I dont know what to do!

[LibbyAshleigh]

At the moment, me, my fiancé, and my 4 month old son live in my parents house. We were supposed to go and look at our new house on the 3rd of April. But obviously that didn't happen because of the virus. And I am not happy. I'm really not in a very good place at all. And to top it all off, I'm pregnant again, 9 weeks. And I don't want to tell my parents until I've had my 12 week scan. Which is on the 24th April. But I've heard that we could be in until May or June and I can't keep it a secret for that long. You may think I'm silly or unreasonable but it's just something about me, it's who I am, but I planned out how we're going to tell people this time. And now I'm afraid it might be ruined. Because we were supposed to go and see my fiancé's parents and our grandparents. But we might not get to do it now, and as childish as this sounds, I can't handle that. It's something in me, I dont know what it is, but I can't change a plan that I've made. I was so excited about moving out and having our own space but now it's ruined. And some of you may think I'm stupid for being this way but I don't think I can handle being in this house for much longer. With 4 irritating cats, 3 dogs one of which is the most annoying and smelly thing on the planet, my brother and sister, my dad and worst of all, my mum. Who I clash with so much at the minute. I won't get big for a while, so it may not be a huge problem but I can't tell them any other way than I've planned out. That's just how my brain works and I'm in so much mental frustration hiding the fact that I feel sick, that I have to take my vitamin tablets and everything else. And what's worse is my hormones are kicking in and making me behave like I'm 17 again. Which really isn't good believe me. I'm working on that though.
Anyone know anything that might help me? I'm struggling so much with this lockdown rubbish :(

And also! If we go into complete lockdown where we have to ask permission to go out, I'll be screwed because my appointments still need to happen so they'll find out that way. What am I going to do? Sneak out and ask for permission when I'm outside?

You sound very frustrated with your living conditions which is understandable and does sound like a lots to deal with with so many in the house but this won’t go on forever and plans can be made again.

As far as your pregnancy announcement goes, it may be the way your brain works but that does not trump the way the world works, we are living through a pandemic with no end date to work towards. Things change and as adults we have to adapt whether we want to or not.

A lot of people have had to change plans and pregnancy announcements and even delay IVF treatments, it’s just tough luck.

It’s sad, but you need to just make the best of things at the moment. Your mum may guess or she may not, it’s not the end of the world if she does. You will still have a lovely baby at the end of it all.

I've had to change the entire way I planned to give birth. This is a situation where plans need to be open to change I'm afraid.