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Would you cancel NCT - going online

22 replies

Dollywilde · 03/04/2020 13:01

We’re halfway through paying our direct debits for NCT classes. Baby due August, classes are June and July. We’re London so the cost is £304 - we can afford this but it’s not an insubstantial amount of cash and we could put this towards other things for baby/ML as I’ll be on SMP.

Just had an email today to say the class will be over Zoom. Tbh the main benefit for me was meeting the other couples and establishing a support network. Apparently we will all be put in touch with each other but I’m not sure it’s really the same (or something I couldn’t get via MN/Fb) with a view to a meet up after birth, although obviously this is dependent on not going back into lockdown etc. If we cancel 4 weeks before the classes start we get our money back less £30.

I feel relatively confident with the theory/info around birth and figure that £300 could pay for both a 1:1 lactation consultant session at home and a 1:1 sleep consultant session if needed afterwards.

Bearing in mind we were prepared to spend the money on NCT to start with though I don’t know if we should just press on? DH thinks it would be valuable but hasn’t done as much reading yet, and says he’d be happy to do the reading to save the £300 if the social aspect isn’t going to happen.

As someone who’s been on Zoom calls non stop for the last 2 weeks with colleagues I think it’s a useful tool but no substitute for F2F, especially when meeting new people and striking up rapport.

WWYD? Is £300 for a bunch of phone numbers and sitting in front of a screen too much? Or is it all worthwhile even with the change of format? Before this I was feeling really pro the idea of classes as a first time mum.

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Megan2018 · 03/04/2020 13:05

My NCT friends are invaluable. I would still do it as you can still ‘meet’ them virtually.

Our Whatsapp in the middle of the night saved my sanity. It was worth the £

BrooHaHa · 03/04/2020 13:12

I wouldn't bother, personally. If you've done your reading, they won't tell you much you won't already know. Also, the NCT friends thing only really works if you have things in common outside of babies- my best mum friends were met through other means, though I do stay in touch with one NCT mum. Lactation consultant is a good shout though.

BessMarvin · 03/04/2020 13:17

It's a tricky one. With the ante natal nct classes you'll find some people say they are best friends, go on holiday together and some who say they had nothing in common. It's basically a lottery. Definitely worth it if they are the former and not if the latter. If only there was a way to know. (Probably no prizes for guessing which way it went for me.)

Doing it online is definitely harder I imagine. But it is the only way you are going to be able to have this chance right now.

Shmabel · 03/04/2020 13:52

I'd probably expect a discount for it being online. Mostly because, as you say, the benefits just aren't the same at all. You probably wont get much, if any, opportunity for talking to other mums on the call, and casual conversation wouldn't flow as well anyway. But you never know- it depends how much you're willing to pay for this potential.

I feel bad for the people whose business is running these classes, but their overheads are presumably lower because there's no physical class too.

I'm due July so I'm thinking through the same issues. I'm just hopeful that by the time baby is a couple of months, I'm able to take him to classes etc. I know it's not the most important thing right now, but I would prefer he didn't miss out. I don't know any local mum's at all, so don't want me and my little one to be Billy no mates!

Iris243 · 03/04/2020 13:59

Do it!

Class will be shit and rose tinted glasses but you will have a WhatsApp NCT group at least that you can chat to. Even if you don’t meet for a while- and I don’t see my NCT group much but I’m glad I’ve got them there to ask questions. We don’t necessarily have loads in common, I have my close friends anyway and having babies/toddlers the same age is enough!

On my little girls first birthday party they were all there and it was lovely.

So yes, basically you are buying friends but I personally would do it if you can afford it.

As a lot of baby classes/ children’s centres may be cancelled anyway I think it is a nice way to have that ready made group of people.

Lilice · 03/04/2020 14:01

I wouldn't do it or I would ask for a discount seeing they are not paying for rent, insurance etc. anymore. You will meet mums when you go to baby groups or baby classes. I did the nct class purely to meet people and we quickly lost contact within the first year. I'd definitely save the money and buy more stuff for the baby, or invest in classes like sensory classes or sing and sign etc where you will get the chance to meet people. As to the actual content of the course, what is happening with the nhs antenatal classes? Will it also be online?

