Reassurance please

[mumoftoddlerandteen]

Hi all, first time poster here and looking for some words of comfort.

I am a mum to a toddler boy (age 2) and a teenage girl (age 13).

I found out I was pregnant with my third very much planned for and wanted baby. I found out about 3 weeks ago.

Started having some brown spotting last Friday evening which stayed as spotting until around 2 days ago. Turned into red bleeding at that point. Managed to get a scan at the early pregnancy unit yesterday and they could see the gestational sac but no yolk or anything else. By my periods I should be around 6 weeks 6 days at the time of the scan yesterday. They also took bloods and hormone levels sound ok to me with my very limited knowledge acquired from Google! I have another scan booked for two weeks time to check.

Bleeding continued after scan with some clots and still happening this morning although not quite as heavy.

No pain at all to date.

It’s not looking good for this pregnancy which is gutting but part of me knows deep down that sometimes you need to trust in Mother Nature and what will be will be.

I’m just finding this time very hard, both myself and my partner expected to work from home as many hours close to our usual hours as possible, care for toddler and the teenager too.

Today is good Friday so I’ve been resting this morning in bed but I feel guilty for letting my husband just ‘get on with it’ caring for the toddler as he is finding the ‘not knowing’ about the pregnancy very hard too. I don’t want to reach out to friends at this stage because I don’t feel comfortable talking about it. I’ve told my mum but it’s hard she can’t comfort me as usual due to this lockdown.

Teenager being tricky and usual teenager behaviour - not doing very much Apart from in her room on phone/tv etc so I’ve got the worries of her physical and mental health on my mind as well. Although I guess it’s normal teenager behaviour.

Beating myself up for not getting up and getting on with creating all sorts of wonderful educational experiences for the toddler or taking the teenager on long walks but to be honest at this time I just want to take it easy as I’m likely losing my baby sad

Just after someone to say ‘you’re doing ok and do what you need’ really. Or am I being dramatic?

You’re not being dramatic. Look after yourself. Your teenager sounds exactly like mine and it’s definitely more hassle than it would be worth at the moment trying to get her to go out for a long walk. Your toddler will be fine. They won’t ever remember this point in their lives and definitely won’t be affected by Mummy resting up for a few days. :) so focus on you and your baby. When I miscarried, it hurt, the cramps were awful, and my hormone levels dropped drastically while I was in hospital being checked over. At the moment you say yours seem fine, take hope from this :) a good friend of mine bled for the first 8 weeks of pregnancy. She was convinced she was miscarrying but she’s recently had a perfectly healthy baby girl. Rest as much as you can and don’t worry about what you aren’t doing. X

Thank you, I really needed to hear that xxx