Really unwell, need support

[La1ka]

Hello all!

This is my first time here, I am posting because I really need some support.

I’m 14 weeks pregnant (baby due early October) but I have never been so unwell in my life! I am sick every single day, sometimes all day and I can’t keep anything down. I wake up in the middle of the night with splitting headaches. I’m bloated, constipated, I have shortness of breath when I’m out walking, Im exhausted, I keep getting dizzy spells, basically I’m a mess.

My doctor has given me medication to stop the sickness, but today I just threw it back up again. I’m miserable; I can’t do anything, even a bath is exhausting. This has been going on for maybe 6 weeks now, and it is starting to get me down. I can’t eat, even when I’m really hungry because everything makes me feel sick, I’m managing maybe 1000 calories a day maximum.l and it’s not the varied, healthy diet I used to have. I’m worried that this is causing problems for the baby, and I’m starting to get to the point where all I want to do is cry. My poor husband is working so hard at home during this horrid period and I feel so guilty that I am not supporting him. I am forcing myself to do a walk every day with the dog to keep up with exercise, but after wards I have to sleep immediately.

I’m worried this is my lot for my whole pregnancy! Everyone I have spoken to has maybe had one or two symptoms, but goes on about how much they loved pregnancy but I’m starting to hate it which then makes me feel more guilty!

I am just looking for some support from ladies who may know how I feel! I just don’t know how I will get through this if it goes on for much longer.

Sorry to be such a downer on my first post! X

Could you have hyperemesis? My step mum had this through both her pregnancies & was really unwell with sickness & couldn’t keep anything down. She was hospitalised towards the end for weeks so they could keep her hydrated. I would contact your midwife for advice as it sounds similar!

I'm 15 weeks and I fee your pain with the headaches!
My friend looked liked she was dying for the first 5 months of her pregnancy and was very similar to you.
My other friend was sick from the second she conceived until two weeks after she gave birth. She ended up hospitalised for over a week so they could get some fluids and vitamins into her body.
It totally sucks when you feel like that.
I know it's tough but keep trying to drink plenty of water, vitamin and mineral supplements, the plainest most boring food you can find and sleep when you need to.
Paracetamol for the headaches, just not too many.
Meditation and yoga is also good for calming your mind and helping with the headaches. Give it a whirl if you haven't already.
I do hope you start to feel better soon! You poor thing! 😭😁

Ring the hospital, you need fluids and it sounds like you might be anaemic too.

Sounds like possible corona virus to me!!

Speak with Pregnancy Sickness Support and look up Hyperemesis Gravidarum. There’s other medications you can try if your current medication isn’t working. There’s also a HG support thread on here. Talk to your GP and also look at the RCOG guidelines for HG. It’s really tough but you have treatment options and you need to push for them.

Oops sorry ignore my post, I didn't read yours properly

I feel your pain - this is how I feel most days (9 weeks) I have bouts of sickness and have nausea literally all day every day :(

Also get dizzy and can’t stop drinking, asked midwife (I had 2 in my appointment) and they both shrugged it off as ‘normal’ pregnancy symptoms.

I’ve not found anything other than rest helpful I’m afraid :( people keep telling me it will get better though

I'm so sorry OP that you are having such a bad time, please contact your midwife and GP again as I think there are other medications you can try and possibly a drip if you're dehydrated/anaemic. Don't worry about what you're getting down you the baby needs very little at this point so anything you keep down is a plus. Also don't worry too much about the exercise, you don't want to burn off too much of the energy you are managing to eat. Finally, you need your partners support and not the other way around, he/she should just be looking at you and thanking their lucky stars that they aren't the one going through this. Good luck and I hope this stops soon for you x

Sorry you are having such a hard time OP.
I had a terrible time during the first trimester, the worst was from about 7 weeks to 11 weeks! I honestly thought it would never end and I hated being pregnant.
I'm now 20+3 and it's called down alot. I still get occasional bouts of sickness (once or twice a week), sore boobs and tiredness but most other symptoms have gone.....heartburn is a new one to replace the lost symptoms! I feel better though and I'm actually enjoying being pregnant (never, ever thought I'd say that!).

Hopefully your symptoms will start to ease up soon OP. Just be careful with dehydration as others have mentioned. Also, be aware of HG. It's pretty rare but it can affect women their whole pregnancy.

*calmed down

It usually does get better for most women but sadly doesn’t always happen once first trimester ends. I felt better by week 18 in one pregnancy and week 20 in another.

Thank you for all your comments, and really sorry to hear about those of you going through the same thing! I don’t feel like it’s serious enough for me to be concerned about being hospitalised. I think if the situation were different then I would go and speak to someone, but with things as they are I feel like it would be an unnecessary burden - as I say I am getting some food and drink in me most days. I also don’t get on with my midwife; she seems unbothered really, unfeeling and disinterested, so not sure how much support she will be!

Thank you all for your suggestions, I will check out that support group and see what they say! And I get that dehydration is a major issue.

If anyone wants to whinge then please feel free!

You sound anaemic. It can make you feel absolutely dreadful.

Hi OP. So sorry you're feeling like this. Honestly I could have written this myself. I am almost 13 weeks now and I have been sick since week 6. I've been on a rollacoaster of vomitting, hunger and vomitting. Oh and constipation. I had migraines before being pregnant but this is on another level. I have never felt so helpless in all my life and it is really getting me down. I honestly feel like this is enough to give me ptsd! I dread eating and going to the bathroom. And I feel like a caricature as everyday brings a new complaint. I am worried that this is going to push me in to depression. I had a miscarriage in November so I feel really grateful to be pregnant but I also can't believe how awful I feel.

I really feel for you all. My baby is now a few months old but the pregnancy was awful, it started to improve at 20 weeks but still didn’t feel amazing. It really took its toll emotionally.
Try not to overdo it, sleep when you can, it won’t be forever even though it feels like it. Take care. Oh and I found Pepsi max helped with nausea a little.