Excitablemuch · 03/04/2020 14:11

I probably wouldn’t; NCT was not for me at all. I hide behind pillars in shopping centres from my group!

However, if you feel like you might be isolated when baby comes and not able to get to groups it might be useful!

Shmabel · 03/04/2020 14:15

I hide behind pillars in shopping centres from my group!
Haha Grin

Havifus · 03/04/2020 14:17

Currently going through through this, just finished my last virtual NCT class and being honest for me it was better than meeting in person (Please bare in mind I had 3 classes face to face prior) our leader was excellent and put us in small groups - still really got talking. We made a what’s app group straight away which I have found invaluable for advice, it’s great to have the extra support at such a hard time. I was find it tiring to go to the classes and with SPD just painful. Having the class on zoom for me had all the same benefits but I could be in the comfort of my own home.

CheriLittlebottom · 03/04/2020 14:20

I wouldn't. My group were ok but we met for coffee a few times (less than five) and then it fizzled out. The WhatsApp group was active for about three weeks after the birth of the last baby and then that stopped. I found it useful at the time but hadn't discovered Mumsnet then! Plenty of advice & handholds here instead.

babychange12 · 03/04/2020 14:24

I didn't find NCT lessons useful but the friends that I met through it was! I'm still in touch with them all even after 3 years. It's more of an expensive friend matching service I suppose.

Twinberry · 03/04/2020 14:26

I would cancel. As long as this continues you won’t be able to meet up with the group in person anyway - and you can chat to a bunch of people you’ve never met online for free rather than paying £300 to do it.

sienna14 · 03/04/2020 23:15

OP , there is a clause in the contract where it says that if the course needs to be changed and it’s no longer suitable for you, they will give you the money back, inc those 30 quid. You might need to insist a bit but we did get our money back and our courses where meant to start tomorrow.

whatswithtodaytoday · 03/04/2020 23:19

My NCT friends are invaluable, I'd happily pay to make friends again. The classes were more useful for my partner than me, and it's all irrelevant once you have your own baby anyway.

You might not be able to meet up now, but you will eventually. And the WhatsApp group might just keep you sane while you can't go out.

ScienceNut · 03/04/2020 23:21

For the contacts with other mums local and in the same situation as you I would pay £300.

My NCT friends are still me best mummy friends 5 years on.

Grainedesesame · 04/04/2020 04:33

I've faced the same dilemma as you. I'm due late July and had booked NCT in london for June. We've decided to cancel based on the fact that it would have probably been hard to create connection over a Zoom and what's app group where people never met in person before. I will probably try Peanut app instead.

DappledThings · 04/04/2020 10:22

My NCT friends are invaluable. I would still do it as you can still ‘meet’ them virtually

Our Whatsapp in the middle of the night saved my sanity. It was worth the £

Exactly what I would say. It's been more than 4 years now and there's a few hundred miles between some of us but the WhatsApp group is still there and still a great bit of support.

springiscoming12 · 04/04/2020 10:26

I was in the same position as you OP and I decided to cancel. I think that it is unlikely that I would have kept in touch with the other parents as we wouldn’t have met in person. I was also doubtful that the content would have been as good if weren’t there.
I’m going to look for baby groups and other activities I can do once the baby is here and hopefully I’ll get more out of them.

BessMarvin · 04/04/2020 10:34

It's also worth looking at the post natal early days course if classes are back to being in person by then. Again you meet mums with babies of a similar age.

2020Aug · 04/04/2020 16:23

I've decided to keep mine, I'm also due in August and meant to start in May. I've heard positive things and still think it will be nice to meet people virtually. They are all currently in the same boat being at home, pregnant during a pandemic so I imagine everyone will be really pleased to meet people, even if it is virtually.

PatchworkElmer · 04/04/2020 16:32

I wouldn’t bother personally- I did NCT but made my ‘mum friends’ elsewhere. I didn’t learn anything there that in hadn’t already learned by reading a bit myself- in fact, I learned more from MN. I agree that it would be hard for a group to properly bond over Zoom.

Hannahbobs · 24/06/2020 22:08

How have you found the online NCT classes now you may have completed them/had babies/been in contact with the other mums?
I'm not due until December but my class has just been moved online and I'm pondering what to do...

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