it? They try to be sympathetic but it doesn't quite cut it?

Next time he says “are you alright?”, tell him straight “No I’m not, I need your help”.
Have a little list ready to go through exactly what you need from him. He needs to support you now more than ever. X

I could have written your post. The only thing that was keeping me sane during lockdown was a walk with the dog and I think that's al over now thanks to pelvic and hip pain, yesterday I only managed half a walk before having to stop for being out of breath and by the time I got home I was crippled (I'm not an unhealthy person so I've never felt like this before) DP is doing his best but he doesn't really get it. I won't moan to anyone else but him as I don't want anybody thinking I'm ungrateful but if I could pay somebody to speed up the next 9 weeks I would.

@UndomesticGodde55 Haha if there were such a job I think there'd be queues of us lining up to get someone else to do the last two months!!

What I would like to know, as I'm a first time mum, is - is it normal to need to slow down so much at this stage? I've just done the same as a PP and tried to walk the dog. My normal trip round the field took twice as long and I was really struggling. I'm pretty fit - I've worked out in the gym 3/4 times per week throughout this pregnancy, walked around 12,000 steps per day... I'm not sure if this is a normal amount to need slow things down by? I've notice a real decline in my physical abilities over the past couple of weeks and I'm not sure if it's a result of the lockdown and I should push myself to not lose my fitness? Or give in now and just take things slowly and rest?