To not want to attend antenatal appointments??

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Im 30w and I know they're really important but I am just so terrified to go to my hospital or midwife because of Covid. I went a few weeks ago for a growth scan and even wore a mask as I was so petrified and my partner has an autoimmune disease. I had to face the countless questions, dirty looks and mockery of general public around me and honestly the whole thing was a bit of an ordeal.

Luckily baby was fine at my growth scan, but there's just so much anxiety surrounding it all. What makes it worse is the fact me and my partner don't drive so I'd be relying on my mother to take me, which ofcourse opens up it's own problems with regards to social distancing etc.

My pregnancy is considered moderately high risk, as I've had previous cesarean, I have low-PappA and I've got a bit of a low lying placenta. Whole thing is making me so nervous I'd rather just not go to any more appointments except for my pre-op and csection, but I know that's a bit irresponsible and I'd have a niggling worry. My partner says he doesn't feel it's necessary and while I agree with him I ofcourse just want to do what's best. My midwife was quite harsh on the phone when I told her I couldn't attend my last appointment because we were self isolating at the time. So I know I'll probably get a bit of an unapproving mouthful.

I just can't stop thinking of going out, bringing covid home and putting my partner and son at risk.

I suppose my question is what would you do? Do I need to just suck it up for the sake of the baby?

I'd go, especially if your pregnancy is considered risky. Wear gloves and a mask. It might have made you an object of ridicule a few weeks ago, but it's actually quite common now. Some countries are even encouraging mask wearing.

I know you want to be as safe as possible, but I think the chances of you catching covid at a scan are quite low, where there aren't that many people, hygiene is always important, and they'll be taking extra precautions with who can come in etc.

Your midwife shouldn't have had a problem with you missing an appointment to self isolate though. That's harsh and wrong of her if you thought you might have covid.

Hi, I have a high risk pregnancy as well. So still have to go to some appointments. If it helps at all, I went to a 28 week appointment last week, the waiting room was entirely empty apart from me and no one else was allowed in until I had moved into the room with the midwife. The receptionist had the front door locked so no one could get in either. I was instructed to wash my hands on entering the surgery and also had to hand gel then.

Similarly I went to a scan last week as well, and only two people were allowed in the waiting room at any time so very limited contact.

So I think the precautions they are taking are pretty high and I felt safe.

That sounds really good @LH1987. I'm 23 weeks with an appointment coming up so I hope my hospital is the same.

Ive recently had a 36 week scan and 36 week mw appt and felt really comfortable and secure in the hosp.
Maybe wrongly. But it didnt feel scary. Everyone respectful of huge bump and social distancing and you would not be frowned upon for taking whatever steps u felt u needed to re mask or gloves.
I think its best you go but i understand the dilema.
At 37 weeks i just only want to be safe at home.