4 weeks pregnant!!! When are you telling people??

[Mrsjones30]

Ok with all this doom and gloom it's so nice to think about the future. I found out early last week I am expecting baby no 2!

My first baby I had 9 years ago as a teenager since then I've been to university became a theatre nurse, got married on 15th of March and managed to conceive on my wedding night!!!

So my boss knows because She has legal obligation to ensure my safety in my job role but when have you told people?

I have booked a private scan at 7 weeks and was going to tell the parents then.... but it's so hard to keep a secret...

What did you guys do?

Parent knew straight away as I had ivf and they knew about it and wanted to know the outcome, siblings got told after 7 week scan ( ivf clinic scan)
I’ve had 3 more scans since because of spotting. I’m waiting until the 12 week scan in mid April to tell everyone else x
When you tell people is upto you

I’m currently 11+6, my mum knew that day that I did the test, 2 close friends new by 6 weeks. And that was it. Then I had some spotting at 7 weeks and had to tell my boss because I needed to leave work to go to the EPU. So it then made it easier when the announcement came about pregnant women because my boss already knew and advised me to stay at home, where I’ve been since 9+5. I had to tell immediate colleagues to explain why I would be gone, otherwise I would waited until after the 12 week scan.

I've just been through IVF and tested positive 3 days ago. I've had 2 previous losses, one of which was 11 weeks. With those pregnancies, we told no-one at all. Not even friends or our parents (they live either abroad or 2hrs away), as planned to announce after 12 weeks.

For us personally, I couldn't imagine having to explain to people the genetic abnormalities that led to our 1st pregnancy loss. People don't know what to say, and it would be awful for them to have not heard about the loss and ask how the pregnancy is going.

Although it is exciting, we are well aware that this is only the very beginning and we have a LONG way to go. I will likely tell my mum earlier than 12 weeks, but certainly wont be mentioning it to anyone else at all. Social isolating makes it even easier to not mention it for several months.

I wouldn’t tell anyone till 12 weeks-having miscarried twice before (7/11 weeks), I would want to see the 12w scan first.

You are presumably not seeing anyone in your family/friends at the moment so you aren’t having to make up reasons for not drinking or falling asleep which makes it easier!

You ladies are all so strong 💪🏽

We told our parents right away. Close friends at 6 week scan and next lot at 8 week scan and we're almost 10 weeks. Will make it more 'public' at 12 weeks, the social norm. At the moment just relatively close friends and family. We used the risk statistics to guide us on this:

Heartbeat at 6 weeks: 4% risk

Heartbeat at 8 weeks: 1.6 % risk

www.verywellfamily.com/miscarriage-heartbeat-ultrasound-odds-2371536

I told no one until 14 weeks and didn't tell work until closer to 20 weeks. Started showing very late, so it wasn't hard to keep a secret.

I miscarries last year at 8+1 having seen a heartbeat. I'd hardly told anyone and when I had my mmc I ended up telling people anyway as I needed emotional support. I'm now 16+1 and still didn't tell most people until after my 12 week scan.

The people I work with guessed pretty much the day after I found out as I wasn't going for my smoke breaks. So I felt terrible about people at work knowing but not close friends/family so ended up telling them too

I had a loss early October and told people when I found out then too, the support I received without needed to spell out why was amazing which is why I have no issue telling people early as they'll support me either way x

Congratulations ☺️ I told my cousin and my best friend when we found out but that's it. We enjoyed it being our little secret. We didn't plan on telling anyone else until after our 12 week scan as we wanted to tell our children but not before then, but I ended up telling my boss at 10.5 weeks as she was talking about changes in my role from September and I felt bad lying when I knew I wasn't going to be there. The decision is entirely yours though, I know people who have announced the day they found out

I told close family and friends right away as I would definitely tell them if anything would have gone wrong. I started telling people one by one after 12w scan and trisomy risk confirmed as low.

Also a massive congratulations!!

Im currently about 8 weeks pregnant with baby number 2. I told my two best friends right away but I’ll wait until 12 weeks to tell anyone else .

With my first , I told all my family and friends right away . I told my boss at 13 weeks and announced it on social media at 14 weeks .

With both pregnancies I had early pregnancy scans too .

Before either pregnancy I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks ( missed miscarriage, baby never developed past 6 weeks ). I told a few friends I was pregnant and it wasn’t awkward telling them when I miscarried. I actually ended up telling my family and even work when I had a miscarriage so It’s not like I kept that a secret .

The reason I like to wait is because it doesn’t feel real for me until past the first trimester, like I don’t deserve the congratulations because the risk of miscarriage is higher. But I always give in and tell a few people because I’m too excited 😆!!!