Am i doing the right thing?

[Pauline91]

Hi guys, I am new to this but as my recently discovered pregnancy is still a secret i am turning to you lot for some help please! I am 27 this year and just found out i am around 5 weeks pregnant This was very un planned and a total shock but at the same time were both really happy and exited. I myself have Crohn's disease and take immune suppressants which means that i am now following government advice and 'shielding' due to coronavirus. I have spoken to my GP and now waiting to hear from the midwives and my specialist nurse. However, I can't help but feel that people will think I am stupid for falling unexpectedly pregnant whilst i am already going to have a complicated pregnancy with my medical condition but also because we are now in the middle of a pandemic. Will the nurses etc just think I am a problem or am I just letting the worry and panic of coronavirus take over ?

Congratulations, a Lot of pregnancies are unexpected, noone will think badly of you. It's your body, you know it best and if your ready for a long possibly difficult 9 months then that's your choice and everyone else should mind there own business midwifes definitely won't think badly of you.

Im pregnant with my 3rd, I suffer from horrible sickness and end up in hospital loads during the 1st 16 weeks, Ive also had 2 horrible births (another story all together) and when I told everyone I was pregnant they was a little judgy '' but you get so ill'' &' 'don't you learn'' kinda crap but it didn't last and what they think don't really matter anyway lol

enjoy the islation period and sleep as much as you can cause you'll never sleep again once this baby comes lol

Congratulations to you! I'm 17 weeks pregnant with our first which was a surprise baby. We've had to move trust for personal reasons in the midst of this pandemic about 3 weeks ago, and the midwifes in both trusts have been incredibly supportive even when I've felt awful for adding an extra pressure or burden. I cant imagine people will think badly of you and it's your personal decision to have a baby, and you're aware of the risks.

I'm enjoying isolation more now than I was 3 weeks ago, I'm able to rest when I want and me and my husband are enjoying quality time together more than ever before. It was something we worried about as we haven't really ever gone on loads of holidays together and we're quite bad at making time for just us so its lovely to have it before our baby comes.

Xxx

Congratulations to you both!!

@Yupimahelecopter Oh sorry I hope your feeling better soon, no very true other people's opinions don't matter there not the ones having your baby.

My specialist nurse phoned this afternoon and was lovely, as she always is, but it really made me feel better. Reminding me that my Crohn's is so well managed and we've had it controlled for years and that coronavirus won't be here forever but our baby will be. Yes the world is a little crazy now and these next few months may be tough but won't it be so worth it when we come out the other side?! Yes, i'm going to look at the positives we have some really lovely news to share with our families, we've chose to wait until we can see them in person if we can, I can relax and take lots of naps while i am not at work and stuck indoors and should i suffer any early symptoms I will be in the comfort of my own home. So far I feel fine other than my boobs so I'm hoping it continues this way. I have also just been reminded that people are going into labour whilst this coronavirus nightmare is ongoing hopefully when it's our turn things will be a little better. Thank you I think I just needed to share my feelings to make me feel better xx

Hey I'm glad sharing made you feel better 😊 if you ever want to chat my inbox is open..best of luck on your pregnancy journey xx

Congratulations! I have ulcerative colitis and on immunosuppressants and am 20 week pregnant. You will be under a midwife and a specialist consultant who are very knowledgable in your disease. you can still take your meds up until the 3rd trimester.

They have also been very accommodating and changed my scan to 8am so there wont be lots of other people in the waiting area.

I dont really see why anyone would think you are stupid for getting pregnant at this time, it makes no difference you just have to be more careful.

Good luck with everything.

congratulations @Amichelle84 !!

I have a consultant already at the hospital who I see maybe once a year along with a specialist nurse who i see for regular blood tests and prescriptions i'm hoping they will just continue this alongside a midwife.

Oh that's good then. I don't know about you but one day i'm really calm and rational about things then the next day I will be worrying like mad thinking I can't leave the house and will this all be over by the time i'm due. I think i would be like this pregnant or not though it's just the uncertainty of it all that i struggle with. My partner is a key worker at a hospital too and I then worry about him while he's out.

Yeah i just keep reading things online, i shouldn't i know. I just don't want to burden the hospital the nurses the doctors etc when there so busy trying to fight coronavirus. I was training to be a nurse myself before I got Crohn's so I know this won't be the case and they will be totally supportive and non judgmental regardless of how hard their job is they are always amazing. Most my family and friends are nurses and I know they will be happy for us, when we eventually tell them.

For now I am going to take each day as it comes living in my little home bubble, try to just keep calm and relax until it's all over.

Thanks & stay safe, good luck to you also x