Just found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant and I’m so scared

[Amor88]

I found out I’m pregnant last week and I’m so scared and really not sure I’m ready for this I came off my pill a few months ago because my bf of 7years was saying we should try for a baby iv never really been to worried if I had kids or not and I know it sounds silly but I just thought if it happened it happened but now it has I really don’t feel ready I’m 32 years olds, have an ok job and we own our 1 bed flat (not really ideal ) but I still worry about the financial struggle and stress, at the moment all I can focus on is the negative and the change it’s going to have on my life, I must sound so selfish but I don’t feel excited or happy about it and I’m so worried and scared we told very close family members and they seem more excited then me is it normal to feel like this. Iv not even made a doctors appointment as it makes it real then and I really don’t feel ready

Ok, don’t panic. You don’t need to make a doctors appointment yet anyway - the person you usually see is the midwife for a booking in appointment at about 8 weeks. These are being done by phone at the moment, you usually make the appointment when you are 6/7 weeks.

A certain amount of panic is absolutely normal! First babies make lots of people realise that there’s going to be a lot of change. Take a deep breath. The changes don’t all happen at once. You have 8 months till the baby even arrives, and very tiny babies don’t need much at all - a few vests and grows, lots of nappies, a way of getting around (what’s appropriate depends on the kind of area you live). While you might not think your 1 bed flat is ideal, the advice is for the baby to sleep in your room till at least 6 months, so no second room needed for AT LEAST 14 months from now. Personally, my DD didn’t go into her own room till she was 18 months as that was what was easiest for us. No biggie.

Family members will be excited. They get all the positives but won’t have the same worries that you will. Yes, it changes your life having children, some things will never be the same again. But those changes can be really satisfying and fulfilling.

If you’re feeling stressed, talk to your partner. What exactly do you think needs to change, and on what timescale? Work out what’s realistic.

Thank you for replying I really appreciate it, I’m still not sure what to do I’m so scared Iv had really bad cramping pain on and off the last couple of days and mentally just not in a good place at all xx

Don't worry, honey, give yourself time and space. Take each day as it comes and do what you can. Just remember to take care of yourself. Nothing you described in your situation is an impediment to having a child.

You will have lots of time to deal with whatever worries you and hopefully soon you will see the positive sides. Keep in mind, that being emotional and feeling negative may be caused by a rush of hormones. Let your body adjust. Rest, pamper yourself where you can.

I am similar to you, situation in life-wise, and had a similar approach to pregnancy, and my first reaction was disbelief that it actually happened. But if you let it happen it means deep down you were ready and this was your desire.

Just give yourself time, accept whatever emotions you are going through now, but do not let them carry you away. Take good care of yourself.