Scan misery, awaiting amnio results

[mamaskelz]

Hi all,

I just wondered if anyone has experienced anything similar to what I’m currently going through?

At our first scan we were told the chin looked small and that we would be referred to a fetal consultant for a second opinion. Fast forward three weeks and we attended our consultant scan in a second hospital only to be told he was off sick and just had the initial scan repeated by the sonographer to be told the same information again, the chin looks small and we need to see a consultant.

We were given a consultant appointment in third hospital, he struggled to see the chin properly due to the placement of the placenta and angle of the baby but did say he thinks the chin is small. We were advised to have an amnio which I have now had and am awaiting results. Apparently everything else looks fine with the baby.

I am utterly utterly miserable as the hospital have already briefly mentioned terminations and have mentioned various disabilities etc as they have to make us aware of what options are available to us if needed.

We have just been through lots of waiting and anxiety for weeks and I am loosing hope at this point.

Can anyone relate to this at all and so sorry for the long post!!

I’ve no experience of this specific issue, but I’ve had a distressing scan before so I know the agony you’re going through. It is so, so hard, especially the endless waiting.

When do you get the results from the amnio back OP? I’ve got everything crossed for you

Morning 👋🏻

The first results should come back Thursday and the next lot will be in two weeks. We’re then seeing the consultant in three weeks so he can have a look at the scan again.

Xx

As per pp above, I don't have experience of this but have had a bad scan before so just wanted to offer a hand hold.. all that waiting around must be miserable. Really hope you get good news 🙏 Stay strong x

Thank you for your kind comments xxx

You poor thing. I've been there and done that with scan abnormalities and I find in my experience drs are either very doom and gloom or extremely positive, there is no inbetween. I will try and go into more detail later, at the moment I'm being badgered by the result of one of my abnormal scans who wants me to get off the computer so he can play roblox!

I've had two amnios and two CVS tests over 3 pregnancies and it is hell on wheels waiting for results. You have all of my sympathy and I sincerely hope that your news is good, OP.

I've had an amnio after an increased neck measurement. It was 3 weeks all in all and it was horrific. Nothing makes it feel better but you will get through this because you have to. I hope it is good news for you, but whatever happens, you'll know soon enough what's best to do for your family and your baby x

@elliejjtiny 🤣🤣🤣

Hello @mamaskelz
Junping on here too if you don't mind. Not entirely the same as you but I had the amnio on Thursday after it was confirmed at my 20 week scan my little girl has a heart defect that can sometimes be associated with a missing chromosome.
Had the fast results back today which was really quick and all was clear but it's the full array they are worried about for me.
I have never felt so anxious and upset! No matter what, we still have the heart condition we have to get our heads around but that can hopefully be fixed with surgery and she can still live a happy, normal life.
If I could just have the reassurance that there's nothing else wrong in terms of chromosome abnormalities that would really help me get through the rest 😟

The waiting is just the worst especially as we have already made the difficult decision that if the results come back positive we would terminate due to the syndrome being a particularly nasty one 😞
So my pregnancy now feels like it's on "hold" and I feel guilty every time I feel her kick. Worst thing I've ever had to wait for! My little boy who is 2 and a half talks about his baby sister in my tummy all the time as we've tried really hard to prepare him for her birth and now the thought of having to tell him she won't be coming anymore is killing me!

Just wanted to vent and to send love and luck to anyone else in this horrible waiting game at this doubly horrible time ❤️

@TJ17 I’m so sorry you’re having to go through all this, its bloody awful.

My amnio came back clear but they’re still concerned the chin looks small which can be a few severe disability’s. I really really feel for you, it’s the worst situation to be in and horrible decisions needs to be considered. I’m exactly the same with my little boy as well, it breaks my heart.

I can’t advise on what the heart defect could be as I really don’t know but all I’ll say is we always jump to the worst possible outcomes and the consultants have to prepare you for the worst in case they get sued. Have they said to you what it could be and what the treatments options could be?

I’m being scanned again in 6 weeks 😏

Thinking of you x

Oof feeling for both you and op, our baby is also going to be born with a couple of heart conditions, and a high (they reckon roughly 50%) chance of a chromosomal problem too. We won't know until baby is born if he has downs etc as we decided early on to decline tests and just give baba the best possible care we could, but it really won't be easy at all. I hope both of you have things turn out as well as they possibly can and send socially distanced hugs to you both.

Thanks all. Yeah we know what the heart condition is - it's called Tetralogy of Fallot and we've been told that 30% of the time it is down to a missing chromosome hence the amnio. (So 70% chance it's just the heart issue and it's not caused by anything else!)
We researched the chromosome problem to be able to make an informed decision about what's best for our family (I have to consider my 2 and a half year old too and how his life will be affected) and we decided it's just not something we would be able to live with. It carries with it a particularly low immune system where even a cold can turn fatal. It would mean that my little boy would have to give up so much of his life in order to not pass on any germs in her first few years. I just don't think it would be fair on him.
It is also associated with many types of mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, autism, ADHD and schizophrenia. On top of that feeding problems, physical problems etc etc
Personally I don't feel like it would even be a nice life for her.
People with Down syndrome tend to be so happy and are able to live with some kind of independence but this syndrome we are being faced with just sounds so miserable 😩
The heart defect can be fixed with surgery and although we are sad she will have to go through this, we are very hopeful that she will make a full recovery and go on to live a very normal and active life (albeit with further surgery throughout her life) so it's not so bad!

7 days today since my amnio so hopefully we are at least halfway to getting results!

So glad your results came back clear! That's brilliant news but sorry you're still having to worry and not have answers to them finding a small chin. As a bit of reassurance my cousin was told her son had a high risk of being born with Down syndrome due to having a large head but it turns out it was just that! He has a large head (not so large that he looks different to any other child mind you) but is otherwise completely fine! Sometimes people do have different facial features so it could just well be that! It's good they are being so thorough for you though and looking into it. Praying it turns out to be nothing for you.

Sorry for the long waffle!

Hi all, had my full results of the amnio back clear today so that was wonderful news.