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Would you be mad if a sibling announced their pregnancy during a family member's funeral ?

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Narymoam · 05/04/2020 14:52

Imagine if your mother always wanted to be a grandmother but passed away. Would it be inapropriate to announce your pregnancy during her funeral ? There would be about 30 people including young siblings aged 10 , 14 and 17 and your father. Could it hurt any of them ?

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PeacockPies · 05/04/2020 15:26

Hell no! Announce you are pregnant at the funeral of someone who always wanted to be a grandmother. The funeral!

Are you going to get some bunting made with 'almost made it Sonia' on it for the wake?

Hercwasonaroll · 05/04/2020 15:30

Absolutely awful idea

There won't be 30 people at a UK funeral right now.

PicturesOfCats · 05/04/2020 15:31

Depends how it’s done.

A big announcement, probably no.
But quietly telling people, sure why not. Might as well when everyone is there together.
Although, at the moment, not sure how funerals are working tbh, so may be a moot point.

My cousin told us all she was pregnant, the day our nan died.
She’s found out that morning, and told us all. (We were all at the house)
I don’t think badly of her at all, I think maybe if circumstances were different, she would have kept it to herself longer. I think she was just overwhelmed with emotion, she had gone from being so happy to so sad bless her

Morgan12 · 05/04/2020 15:32

My cousin sort of announced her pregnancy at our grandads funeral but that was because we were all getting pissed afterwards and she wasn't. So we all kinda figured it out. An actual announcement would be so inappropriate. And very attention seeking. And just a strange thing to so tbh.

Dozer · 05/04/2020 15:34

Inappropriate.

Unless perhaps the pregnant woman is the only DC of parents both now deceased.

GlitchStitch · 05/04/2020 15:34

I'm sorry for your loss but I think it would be inappropriate. Your siblings are so young, I'd be focused on supporting them through the day, not making announcements.

user1493494961 · 05/04/2020 15:39

Totally inappropriate.

fuzzymoon · 05/04/2020 15:44

That may be seen by some as someone who wants the limelight on them.

I wouldn't do it and I be one of the 'some people'.

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Narymoam · 05/04/2020 15:44

It's a memorial ceremony after the funeral. Sorry I don't know the exact term in English

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Narymoam · 05/04/2020 15:46

It's not me. But my late step mom's daughter.

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Ilovejammies90 · 05/04/2020 15:54

Bad idea. Its not about your step sister and she should wait or have waited for a more appropriate time

Fluffycloudland77 · 05/04/2020 15:58

It’s tacky as fuck. Very few people care if your pg or not.

wintertime6 · 05/04/2020 15:59

Well if it's in the UK, it could be a number of months before any gatherings are allowed to happen with so many people, so I'd imagine people will already know she's pregnant by then.

MiaowMix · 05/04/2020 16:08

So she's already announced it to you?
You're one of the siblings aged 17,10 or 4?
What country is this?
I'm so confused by this

MiaowMix · 05/04/2020 16:08

Sorry, 14 not 4

Whiskersandtwitch · 05/04/2020 16:13

Telling people you are pregnant is no making an announcement. It is just telling people what you are currently up to which is what people do when they chat and catch up. I think it is fine to say how you are doing whether that entails pregnancy or not.

LovingLola · 05/04/2020 16:17

So the announcement was not made at the actual funeral ?
How long afterwards did the memorial take place?

Bluntness100 · 05/04/2020 16:17

I certainly wouldn’t be mad, but I’d think it was poor timing and quite selfish as the ceremony was supposed to be about the deceased and remembering them, not about whomever was pregnant.

So I’d feel it was in poor taste, bad timing and quite self absorbed,

Chloemol · 05/04/2020 16:33

Well for a start if it’s a memorial service I assume you are not in the UK to have 30. I assume they all live separately, therefore can’t mix at the moment

Yes it’s selfish, it’s about your stepmother not her daughter

TemoraryUsername · 05/04/2020 16:44

It's not clear if you're asking for yourself or because somebody else did this and you're trying to work out if you're being unreasonable to be upset.

If it's the latter - it's not unreasonable for you to be upset, but try to be understanding - they perhaps thought that it would be appropriate, a nice silver lining to a cloudy day.

If it's the former; don't. It's not appropriate and is likely to cause others hurt. Do a nice announcement completely separately.

MichelleOR84 · 05/04/2020 19:57

I personally wouldn’t want to announce that . It just seems like an odd time to do it .

It also seems a bit disrespectful unless the funeral was more like a celebration and then maybe I could see it working . Life continues type thing .

But I still think it’s an odd time to do it .

Aly92 · 06/04/2020 01:01

Are we talking about you here? This is so messed up. What is wrong with people. Poor mother can’t even have a day dedicated to her in peace even after her death smh

PrinnyPree · 06/04/2020 10:09

I didn't "announce" my pregnancy at my Uncles funeral, however during the wake when my cousin offered me wine and I refused and she insisted and then I told her why I couldn't drink it kind of got announced by accident when she told her siblings and the rest of the family.

I would say don't use the occasion to announce your pregnancy just because you have a family gathering but if it comes out in conversation to some close family members that's fair enough. Just be tactful.

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