did you/are you finding second pregnancy tough?

[crazychemist]

Very early days with second pregnancy, I’m only just 6 weeks. I’m finding it really tough! I’m so exhausted, especially early afternoon and I’m finding it incredibly tough being in lockdown with 3yo and DH. I keep getting really impatient with her and I don’t feel like I’ve got a proper handle on my temper.

This is going to get worse, isn’t it? For those that have two or more children, any advice on getting through pregnancy? I’m absolutely delighted to be pregnant but I’m starting to worry it’s going to have a negative impact on DD.

I’m so relieved that other people are finding it tough (although obviously very sorry for you all too!). I was feeling really pathetic and useless.

I think part of it is down to lockdown. Wish I had a crystal ball to know how things are going to go! I’m not due till December, but I’m already wondering whether my DMum will be allowed to look after DD during labour or whether my DH will have to stay at home with her.

The exhaustion was a really big indicator for me that I was pregnant. With #1 I found out at about three weeks due to heartburn and sore boobs but with #2 it was being absolutely shattered at about five weeks, a genuine fest of not being able to get through the day followed by a bit of nausea in the following days. Lockdown gave me the opportunity to nap 😁 I'm 15 weeks now and past the majority of the shatteredness and nausea although still occasionally gag and still haven't got my appetite back. I concur with the frustration/anger issues too. I'm an absolute nightmare. But I was an absolute hot head in pregnancy #1 as well so try my best to let it go as soon as I can.

Exactly the same. I am 6+3 and really struggling. Nausea/sickness has kicked in this week and I am exhausted. Had awful migraines last weekend which seem to have passed but still headaches. Got a 3 year old who I feel incredibly guilty for and I'm a teacher/on the leadership team so still having to go into work and when I'm not 'in' work I have a mountain of jobs to do. There is no break from anything! My other half has actually been a real blessing getting the house sorted. Think he sees how close to breaking point I am! On top of it all I am terrified I'm going to miscarry and this will all have been for nothing. Then on the same hand I'm terrified I can't cope with a pregnancy/new baby. Sorry for the rant. Just needed to get that out!

This week had felt really tough so sending hugs to those having a rough time!

I'm exhausted and running out of ideas to entertain DS who never seems to run out of energy. There has been tears from both of us and Shouty mummy has made several appearances.

It doesn't get any easier. DD is 3 and I'm 38 weeks. DD should be in nursery 3-4 days a week but obviously isn't..I'm so so tired. Trying to sleep every afternoon by plonking DD Infront of a film or iPad but usually just results in me in a horrible cycle of nodding off and being kicked/poked awake every 30 seconds which just drives me crazy. DD told me I am a bad boring mum, I'm not I'm just exhausted! Usually work part time but would always spend our days off together going on outings or seeing friends. A million times harder than first pregnancy, I can't wait to get this baby out! ASAP!

I'm glad I've found this, I'm 28 weeks with my 2nd and at home with my 3 year old. Situations deffo being made worse with lockdown, but now in third trimester, the exhaustion has struck again! My little boy has never been a good sleeper and is worse since no nursery and lockdown so awake from 5 and up through the night again! It's so tough I think as still have your first child to run around and look after xx

My second pregnancy wasn't too bad, but I'm finding my third very tiring. The first trimester was very tough and I was exhausted, wanting to nap all the time, and nauseous all day long. I'm 20 weeks now and feel better but still feel very sleepy in the afternoon

@wineymummy you’re terrifying me, I was really hoping you were going to say it gets easier! I think I’m also being a “boring mummy”, with DH and I both working from home 3yo DD is not exactly getting attention and education! There’s been more Disney in her life recently than I’m really happy with, and I feel crap at my job too - I used to get stuff done after she was in bed (even before having so little time in the day To work) but I’m just so blinking tired at the moment I nod off as soon as she’s down!

@Chlandy I know what you mean about lack of daycare messing up sleep. My DD has been all over the place, and she’s usually so good these days! She’s been having nightmares too, that relatives are going to die and she’ll never see them again . Not easy to deal with and means none of us are getting enough sleep!

@crazychemist don't be too hard on yourself it's just temporary and who doesn't love Disney?
Im pregnant with my 3rd and honestly this is the hardest one yet I've been so sick and now on medication and just feel exhausted.
My 2 are older at 12 and 8 so they are quite self sufficient.
It will get easier, little one will be back in nursery hopefully long before baby is born.
I've noticed around me lockdown rules are lifting slightly so hopefully we're almost out of the worst.
It's such a strange time to be pregnant xxx