Cant stop worrying

[Jadegkeaney]

This is my first pregnancy, I am 10+5. Had a scan at 7+5 and they said everything was perfect, heartbeat etc. I have not once vomited but felt a bit sick in the evenings but that has subsided quite a bit now. Boobs are a tad tender..more so nipples. I get headaches daily and I'm still very tired. Had a bit of spotting too. I'm basically fixated that when I have my 12week scan I'm going to be told I had a MMC.. I dont know if seeing peoples stories on here is messing my head up. I've even heard there are some sick people that make stories up for attention which is awful. Is it this normal to be so anxious? Should I call my midwife? I dont want to waste anyone time. TIA

2 things: first of all, it's very normal for symptoms to come and go; And secondly, it's totally normal to feel this way before your 12 week scan.

MMC is actually very rare but I think forums like this (and the internet in general) make it seem far more common than it actually is. If people have a normal scan they don't really post about it but, if there's a problem, people turn to forums like this for support. Hence why it can seem like such a regular occurrence.

I was absolutely beside myself and didn't sleep for days before my scan then I went and everything was perfect. I'm now 22 weeks and I was exactly the same before my 20 week scan. Welcome to the very anxious world of pregnancy!

Good luck with your scan x

@Jadegkeaney I could have written this myself! First timer, 10+5 today, normal scan at 7 weeks. I had a bit of vomiting which is now mostly settled, boobs are a little sore, but nothing major. And yes, I am very anxious re 12 week scan. I am taking it one day at a time, trying to keep my mind occupied which is sort of helping.
You are not alone in this 😘

Symptoms definitely come and go. Your feelings are very normal, perhaps you should try to avoid reading threads for a while that indicate possible mc? It just heightens feelings of anxiety. Chances are, it'll all be fine.

I had a mmc this week last year and I'd never even heard of them until I was told I'd had one. It has made this pregnancy a nervy place!

I'm exactly the same as you. I'm 12 weeks today and have my scan on Tuesday. I'm so worried about being told bad news on Tuesday and have been reading posts on here non stop. Have been trying to avoid reading any topics that look like they'll upset me over the last few days to try to keep myself calm!
Worried in case of bad news seeing as my husband won't be there.
I know I'm being irrational and chances are everything will be ok, but it is difficult!
We just have to take one day at a time and I am sure all will be ok x

I'm feeling exactly the same. I'm 9+5 today and my symptoms seem to have gone, slightly sore boobs now but that's about it. Am very nervous as I started bleeding at 9+6 last time and that was a MMC. I'm.trying to be in the frame of mind of what will be will be but that's alot easier said than done.

I am exactly the same, a bit ahead at 13 weeks but I’ve only been feeling extremely nauseous but have only actually been sick once and that was in the evening! Boobs are sore but not too bad, and I had a bleed at around 6 weeks. I had my 12 week scan this week preparing myself for the worst but it was all absolutely fine and the staff in the hospitals are so lovely, my partner wasn’t allowed in but they made me feel so comfortable!
Good luck x

Thanks for the reassurance ladies. I am not avoiding all threads that may set me off. Part of me thinks maybe there should be a separate forum for more serious issues or concerns.. i never thought i would be a nervous wreck in pregnancy! The 23rd cant come quick enough!!

@Jadegkeaney there is - it is called miscarriage and pregnancy loss. It is mainly directed at individuals who have confirmed pregnancy loss and therefore it is up to the user to filter the threads that they are reading through.

I'm incredibly anxious through this pregnancy too (IVF and I've had lots of bleeding). No symptoms except occasional nausea. Baby perfect on my 12 week scan yesterday.

The two things I have found helpful for reducing my anxiety is knowing the statistics and not reading scary things. Statistically, after seeing a heartbeat your miscarriage risk drops to about 10%. There was a study done that showed women experiencing recurrent miscarriages (so women who are LESS likely to continue a pregnancy than you are if you have had no miscarriages so far)... if they heard a heartbeat at 6 weeks of pregnancy had a 78% chance of the pregnancy continuing. It also showed that seeing a heartbeat at 8 weeks increased the chance of a continuing pregnancy to 98% and at 10 weeks that went up to 99.4%. That isn't going to be totally accurate for you because it was only women with recurrent miscarriages but you are likely to have BETTER odds than that.

After 12 weeks you have somewhere between a 1%-5% chance of a miscarriage. And remember that that number includes all women - women who might be significantly older, ongoing health issues etc, as well as people healthier than you!

Whilst it is possible to be on the negative side of those odds, it is by definition extremely unlikely. Thinking about it in perspective helps. After 12 weeks you are twice as likely to be bright enough to be accepted into Mensa as you are to have a miscarriage!

datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer.php I don't know if this helps but I've enjoyed watching the risk levels tick down every day, I thought I wouldn't be able to wait until 20 weeks when you can't use it any more but as it is I naturally stopped checking in every day, in the same way I stopped doing tests every day - spent most December mornings POAS! Now 22 weeks and everything going really well

It's totally normal to worry about this stuff OP but equally you need to keep everything in proportion, every day is a step closer to a baby at the end of this. Try to avoid reading things that you just know will get yourself upset - I read so many 12 week MMC stories and in the lead up to my 20 week I had that same urge to start googling, but knew it a) wouldn't change the outcome and b) just get me upset.

I think the current situation with covid has everyone's anxieties up in general, so it's not unusual or weird for you to feel this way (I know I did and that was without a global pandemic hovering over me!) but you are in control of whether you let this stuff get into your head.

Worrying about miscarriage won't affect the likelihood of you having one, but it will 100% affect your enjoyment of your pregnancy, which is such a gift... it took us nearly a year to get pregnant so every time I started worrying I just told myself that I hadn't finally got here just to ruin the whole thing with self-induced stressing!

@Dollywilde great post, thank you 🙏🏻

@Dollywilde yes really good post thank you. Feeling more positive now.