Feeling total indifference towards pregnancy.

[MissBax]

I know this is a strange time for everyone, and being locked in can play games with us. But I am feeling absolutely nothing about being pregnant and I'm starting to worry I won't get at all excited and may even struggle to bond when baby is born.
I'm 12 weeks and due my dating scan this week and don't feel remotely interested or excited about it. This will be my 2nd child and was planned but my mood has been low anyway with being locked in (now on week 4 with a toddler). Is anyone else feeling the same?
I'm hoping if/when the lockdown gets relaxed I might start feeling better but at the moment I just feel nothing and void of joy about it all.

Hey don't worry I think given the circumstances it's pretty normal and the second is always a bit of a worry, cause your worried about your first one not getting as much attention and when your struggling with one (cause of this blood lock down) you wonder what the fuck am I gonna do with another one screaming at me lol

I'm pregnant with my 3rd, about 14 weeks, I was excited then I got awful morning sickness then the lock down with a 2 and 4 year old.. I'm not questioning my choice aha

Yes me! I'm 10 weeks, very similar situation- lockdown with my ds (2.5). I feel really disconnected from the baby so far- haven't seen it, obviously not felt it move yet. At the moment it just feels like a concept that I can't quite get my head around that is causing me to be (even more) isolated and unable to have a drink!
I think it's just a very strange time at the moment and I am really hoping that the scan will help. Just wanted to say you're not alone xx

This is me too except it’s my first! I’m 10 weeks and really struggling with how I’m feeling. I think partly due to the lockdown but also that feeling of ‘what have I done, will I cope etc etc’ the fear of the unknown...

It’s a difficult time at the best of time’s but I think even more difficult when there is less going on to distract us, I know for me as I’m working at home I feel really trapped and the evenings just drag knowing that there’s not much to do...

If you’re still struggling it may be worth asking for a referral to the peri-natal mental health team x

I think it's normal for a lot of women to have the 'what have I done?', 'this is a mistake', 'I can't do this', 'I've ruined my life' panicked thoughts in early pregnancy even in normal circumstances so this pandemic and lock down just exaggerates all those thoughts and feelings no.one really talks about. Plus you've got more time to over think everything when you're in the house all the time.

I just wanted you to know that you're not alone and there is nothing wrong with you.
It's a tough time to be pregnant now with the restrictions on scans, telephone appointments instead of face to face and the added worry that we could be more vulnerable to the virus. It's awful.

For the vast majority of women, it does pass after the first trimester and seeing your baby at the dating scan. I think that just makes it seem more real and then, hopefully your symptoms die down a bit too and it's just altogether more manageable.

If it doesn't pass and you're worried it's more than the normal doubts/anxiety, then do talk to someone and ask for help. Don't suffer alone.

You arent alone. I'm coming up to 8 weeks, first one and whilst hubs is very excited and over protective of me... I'm a bit meh. Which is odd. I think its partly because although I've been able to tell close family, I havnt seen them, I'm stuck in the house permanently working from home and cant seem to get excited.

How are you feeling @MissBax ?
Tbh I feel the same at the moment. I'm hoping the feelings change when I have my first scan but I am a little concerned as I am extremely meh about the whole thing and feeling crap everyday with nausea and food aversions.
I'm not a maternal person at all but do love kids (babies I find a little boring )
I worry I won't be a good mum (this is my first pregnancy) but am just hoping it will be diff with my own. Everyone says it will but I still can't help but worry But maybe these feelings are normal, who knows 🤷🏻‍♀️

I've felt the same most of the time, and similarly this is my second (my son is 6).

It's only been this last week, between 15-16 weeks that I've been looking at baby stuff online and ordered a few things. I've not felt kicking yet, some odd flutters.

Personally I think after the next scan I'll probably be a bit more with it if that makes sense.

The lockdown has been good for relaxing and taking things slow generally though which has been good x

Agreed @cherryrainbow, the one good thing about this lockdown is that when this blooming pregnancy fatigue kicks in the afternoons, my DH has my Ds2 for an hour and I get a lie down. Otherwise it's like watching the Duracell bunny batteries running down!

How did you get on with your scan, @missbax? Feel any better?