Confused!!

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have just found out that I’m pregnant and we have been trying for a while (age 38). I thought I’d be over the moon but I’m now having these quite selfish feelings - do I really want a child etc? And how much it will change my life. I’m concerned that I’m not meant to feel that way. I only found out yesterday and had kind of decided in my head that I was just one of those people that wouldn’t be able to have kids. Partner very supportive and excited. I wish I felt the same!! Will this feeling pass? Or is this quite serious?

That's really normal! Please don't worry that there's something terribly wrong in how you're feeling, or that it indicates anything about how you'll be as a mum. Pretty much everyone has chunks of time when they think 'Wait... what have I done?' and that's completely normal and OK.

Thank you that means so much!!

Normal. We were TTC 6 months and it's all I've wanted for a lot longer, I found out I was pregnant and the initial shock and excitement was quickly replaced with doubt which made me upset. Can I REALLY do this?! I'm now 8 weeks and those feelings have long gone. It's a huge, life changing thing - we're allowed to be a bit scared! Congratulations x

I felt the same. I wanted a baby so badly it hurt and then when I got pregnant my feelings towards it really shocked me. Constantly thinking "What have we done? I can't do this. I don't want a baby anymore.", worrying about money even though me and husband are financially stable etc.

After a little while, I'd say when it came close to the 12 week scan, all those feelings went away and were replaced by excitement. That gets stronger when you start getting a bump and feel baby move, it's amazing!

Ok thanKs everyone this makes a massive difference! I’m very overwhelmed but these messages help soo much!

Totally normal ! You’ll change your mind when it sinks in, huge congratulations and make sure you come here to chat or talk to someone you know if you start struggling with intrusive thoughts etc 💕💕