Is it bad that I don't talk to my bump??

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I've had so many people ask me "Have you started talking to her yet? Have you read her any books? She'll get to know your voices!" and my first reaction is to kind of cringe... I know she can hear me and hubby in there but it's not like she can understand a word we're saying plus she'll learn our voices just from us having normal conversations, right? I'll definitely be talking and reading to her when she's here of course.

Am I a horrible person for thinking it's silly?

No you’re not a horrible person at all, I was totally the same, found it completely odd and never ever did it! Equally my partner never ever felt compelled to sit and hold my stomach whilst she moved which I was glad of too!! I feel people put way too much emphasis on “bonding” with their unborn child, you carry her around inside you everyday, trust me she’ll know your voice

Not at all!! My baby knows my voice, he hears it all the time. My wife talks and sings to him sometimes but me not so much. I might say the odd little thing but not a lot.
If you don’t feel comfortable doing it, there’s nothing wrong at all with that so don’t let anyone make you feel guilty about it x

I don't even believe in reading books to tiny babies. I had some rag books (it was that long ago) and when they could take notice I would point to the pictures; so many began with b.......baby, ball, bath, balloon.....

Glad I'm not the only one that feels this way! Had so many people look at me strange when I've said that I don't directly talk to her. And yes, I agree with you @eddiemairswife I'll be reading to her when she's old enough to take notice.

We don't talk to our bump, the only way I "talk" is taking the mick out of the things their dad has done! And that's only for a laugh.. I just don't feel the need

No I dont talk to mine, i find it abit weird 😂
Sometimes when I've eaten a meal and feel like I'm gonna throw it up straight away I give him the old 'dont you dare.' (I have HG) 😂🤷‍♀️

Ive got 3 kids and never spoke to my bumps.
As long as you talk, it doesnt matter.
They don't know who you are talking to anyway.
I'm sure your not silent all day.

It’s amazing when they’re born and they do recognise your voice. But I’m sure little one will hear you and your partner all the time.
I did play “Here comes the sun” by The Beatles a lot to my bump, and once my baby was born he did soothe quickly when that song played. Might just be a coincidence though. xxx

I have four children, I never "spoke " to any of them when I was pregnant either.

I didn't do it. I talk a lot in my job, so no concern she wouln't know my voice... def felt weird, like I'd be doing it to "prove" myself, not fpr my baby.

I haven't been talking "to" the bump. DH has been talking to it in his language, to familiarise it, which is quite cute.

I never did it. I tried and felt like an absolute fanny.

@thetrinityisshite absolute same 🤣🤣 tried when I was on my own in the bath and just felt a tit and stopped immediately and won't be trying again 🤣🤣🤣

The only thing I say to mine is ‘what are you doing??’ When it feels like she’s having a rave in there and it’s making me uncomfortable 😂

Oh thank goodness it's not just me! Friends have asked if I am and I find the whole thing a bit weird/cringe. What do you even say?! I'm only 17 weeks so may feel differently as time goes on... But at the moment I'd just feel silly. I'm sure he/she can hear us regardless!

@mrs87 I just pretend I talk to it if someone asks, I say yes and move on 🤷🏻‍♀️

God no. She'll get familiar with the sound of my voice as I talk on the phone all day for work anyway. I had a friend who used to sing to her bump in front of me...criiiinge

I never talked to my bump . I didn’t even really love “it” . I was kinda annoyed when baby kicked me a lot . I loved the thought of a baby though but the thing inside me was an alien . I didn’t know the gender and that probably didn’t help . But when baby was born I was overwhelmed with SO MUCH LOVE for my baby boy .

No bump talk here either, I would feel like a total fanny

Not sure about DH, he hasn't tried it yet and I doubt he will. We he arrives he'll get sick to death of me nattering at him all day anyway 😬

Never bump talked, I mean if you talk generally they will hear you.

Nope. Never did- dis t see a need and still don't for me. If other want to- go for it but it's not obligatory.

I never talked to my bump either. Like PP I did try it but felt a bit of a fanny so never again. Baby will recognise your voice anyway, it's not like you're silent all day long!

Literally the only thing I say to my bump is “ooooft” it “come on kid” when he nails me in the bladder every 3 minutes!

I read it’s all amplified in there due to the amino so they can hear voices anyway! Same with music and why you shouldn’t actually put headphones on your belly!

I also don’t like/let DH rub my tummy! I’m not the family dog! He can put his hand there to feel the kicks but a single stroke and he’s off 😂

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I didn’t do this with any of my dc bumps. By the time I got to bump 3, I was already running after a toddler and preschooler, so no time for adding ‘talk to the bump’ to my list of jobs.

I don't usually talk to the bump. But I often have music playing and get a response (increased kicking) from some of it. Apparently this baby has a fondness for Rod Stewart.