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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Late pregnancy loss 27weeks handhold please?

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Piecrust32 · 02/04/2020 20:09

Sadly I lost my baby at 27weeks today
No idea why yet

Starting of the induction on Saturday can some one please tell me what I can expect please?
And anything I should take with me ?

Many thanks I'm at a complete loss of how to organise and sort myself out for the weekend xz

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Snaleandthewhail · 02/04/2020 20:10

I am so, so sorry. Others will be able to offer more practical advice, but here for a hand hold.

babysnowman · 02/04/2020 20:10

I have no advice on what to expect but am so so sorry for your loss Thanks

Namechangervaver · 02/04/2020 20:11
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Asianchick6693 · 02/04/2020 20:19

Here for you Flowers

AvocadoLovingMamaOfOne · 02/04/2020 20:21

I have no advice but I just wanted to say that I am so so sorry for your loss Flowers I cant imagine what you must be going through right now

Gerdticker · 02/04/2020 20:33

Thinking of you x

vinoelle · 02/04/2020 20:36

I’m so so sorry, how truly awful. I imagine their are no words. All the best thoughts to get you thru Flowers

IHateCoronavirus · 02/04/2020 20:40

I am so sorry you are going through this. Flowers
I will be open and honest to help you prepare.
My baby was still born in 2015 at full term. A friend I met through a support group lost her baby at 24 weeks.

Take each moment as you can. And if all you can do is breathe that is good enough for now.

They will probably put you in a special and lovely room that they use for bereaved parents and you will be able to spend time with them later if they is what you wish to do. It is likely to be on the maternity ward so they can care for you as they need to. Sad

To take. Take something to wrap your baby in, maybe a change or changes too so you can care for them and take pictures to cherish in years to come. Take a teddy or something you want your baby to keep. Maybe something you can leave with your baby while they are waiting for their funeral, and you can then keep knowing it was with them. This may bring you comfort down the line. I have a blanket my daughter was wrapped in and it still smells of her, such a sweet pretty smell. Some hospitals have people who knit tiny baby clothes for precious babies born too soon.

I have a necklace with half a pendent and the other half was buried with her. This also brings me peace, it might be worth thinking of something along those lines.

Take lots of pictures and cherish every moment. Take as long as you need. They will probably provide a cold cot to rest your baby in to allow you to spend extra time with them as you need.

I found the Labour was actually quite lovely in parts. Sad but beautiful. The midwives were amazing.

There was a special bereavement midwife who came to speak to us and tell us of support available but I was in too much of a state to take anything in.

The hardest part of all was going to the bereavement services in the hospitsl and having to talk about what we wanted to happen with our daughters body, it never occurred to me that we would ever need to do such a thing. Our choices were private burial/cremation or the hospital would take care of it for us. If the hospital do it they normally wait for three people together and the grave remains unmarked, so give it thought. Initially we wanted the hospital to take care of it because I couldn’t even process what was happening and was daunted by trying to organise something like a funeral but in the end we did it ourselves and it was fine. We managed, we got through it. Five years ago I never thought I would get through the next day, week, month let alone year.

Allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel. SANDS and CBUK are beyond brilliant in the support they give. Reach out when you feel the time is right.

Sending you and your baby much love BearStar hoping for a birth which brings you the most comfort in the years to come.

Catlover10 · 02/04/2020 20:50

I am sos sorry how awful! Hope you get the answers you need as soon as possible Flowers

dixiedoodle · 02/04/2020 20:58

I'm do sorry this is happening Flowers
I birthed our 21wk baby and agree with everything ihate said.
We were welcomed into the suite by a midwife. Ours was medical room, hospital bed, oxygen, buzzer but it also had lots of home comforts, lamps, a sofa, nice furnishings. The midwife briefed me and husband on what would happen. I asked her to be subtle untill my husband left and at that time I asked a few more practical questions.
With regards to the actual induction procedure, mine was started with some tablet hormones and I had this again 4(?) hours later. The contractions didn't start right away and were very mild but increased in intensity. I wore a long vest top and baggy trousers so just take comfy clothes. I used gas and air for some contractions. You don't mention if you'd ever experienced a labour before but I hadn't and looking back I sort of retreated into myself as my labour progressed.
My daughter was looked after by the midwives untill I was ready to see her and then we spent time together.
You might want things to comfort you, food, body wash, lip balm, hand cream. You'll need maternity pads as you'll probably loose some blood for a few days.
Sending you lots of love @Piecrust32

peachypetite · 02/04/2020 21:00

So sorry @Piecrust32 this is heartbreaking.

Piecrust32 · 03/04/2020 09:40

Thank you every one ❤ much comfort I've found from your words xxx

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