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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Neverending Pregnancy Hell

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WritesAboutDemons · 02/04/2020 11:00

Hello. Sorry about the dramatic title, but I'm not in a good place right now.

My and my partner started trying to conceive In January. By the end of the month, I'd received a faint positive, and we were ecstatic. But a week later, I had a light four day period and the positive faded away. Oh well, we thought. No one really gets lucky on their first try.

But the pregnancy symptoms never truly went away. I kept waiting for my body to reset so that we could try again, and it never did. My boobs continued to feel like they were on fire and my once flat chest was full and heavy. I cramped daily on and off for weeks on end, all the way through February and into March. My favourite drink in the world tasted like dishwater. I had another light, four day period, and waited some more for my body to get the hint.

I'm now at what would effectively be ten and a half weeks. Here's the rub. The millions of home pregnancy tests I've done over the weeks since that positive faded have all been negative. I thought I got a faint shadow five days ago, but all since have been negative.

My main issue here is that my stomach has been GETTING BIGGER this whole time!! Me and my partner are beside ourselves, because I feel pregnant, I look pregnant, but can't prove it. With everything that's going on with the world right now, I'm not considered a priority. I've been back and fore to the doctors, asked for blood tests, ultrasound confirmation. No one will take me seriously. Every appointment ends with 'take another home test'.

We're thinking of renting an ultrasound from one of those companies who cater to mothers who want to get close to their child. But what would I see at ten and a half weeks?

I understand that no one here will have a magical cure all, but any advice you may have will be greatly appreciated. Being pregnant is supposed to be exciting. But how can I allow myself to emotionally bond with a baby that may not even exist?

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BabyDancer · 02/04/2020 11:21

Hi OP. I do feel for you as I decided to start TTC in January and haven't had a period since mid December. I felt pregnant and I had all of the symptoms but I got negative pregnancy test results. In the end I went to the doctor and requested a blood test mid February. I mentioned that my mum took a long time for her positive result to show and that seemed to convince the doctor. It turned out I was pregnant, but I was only 3 weeks along. I've never missed a period before and I'm still not sure what those pregnancy symptoms were caused by - but I just thought I would share my experience. I hope you get your answers soon as I know how horrible it is being in that 'unknown' phase for so long.

Darkstar4855 · 02/04/2020 11:24

What about a private ultrasound? Unsure if any clinics are still open but might be worth a google.

Juno231 · 02/04/2020 11:28

I second the private scan or ordering a home blood test kit? They're only £39 and take about 5 days to get a response.

I've definitely heard stories of people getting BFNs and only testing positive with blood tests like 10 weeks in so keep on fighting!

Liverbird77 · 02/04/2020 12:12

A baby would show up on a scan at this stage.
I had my nipt test at ten weeks and we could see her clearly.

WritesAboutDemons · 02/04/2020 13:07

Thank you all for your kind words and suggestions. I will look into these suggestions and not give up!

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LittleBoyJuly2020 · 02/04/2020 13:17

I'm 24 weeks and at 10 weeks my stomach wasn't growing at all so I wouldn't count that as a symptom but do you have nausea/sickness? Food aversions? Sore nipples? Tiredness? General yucky feeling?

If I were you I'd be doing what I could to find out asap as you'll need scans and blood tests soon if you are pregnant.

Is there an EPU near you? Might be worth calling them.

WritesAboutDemons · 02/04/2020 13:46

These are my concerns also. For reference, I've got a small frame and I'm borderline underweight. There are also twins in both sides of our family.

I was referred to an EPU through the NHS, but that was a waste of time because when I got there, I was told that bevause of corona virus, they can't do the ultrasound that they would normally do at this point yo dig further.

As for symptoms, generally I feel okay. But I fill quickly and get indigestion. When I take vitamins in the morning they come straight back up. I've gone off tea completely and my boobs never stopped being tender. I've got narcolepsy, so I'm tired all the time anyway, but im just generally feeling uncomfortable and tender.

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BabyB19 · 02/04/2020 17:16

Pay for a private scan. They're still open in my area and from the stress in your tone it will be the best £50 you've ever spent so you can either get excited and start getting organised or you can move on with your life and put it to bed ❤️ best of luck!

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